Guest guest Posted July 2, 2007 Report Share Posted July 2, 2007 These people CARE ABOUT YOU -but i have the same thing-i get saddened sometimes that they requard me as a bit crazy and full of nonscience but then i meet others that know and understand and i feel ok-------one must accept that these people care and are concerned that you are travelling down the wrong road------you have to handle each person how you feel is best as it is your life and we can't judge-it is the same as asking them for advise-we ALL have our own point of view on everything as your friend s do-------and it is human nature to seek advise from those that will agree with us-----allways remember that you have evolved from their way of thinking and once thought like them but your experience showed YOU a different experience that you have grown to trust and accept-----------------however you didn't elaborate on your illness and perhaps you need to clarify what your illness is to get a clearer answer----- sometimes wholistic medicine needs to be married to more conventional medicine and your progress monitored by a professional for best results, using alternative therapies to bolster health and vitality-----again that is your own personal choice . We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love (and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2007 Report Share Posted July 2, 2007 Amen to this. These people are concerned about your well being. As I don't sit around and discuss PMS with my DH (because I'm afraid his eyes may roll out of his head) I don't discuss Back issues with my OB/GYN. choose who you speak to about what wisely. and pick your battles. You are very blessed to have many people who are so concerned that they would step out of their comfort zone with you for what they feel is your best interest. Love is the key and choosing who you speak to. IMHO! Jess - cheryl bullock Sunday, July 01, 2007 21:37 I Need To Vent ! These people CARE ABOUT YOU -but i have the same thing-i get saddened sometimes that they requard me as a bit crazy and full of nonscience but then i meet others that know and understand and i feel ok-------one must accept that these people care and are concerned that you are travelling down the wrong road------you have to handle each person how you feel is best as it is your life and we can't judge-it is the same as asking them for advise-we ALL have our own point of view on everything as your friend s do-------and it is human nature to seek advise from those that will agree with us-----allways remember that you have evolved from their way of thinking and once thought like them but your experience showed YOU a different experience that you have grown to trust and accept-----------------however you didn't elaborate on your illness and perhaps you need to clarify what your illness is to get a clearer answer----- sometimes wholistic medicine needs to be married to more conventional medicine and your progress monitored by a professional for best results, using alternative therapies to bolster health and vitality-----again that is your own personal choice . We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love (and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2007 Report Share Posted July 3, 2007 Hi Jess, I loved your email. A bunch of people have emailed me their opinions - and i loved your straightforwardness ... i really really did.... what was really interesting is the fact that you commented on the fact that i have a lot of people that care about me that they would discuss a touchy subject wiht me ... and its true .. i have many close friends who are like family - and they all come from different opnions and backgrounds... having said that - this might sound totally weird , but can you give me a little more specific way how to avoid subjects of discussion ? for example ... when my friend will ask " whats worng... exactly... " and then in the next sentence comes the obvious " did you get blood work? " " what kind of doctor did you see if you didnt get a blood test? " " what are you taking to help you? " .... how do you kind of not answer ? unless i just skirt the issue saying " im just feeling rundown " or something - and then people will just thikn im pregnant :) do i sound like a crazy girl ??? probably :) im just wondering - becasue i really did like your email, so seemingly you would have good advice thanks - Deb Jess Phillips <jessichka.p wrote: Amen to this. These people are concerned about your well being. As I don't sit around and discuss PMS with my DH (because I'm afraid his eyes may roll out of his head) I don't discuss Back issues with my OB/GYN. choose who you speak to about what wisely. and pick your battles. You are very blessed to have many people who are so concerned that they would step out of their comfort zone with you for what they feel is your best interest. Love is the key and choosing who you speak to. IMHO! Jess - cheryl bullock Sunday, July 01, 2007 21:37 I Need To Vent ! These people CARE ABOUT YOU -but i have the same thing-i get saddened sometimes that they requard me as a bit crazy and full of nonscience but then i meet others that know and understand and i feel ok-------one must accept that these people care and are concerned that you are travelling down the wrong road------you have to handle each person how you feel is best as it is your life and we can't judge-it is the same as asking them for advise-we ALL have our own point of view on everything as your friend s do-------and it is human nature to seek advise from those that will agree with us-----allways remember that you have evolved from their way of thinking and once thought like them but your experience showed YOU a different experience that you have grown to trust and accept-----------------however you didn't elaborate on your illness and perhaps you need to clarify what your illness is to get a clearer answer----- sometimes wholistic medicine needs to be married to more conventional medicine and your progress monitored by a professional for best results, using alternative therapies to bolster health and vitality-----again that is your own personal choice . We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love (and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2007 Report Share Posted July 3, 2007 i say.............wow...even the people i work with..............don't know why its called alternative....................because its not an alternate to something else it's more like an alternater in my vehicle...{WINK} or maybe alter-----------native...or all terra native so i get into disscussions.......sometimes on the ridiculus side....................but before answering...................i try to ask me for.............the best response...and wait......................most central theme is that alternat therapys breakdown or dissolve ages of barriers..................protective walls built by a fearing civilization........which can leave us chronically alone or lonely.............full treatment is a continuation of ;' all one' i know how you feel.....and have lost friends to a lot of prescription but i try to respond to something they have faith in.................dosn't matter what..........it might appear as blind even to you but faith is faith and it is not fear based....and if anyone in your environment realises that you appreciate what they have found in faith...............they will find better health and warmth in your alternative ouutlook........ps,,,,,,,,,,,,,,you can't take everything seriously about alternative therapies......i looked up alternate life styles on the internet....and......used that as an outstanding example of what i thought alternate ment........................until i examined..i conclude my own conclusions..............................my only rule...........if i can help............sometimes cautiously.....................but to find the harmony in the disharmony.....ty ....happy fingers and toes rod helfenstein; crescentwrench2003 Be smarter than spam. See how smart SpamGuard is at giving junk email the boot with the All-new Mail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2007 Report Share Posted July 3, 2007 Deborah, you do have a right to medical privacy, even with your friends and family. We think that because someone asks, we have to answer. You don't have to answer. They are showing their concern by asking, but they are also being rude by asking. Interesting dilemma, isn't it? You don't necessarily have to be rude in not answering. You can thank them for their concern and tell them, perhaps, that since this subject seems to evoke such a stressful reaction on their part, that you won't trouble them any more with the details, that their love and concern are truly appreciated and enough. Toni On 7/3/07, Deborah Litvin <gubertush wrote: > > Hi Jess, > I loved your email. A bunch of people have emailed me their opinions - and > i loved your straightforwardness ... i really really did.... what was really > interesting is the fact that you commented on the fact that i have a lot of > people that care about me that they would discuss a touchy subject wiht me > ... and its true .. i have many close friends who are like family - and they > all come from different opnions and backgrounds... > having said that - this might sound totally weird , but can you give me a > little more specific way how to avoid subjects of discussion ? > > for example ... when my friend will ask " whats worng... exactly... " and > then in the next sentence comes the obvious " did you get blood work? " " what > kind of doctor did you see if you didnt get a blood test? " " what are you > taking to help you? " .... how do you kind of not answer ? unless i just > skirt the issue saying " im just feeling rundown " or something - and then > people will just thikn im pregnant :) > > do i sound like a crazy girl ??? probably :) im just wondering - becasue > i really did like your email, so seemingly you would have good advice > > thanks - > Deb > Jess Phillips <jessichka.p <jessichka.p%40gmail.com>> wrote: > Amen to this. > These people are concerned about your well being. As I don't sit around > and discuss PMS with my DH (because I'm afraid his eyes may roll out of his > head) I don't discuss Back issues with my OB/GYN. > choose who you speak to about what wisely. and pick your battles. You are > very blessed to have many people who are so concerned that they would step > out of their comfort zone with you for what they feel is your best interest. > Love is the key and choosing who you speak to. > IMHO! > Jess > - > cheryl bullock > <%40> > Sunday, July 01, 2007 21:37 > I Need To Vent ! > > These people CARE ABOUT YOU -but i have the same thing-i get saddened > sometimes that they requard me as a bit crazy and full of nonscience but > then i meet others that know and understand and i feel ok-------one must > accept that these people care and are concerned that you are travelling down > the wrong road------you have to handle each person how you feel is best as > it is your life and we can't judge-it is the same as asking them for > advise-we ALL have our own point of view on everything as your friend s > do-------and it is human nature to seek advise from those that will agree > with us-----allways remember that you have evolved from their way of > thinking and once thought like them but your experience showed YOU a > different experience that you have grown to trust and > accept-----------------however you didn't elaborate on your illness and > perhaps you need to clarify what your illness is to get a clearer > answer----- sometimes wholistic medicine needs to be > married to more conventional medicine and your progress monitored by a > professional for best results, using alternative therapies to bolster health > and vitality-----again that is your own personal choice . > > > We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love > (and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 How 'bout " I love it that you care, I'm working on it " " Still putting the pieces together, it's not fatal " " Let me get back to you " " Still figuring it out " " Details are in the making " " I'm taking my time deciding on that answer " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Good question! I have the same problem. Mostly I just try to avoid ALL discussions of my health. If the subject comes up, I usually just answer vaguely, like: " I'm doing a couple different things, exploring all my options. Thanks for asking; I appreciate it! " And leave it there. Perfect example: my dog has a tumor in his belly, and I'm not sure I want him to undergo surgery (he's kind of old already). So I'm treating him with Chinese herbal medicine, supplements, reiki, etc. The very first person who I told about his " alternative " treatment said skeptically (almost angerly): " And how do you know this is going to help him? " I thought: here we go again. My reply was something along the lines of: " I'm exploring all my options and this certainly can't hurt. And if it helps, all the better! Thanks for asking! " And I changed the subject. I guess what I mean to say is, sometimes you can't avoid the subject. And if it comes up, and you aren't in the mood to have to defend your choices, you can try to find a quick answer, like " exploring all my options, " and then end the discussion of that topic by thanking them for their concern. (Because, yes, they do care!) , Deborah Litvin <gubertush wrote: > having said that - this might sound totally weird , but can you give me a little more specific way how to avoid subjects of discussion ? > > for example ... when my friend will ask " whats worng... exactly... " and then in the next sentence comes the obvious " did you get blood work? " " what kind of doctor did you see if you didnt get a blood test? " " what are you taking to help you? " .... how do you kind of not answer ? unless i just skirt the issue saying " im just feeling rundown " or something - and then people will just thikn im pregnant :) > Deb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2007 Report Share Posted July 5, 2007 ---i can see nothng wrong with blood tests and i would hope they can give some answers there should be nothing conflictual about holistic approach than to other so called standard approach simply a reliable method should be choen to give the best effect ... p In , " Deborah " <gubertush wrote: > > Dear friends, > I must vent. > > All my life i always believed in the natural way of healing such as > using supplements instead of anti-biotics. Thank G-d i have never had > a problem and have had 100% success. > > I visit a chiropractor / knesiologist and she is brilliant and > amazing and she keeps me in tip top shape when i need an extra boost. > > My problem is the world around me. I recently got pretty sick and > have been taking the " longer but shorter " route by resting, and > taking the proper vitamins and doing all that was recommended. All my > friends and family know that im still " recovering " since all my > originally scheduled plans have been cancelled, and i have found it > very difficult to lie or bend the truth on what was wrong with me and > what im doing to get better. > > Through conversations it always comes out that instead of getting > standard blood tests, my kneisiolgist has used muscle testing to > conclude what the problem was. As you can imagine most of my loved > ones cant understand how I can trust such a method and why its taking > so long for me to get better. I haven't changed what I believe; I > just find it hard to be honest with my friends for I know what kind > of attitude I will get in response. > > I am sure I am not the only one who gets " slack " from others on my > using alternative methods. How have you handled your friends / > family? Do you just lie, or tell them its none of their business? Its > so annoying and stressful to have to explain to people these things > for they don't understand and ultimately they think its not trustful > and crazy. > > Any suggestions on how to deal with these people? > > Thanks so much, > Deborah > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.