Message for Kev

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Dear Kev- the key to moving on and (the old clich'e ) finding oneself is to

improve your innerself --one step each day-----we have all had to move on at

some stage in our lives from what we thought was secure---- our first

experience is leaving home-yet years later we can barely remember what it was

like to be 16 or 18 and going out into the big world again-----------iam 51-fem

and have had to start over quite a few times---i think the nac is to love your

self----as no one else will if you don't------------- don't be egotistical about

it but respect yourself---- feed yourself with the things that interest you,

keep busy-----improve on what it is that is important-----such as fixing the

house ,the garden,,,,jstudy something and make time to go to places even if you

feel like crawling under a rock--you need to meet new people to open new doors

to different circles----join a club with something that interests you so you are

arouind like minded people----don't dwell on

what was-it will only depress you--in fact remember the good things that you

experienced from the relationship and don't dwell on the negative -it will only

make you bitter and frightened for your next relationships with all sorts of

people---------- the good things are what you want to remember when you are old

so practice now.

early forties is a good time to start to mould a new you------you have had

enough of life experience to know a bit but young enough to tackle new

directions-so savour the experience-----remember all things happen for a

reason---------you may still feel that that is poppycock but it is true----your

path has been cleared for you to open up to new things-----what you make from

the experience is entirely up to you---don't blame your misery on someone's past

actions---go forward-experience life and savour every minute-even the dull

ones----------stay possitive,be happy-don,t disscuss your misery with others

(UNLESS IT IS A CLOSE FRIEND) others have enough of there own stuff to deal

with and don't have time to listen to sad stories-create your own good vibe

story and good vibe people will be attracted to you...Allways practice good

things-no matter how the world seems----good attracts good-------, Follow the

paths you wanted to go along before marraige-if you wanted to

persue some passion or carreer then take it up----Find a few good friends you

can confide in when things are TOO MUCH but find an out let for your

fustrations---jogging, art,reading,a club- what ever it takes---------don,t

hunger for a relationship,,,or you will fall into one that will be for the

wrong reasons,it will come at the right time ----whenever it is meant to

be,take care of yourself first as you have to be together enough to take care of

the rest------that doesn't mean be selfish---------it means don.t neglect

yourself, have FAITH in the spirit , some call GOD,be your belief in Kharma,

cosmos or religion------all prayers or wishes are answered in good time--if we

all got everything the second we asked for it --------well where is the fun

in that-------respect all others,even those you believe to be on the wrong

path,,be kind to all those that are less fortunate than yourself,especially

those outside your family circle it will make you

realize how lucky you are to have food and shelter,,,,,some people have

absolutely nothing-it does-n,t mean you have to take the homeless home but

help where you can---it will also give you a good warm feeling to know that

someone has benefited by your existence and efforts----you will also meet

alot of loving giving people---most of them wil have little but give alot from

their hearts------find peace in your soul-----if you are troubled----join a

meditation class-----some yoga teaches meditation as well exercise and

spiritual development------most of all be true to yourself -- nuture your

spiritual growth and be humble--allow your ego to leave and be at one

with all things I hope this advice helps you in your reinventing your

self-----LOVE AND LIGHT

Most of all remember you allredy had all these answers inside yourself- you

just neede prompting...............

 

Kev <the_lion_au wrote:

Hi everyone!

 

By chance i found this group and hope that here i can find help to

either find or reinvent myself.

 

I'm 41 and after 18 years of believing i was loved by someone very

special i find myself raising our 4 kids alone. i know I slowly lost

myself over the years and i know until i'm happy with being me again i

wont be able to truly love or give myself to someone new.

 

I've been on my own [with my kids] since november 2005. What was has

ended. Difinitively. Not my choice but nevertheless the love thought

to be neverending has become finite.

 

" Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. To day is a gift and

that's why it's called the present "

 

I start again.

 

i don't know how to begin the process of finding myself again and

that's why i'm here.

 

Suggestions/advice/sharing of others experiences and how they began

again will be welcomed.

 

kev

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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