My son has exteme anxiety about safety

[Guest guest]

my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle of

night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to aid

him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car he

won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

 

can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

 

heather anderson

[Guest guest]

The only thing I can think of is to stop putting on the news if he watches

or hears it on TV.

I also thought that he may be experiencing precognition or clairvoyance,

perhaps in his dreams and this may be a real warning.

I hope that there will be people who can advise you on this troubling

matter, that perhaps have solved such a problem.

One way to relax him is to drink a cup of chamomile tea before it gets dark

or if he will take it, chamomile in tincture form.

Peace,

Thyme

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

EFT will work wonders in this case. If you don't know how to do it, there

are many practitioners on this list and at the EFT site

www.emofree.com there is a listing of practitioners. Look at the list and

find someone that offers a free session over the phone. There are many that

do this. Also, a flower essence can help a Great deal. I make my own so

can not comment on which Bach remedy can help, though I do know his Rescue

Remedy will. There probably is a specific one that might be better suited,

and I bet someone on this list will be able to tell you which one that is.

The nice thing about Bach's over all the other essences is that you can

usually buy Bach in your local health food store, whereas you have to order

from any other company and wait for it to arrive.

 

Samala

Renee

 

----

 

My son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

Safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle of

Night and checks doors and such. Can anyone think of something to aid

Him? He starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car he

Won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

 

Can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

[Guest guest]

You have the beginnings of OCD with your son. There are ways to train

him out of it but, you need to start now. Get on line and start

researching it. Daphne

 

 

 

 

, " handerson4388 "

<handerson4388 wrote:

>

> my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

> safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle

of

> night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to

aid

> him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car

he

> won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

>

> can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

>

> heather anderson

>

[Guest guest]

this boy is reacting to something real or imagined that may have happened in

his life. If there was an incident he needs to work through that with

therapy. If it is imagined and he has a slight version of ocd then again he

needs professional consultant. It is likely that anxiety aids will not

suffice his dilemma. If you want to try something benign you can certainly

try some gaba but I suspect you'll eventually need to get professional help.

 

medusa

 

 

 

 

-

" handerson4388 " <handerson4388

 

Sunday, February 11, 2007 8:30 PM

My son has exteme anxiety about safety

 

 

> my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

> safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle of

> night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to aid

> him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car he

> won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

>

> can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

>

[Guest guest]

Hi

 

I second the advice on EFT this is quite an amazing healing tool

http://www.emofree.com

you may also like to try kinesiology to investigate what is causing this, he may

need some energy blockages cleared.

 

Regards

 

Caroline Hayes

http://www.alwaysnaturallygreat.com

Certified Organic Skin, Hair, Cosmetic & Personal Care Products

 

" If we want to move toward a low polluting sustainable society we need to get

consumers to think about their purchases " David Suzuki

 

-

handerson4388

Monday, February 12, 2007 11:30 AM

My son has exteme anxiety about safety

 

 

my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle of

night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to aid

him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car he

won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

 

can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

 

heather anderson

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

---a hypnotherapist --spiritual healer comes to mind possibly even eft

 

and better to do something about it now ...as i hvae heard that this

can manifest in other waystoo..

phill In , " handerson4388 "

<handerson4388 wrote:

>

> my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

> safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle

of

> night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to

aid

> him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car

he

> won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

>

> can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

>

> heather anderson

>

[Guest guest]

I have a son with OCD (age 18). Sounds like your son might have OCD.

To read more about it, try the OCD Foundation website. Also this site

has info on OCD and anxiety (plus info for parents, schools...) and

some good suggestions for how to talk to your child about it:

http://www.worrywisekids.org/

 

There's some good children's books on OCD too.

 

As to something besides prescribed medication to try for it, we used

inositol powder for quite a while and it worked well for my son.

Others have had success with it. Others haven't had success. And

some (very few that I know of, just hearing from other parents)

children seemed hyped up on it (or something) so parents discontinued

use. An article about inositol and OCD, including dosage (which for a

child you wouldn't want to go too high (18 grams for adults). Though

we were at around 13-14 grams or so (more on bad days) for my son when

he was 12 and he's a very skinny person. His OCD was really severe in

the beginning though.

 

http://www.homestead.com/westsuffolkpsych/Inositol_and_OCD.html

 

I haven't looked at the site yet but some parents (in an OCD group I'm

in) have talked about a nativeremedy (nativeremedies maybe) website

and a product called Pure Calm or Mind Soothe.... Hmmm...I *do* need

to look at that too, LOL!

 

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Exposure & Response Prevention

(ERP) are the recommended therapies for OCD but it can be difficult to

find someone to treat kids (or someone who actually knows what they

are doing!).

 

Sorry if I rambled a bit! Feel free to email me personally if any

questions about OCD since my son has it!

 

Chris in NC

 

 

, " handerson4388 "

<handerson4388 wrote:

>

> my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

> safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle

of

> night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to

aid

> him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car

[Guest guest]

thanks Thyme for your thoughful words

 

RSchl44964 wrote: The only thing I can think of is to stop

putting on the news if he watches

or hears it on TV.

I also thought that he may be experiencing precognition or clairvoyance,

perhaps in his dreams and this may be a real warning.

I hope that there will be people who can advise you on this troubling

matter, that perhaps have solved such a problem.

One way to relax him is to drink a cup of chamomile tea before it gets dark

or if he will take it, chamomile in tincture form.

Peace,

Thyme

 

 

[Guest guest]

thanks for your ideas

 

Renee <gaiacita wrote: EFT will work wonders in this

case. If you don't know how to do it, there

are many practitioners on this list and at the EFT site

www.emofree.com there is a listing of practitioners. Look at the list and

find someone that offers a free session over the phone. There are many that

do this. Also, a flower essence can help a Great deal. I make my own so

can not comment on which Bach remedy can help, though I do know his Rescue

Remedy will. There probably is a specific one that might be better suited,

and I bet someone on this list will be able to tell you which one that is.

The nice thing about Bach's over all the other essences is that you can

usually buy Bach in your local health food store, whereas you have to order

from any other company and wait for it to arrive.

 

Samala

Renee

 

----

 

My son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

Safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle of

Night and checks doors and such. Can anyone think of something to aid

Him? He starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car he

Won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

 

Can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Don't pick lemons.

See all the new 2007 cars at Autos.

 

 

[Guest guest]

I think the Bach Flower remedies would really help. They do work and given

time will help a lot'

Here is a site with all of them and what each one is used for. It is better

than putting a child on psyche meds. I would give it a good try.

_http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/remedies.htm_

(http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/remedies.htm)

 

Peace, Thyme

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

, " handerson4388 "

<handerson4388 wrote:

>

> my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

> safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle

of

> night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to

aid

> him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car

he

> won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

>

> can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

>

> heather anderson

> You didn't say how old he is but i am concerned if you leave this

problem the boy will have accumilation of a few more serious problems

that won't be so easy to cure. Eft, bach remedies etc-----great

advice. i would also get some classes in some easy meditation

techniques so he can learn to do deep breathing and learn to relax-i

agree he is reacting to an experience----- even if it was a movie or

over hearing a conversation bout an event. If you let this slip---he

may form compulsive dis-orders,, anxiety, depression and even anti

social behavior, headaches, etc so seek out every thing you can and

remain calm,, just be gentle and reassuring but not over indulgent or

he may get confused with the attention he gets as a result of his

disorder and subconiously rely on his behavior to get attention...

however don't ignore it either-find a mid way balance, all shall be

well. my son had a similar thing, shortly after moving to the country

a neighbour told my 8 yr old about the yeti living in the forest-from

that day my son wouldn't sleep till 10 or 11 each night-screamed if the

light was off or door closed and was spooked by any noise-it went on

for years- i had to be tolerant and understanding and search out all

sort of ways to reassure him, eventually he grew out of it but it was

years. I have heard of eft having wonderous results and bach flowers

are great for shock, if the problem is from an experience or fear they

will help emensely --good luck

[Guest guest]

He is hyperfocusing on his fears and that is making it

worse.Rescue Remedy or Calms Forte may also help him

stay calm. However medicating him isn't going to

remove his fears. EFT and Biofeedback or hypnotherapy

might work.

 

Somwhere he got the brain cell imprint about safety in

addition to the cartoon. Although cartoons are an

excellent way to brain wash children and adults. Maybe

stranger danger programs at school..etc somewhow it's

all come together and he is hyperfocusing on it.

 

Have you taken him through the home and shown him what

you have done to help him feel safe? Had him help draw

up an evacuation map? Had him help lock up at night

before he goes to bed?

 

Is he having nightmares?

 

What he is doing needs some serious help as it can

manifest into something more serious.

 

Jenny Kernan

 

--- pjb12345uk <pho wrote:

 

> ---a hypnotherapist --spiritual healer comes to mind

> possibly even eft

>

> and better to do something about it now ...as i hvae

> heard that this

> can manifest in other waystoo..

> phill In ,

> " handerson4388 "

> <handerson4388 wrote:

> >

> > my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his

> home.also about

> > safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he

> wakes up in middle

> of

> > night and checks doors and such. can anyone think

> of something to

> aid

> > him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark.

> As for as the car

> he

> > won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

> >

> > can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

> >

> > heather anderson

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Anderson !

 

You have not mentioned about your son's age. However, you have faith

in homoeopathy, you can try. I am sanguine, your son has a genetic

problem. The problem is a negative thinker and has negative attitude

for which he is behaving like this. However, you give homoeo

medicine Natrum Mur - 1000c- 3 drops in every Monday and Thrusday

morning in empty stomach and Zincum Met - 200c - 3 drops daily at 7

p.m. You will find a remarkale change. When his night problem is

answered you can stop Zincum Met. However you can continue Natrum

Mur continuously for six months in the same manner as stated above.

Should there be any confusion, you can contact me on

subratadashomoeo

 

Dr. Subrata Das

 

-- In , " handerson4388 "

<handerson4388 wrote:

>

> my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his home.also about

> safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he wakes up in middle

of

> night and checks doors and such. can anyone think of something to

aid

> him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark. As for as the car

he

> won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

>

> can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

>

> heather anderson

>

[Guest guest]

I read that its common for children around 9=13 to have anxiety about safety

issues and safety of the family... accidents, death etc, I was like that when i

was about 9-13.

If its severe, it sounds like it might be OCD.

 

I have a daughter with OCD and her psychiatrist told me that OCD is caused by

anxiety and the underlying cause is often depression. The usual treatment for

OCD is anti depressive meds.When i heard that, I started taking St johns wort,

because I had problems with obsessions,,, and the obsession went away. It was

such a relief,

 

Take your child to someone who can help you,,, while he/she is young, because

theproblem is that, along with the obsessive behaviour is their thought

patterns can become " set " ....much like a needle sticking on a record...hope

things go ok for you,

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Yes, Bach Flowers will help a lot. And the links given are very good.

But if you are interested in learning the Flowers in the form of an

online course (lessons), here is a link:

 

http://floweressencesintro.onlinecourse.com/

 

It is a FREE, non-credit course. Join and see for yourself whether it

is useful.

 

Swamy

 

, RSchl44964 wrote:

>

> I think the Bach Flower remedies would really help. They do work and

given

> time will help a lot'

> Here is a site with all of them and what each one is used for. It is

better

> than putting a child on psyche meds. I would give it a good try.

> _http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/remedies.htm_

> (http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/remedies.htm)

>

> Peace, Thyme

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

yea he hleps us lock up and we have an alarm and make sure all windows are

locked and i console him upon waking from nightmares and so on..maybe ill try

some of that rescue remedy stuff again..it didnt' work before maybe since he's

off meds now it might work? hmm

 

Jenny Kernan <rainysnana wrote: He is hyperfocusing on his

fears and that is making it

worse.Rescue Remedy or Calms Forte may also help him

stay calm. However medicating him isn't going to

remove his fears. EFT and Biofeedback or hypnotherapy

might work.

 

Somwhere he got the brain cell imprint about safety in

addition to the cartoon. Although cartoons are an

excellent way to brain wash children and adults. Maybe

stranger danger programs at school..etc somewhow it's

all come together and he is hyperfocusing on it.

 

Have you taken him through the home and shown him what

you have done to help him feel safe? Had him help draw

up an evacuation map? Had him help lock up at night

before he goes to bed?

 

Is he having nightmares?

 

What he is doing needs some serious help as it can

manifest into something more serious.

 

Jenny Kernan

 

--- pjb12345uk <pho wrote:

 

> ---a hypnotherapist --spiritual healer comes to mind

> possibly even eft

>

> and better to do something about it now ...as i hvae

> heard that this

> can manifest in other waystoo..

> phill In ,

> " handerson4388 "

> <handerson4388 wrote:

> >

> > my son has extreme anxiety about being safein his

> home.also about

> > safety regarding me and Dad in cars... I mean he

> wakes up in middle

> of

> > night and checks doors and such. can anyone think

> of something to

> aid

> > him? he starts to worry as soon as it gets dark.

> As for as the car

> he

> > won't stop worrying until our seatbelts are on..

> >

> > can anyone think of something to ease his mind?

> >

> > heather anderson

> >

>

>

>

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Dear Heather, your post caught my eye...are you a Christian?...My children

went through this also.

This is my suggestion...kneel down and pray with your son at bedtime.

Encourage him to tell Jesus to take care of each concern one by one, until he

can't think of any more. Let him use his own words or to say, amen, or thank

you

Jesus after each one. Then, pray for the " ones he forgets " and ask God for

his strongest and mightiest Angels to watch over your house and car, and the

whole town, and everyone he loves. Thank Jesus for hearing and answering his

prayers. If he fears monsters, go to the front door, open it and command

all monsters to leave the house right now in the Name of Jesus. Do it with

authority. And say Jesus tells them to never come back. Then close the door.

You can also do this in his room. A child believes what the parents

believe, and you can assure him of your love and safety because of God's love

and

protection. Make this a little nightly ritual, and see what happens.

INJ

Athena

 

P. S. Maybe your son has watched a violent program, like Miami CSI. If so,

assure him that the blood is " ketchup " and makeup and that the actor is

alive, but pretending to be dead. Tell them the actors sometimes have to crack

up. You can go online and see " behind the scenes " of how that program is

made on the official website. Make up little plays together so he can

understand the concept of tv and movies. I don't know how old he is, but this

may

help. Everything on tv is worrisome now...Iraq, Lost, crime shows, reality

shows, cop shows, bounty hunter, mob shows, etc. Talk about how good always

overcomes evil in the end. And that is the message Kids of All Ages need to

hear

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Heather,

also about safety in cars...insist everyone belt up, say a short prayer

before driving, and always say thank you to God for his protection. Get a

symbol

like angel wings for your mirror (for when we forget to pray.) And have you

and your son place you hand on the hood of the car and pray that it will be

blessed and protected. Tell him that once is enough.

if you act happy and upbeat and confident, he will be, too.

I used to drive around with Benny Hinn the Master's Healing Touch

instrumental music in the car, and my girls said it felt like we were driving in

heaven

The sky always looked more magnificent, too.

INJ Athena

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

The two most effective things you can do for your son is one give

him Bach Flowers for fear " Mimulus " this can be obtained from your

local health shop. For more info on Bach Flowers you can go to:

http://www.bowentherapy.homestead.com/bachflowers.html

 

Or EFT as already suggested. You can apply this to your son yourself

if you choose. There also are instructions and a free one page

download of the technique on:

http://www.emotionalfreedom.homestead.com

 

These two things together will get rid of any fear that he may have.

 

I have used both for various fears of my own, as was much relieved

and surprised how quickly and effectively they work.

 

All the best

Diana Moore

New Zealand

http://www.cafepress.com/omsymbol

http://www.artbydianamoore.homestead.com

[Guest guest]

Heather,

That almost sounds like a touch of OCd, the poor kid!

 

The EFT quickstart presentation is now in the files of

the group, Please try it!

[Guest guest]

Heather,

That almost sounds like a touch of OCd, the poor kid!

 

The EFT quickstart presentation is now in the files of

the group, Please try it!

[Guest guest]

yes we are and we been praying every night at bed time...although this does

nothing to ease my sons fears..we will continue

 

HeiressArts wrote: Dear Heather, your post caught my eye...are

you a Christian?...My children

went through this also.

This is my suggestion...kneel down and pray with your son at bedtime.

Encourage him to tell Jesus to take care of each concern one by one, until he

can't think of any more. Let him use his own words or to say, amen, or thank you

Jesus after each one. Then, pray for the " ones he forgets " and ask God for

his strongest and mightiest Angels to watch over your house and car, and the

whole town, and everyone he loves. Thank Jesus for hearing and answering his

prayers. If he fears monsters, go to the front door, open it and command

all monsters to leave the house right now in the Name of Jesus. Do it with

authority. And say Jesus tells them to never come back. Then close the door.

You can also do this in his room. A child believes what the parents

believe, and you can assure him of your love and safety because of God's love

and

protection. Make this a little nightly ritual, and see what happens.

INJ

Athena

 

P. S. Maybe your son has watched a violent program, like Miami CSI. If so,

assure him that the blood is " ketchup " and makeup and that the actor is

alive, but pretending to be dead. Tell them the actors sometimes have to crack

up. You can go online and see " behind the scenes " of how that program is

made on the official website. Make up little plays together so he can

understand the concept of tv and movies. I don't know how old he is, but this

may

help. Everything on tv is worrisome now...Iraq, Lost, crime shows, reality

shows, cop shows, bounty hunter, mob shows, etc. Talk about how good always

overcomes evil in the end. And that is the message Kids of All Ages need to

hear