Enabling

[Guest guest]

Yes, Jessika -- enabling is also a hard habit to break (to use the

words from an old Chicago song ... it was Chicago, wasn't it?) I know

from experience how insidious it can be. I think both men and women

can easily become enablers because we so want to help. It's very hard

to back up, put your hands up and say, " Hey, I think this is your deal

and you need to handle it. "

 

We also have to come to terms with the fact that we feel empowered when

we " think " we're " helping. "

 

Good you're going to Al-Anon. Stick with it. You'll eventually

go " Aahhhh! OK, I think I see. " And alway, always question

yourself " Am I enabling " because enabling will be, for a while, your

first knee-jerk reaction.

 

Best of luck. What you'll learn at Al-Anon will be of great support to

you for the rest of your life.

 

Dede