Guest guest Posted January 14, 2007 Report Share Posted January 14, 2007 Good Morning! The Power of Forgiveness " Forgiveness is the healing of wounds caused by another " . It is our choice to learn to let go of a past wrong and it is our choice to no longer allow ourselves to be hurt by it. Remove your ego from the equation. Now look at the situation. Does it appear differently? As it was so eloquently stated by Henry Ward Beecher, when someone says " I can forgive, but I cannot forget " , it is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Why Should We Forgive? The need to understand the power and place of forgiveness in our world is important in the healing process. It is urgent that we examine the steps that lead to justice and strengthen society. We need to understand how forgiveness improves the human condition. How do we choose to forgive? What are the effects of holding grudges and seeking revenge? We can find a way to balance our need for security with the potential for granting forgiveness. Forgiveness offers the possibility of two types of peace: peace of mind -- the potential healing of old emotional wounds, and peace with others -- the possibility of new, more gratifying relationships in the future. " The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. " - Mahatma Gandhi Author Larry James states " Forgiveness works! It is often difficult, AND it works! We often think of forgiveness as something that someone who has done us wrong must ask of US. There is always another way of looking at something. My thoughts on forgiveness suggest that you focus on offering forgiveness TO the person who has wronged you. To not forgive them is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn't do to you) and expecting THEM to die! " Alexander Pope once said, " To err is human; to forgive, Divine. " Believe it! Mr. James goes on to say " Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. It is simple. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself: " Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter? " If the answer is " No, " then that's it! All is forgiven " . " The secret of forgiving everything is to understand nothing. " - George Bernard Shaw Tools For Forgiveness The need to understand the power and place of forgiveness in our world is important in the healing process. See humility as forgiveness. Your own sense of peace and contentment are born out of forgiveness. How and when you forgive, reflects much of the way you view yourself and the world around you. Consider these reasons and tools for forgiving: 1. Our ability to forgiven is in direct proportion to our ability to receive forgiveness. 2. When we are able to forgive all parts of ourselves, this allows us to be that much more perfect and whole. This in turn helps us to forgive others for any past mistakes. 3. Remember: mistakes come from good people who from time to time made some bad choices. 4. Judgments, resentments and grudges are destructive emotions. When left unchecked, unresolved or not under control, they can wash away the foundation of any relationship. 5. A wake-up call is in order! Talk it out. Resolve issues, disputes and misunderstanding by expressing your feelings in a calm, well thought out, civil conversation. Preferably in person. 6. When we hurt ourselves we hurt each other. Learn to forgive yourself by releasing your guilt. Learn to forgive others by letting go of your ego. 7. Remind yourself that we live in each other's hearts and when we look at ourselves we see each other. When we love each other we love ourselves more. 8. Learn to understand the relief you gain from forgiveness. 9. Step up to the plate and speak your peace. 10. Forgiving is the ultimate in acceptance of yourself and others. It revels a path to our true selves. " Always forgive your enemies--nothing annoys them so much. " - Oscar Wilde Forgiveness Workbook This Forgiveness Worksheet or Life Workbook, is a great way to bring the power of your thoughts, good energy and a generous way to express your true feelings on paper. This journal can be used for writing down situations and how you have experienced them. These journals are good places to record your positive outlook, your goals for achieving a path to your truths and your daily affirmation. It can allow you to look at that information later for understanding inspiration and guidance. Tips for Understanding Forgiveness 1. Upon waking, write down the name of the person you are forgiving. Write down what it is you are forgiving them for. 2. It is a good idea to write words such as I am, I can, I will. 3. Write down your perception of the misunderstanding. 4. Jot down significant words/phrases, that signify your mindfulness, today. " My partner " , " my great career " , " my respect for myself and others " . 5. List what negative feelings you are still holding on to. Explain in your journal. 6. Now learn about the power of letting go of these feelings. Write down each day, something new that you find forgivenss in doing, seeing, saying, hearing... 7. Understand, it is now time to let go, which you will do by____________________. (write it down). Look at it periodically. What has positive impact on your thoughts? 8. Do you see failure as a stumbling block or a stepping stone to forgiveness? Find three things in forgiving that make it a stepping stone to the next level! List them now. 9. Be sure and write the time and day on the top of the page. 10. Make this journal your own! Buy or make a book that you are eager to go to each day. Use stickers, color, doodles that all express your journey to forgiving yourself and others. Andrew Pacholyk, MS, L.Ac. 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Guest guest Posted January 16, 2007 Report Share Posted January 16, 2007 a good website for this is _www.withforgiveness.com_ (http://www.withforgiveness.com) ..... very good for the soul to learn forgiveness.........i have begun my journey this month, myself,,,,,,,,,,, Peace, light, love,health, and harmony to all... AJP midnitepsychic South Florida _padrian954_ (padrian954) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2007 Report Share Posted December 10, 2007 I have always 'swallowed' what came my way - thus I forgave and moved on. I am very likely to forget. But the abuse continues. The disrespect continues. I offer the other cheek and it just gets slapped... How do you stop the abuse if forgiveness makes the forgiver open to more abuse. Forgiveness appears to enable the abuser. On 10/12/2007, yogiguruji <yogiguruji wrote: > > Good Morning! > > The Power of Forgiveness > > " Forgiveness is the healing of wounds caused by another " . It is our > choice to learn to let go of a past wrong and it is our choice to no > longer allow ourselves to be hurt by it. Remove your ego from the > equation. Now look at the situation. Does it appear differently? As > it was so eloquently stated by Henry Ward Beecher, when someone > says " I can forgive, but I cannot forget " , it is only another way of > saying, I will not forgive. > > Why Should We Forgive? > > The need to understand the power and place of forgiveness in our > world is important in the healing process. It is urgent that we > examine the steps that lead to justice and strengthen society. We > need to understand how forgiveness improves the human condition. How > do we choose to forgive? What are the effects of holding grudges and > seeking revenge? We can find a way to balance our need for security > with the potential for granting forgiveness. > > Forgiveness offers the possibility of two types of peace: peace of > mind -- the potential healing of old emotional wounds, and peace with > others -- the possibility of new, more gratifying relationships in > the future. > > " The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the > strong. " - Mahatma Gandhi > > Author Larry James states " Forgiveness works! It is often difficult, > AND it works! We often think of forgiveness as something that someone > who has done us wrong must ask of US. There is always another way of > looking at something. My thoughts on forgiveness suggest that you > focus on offering forgiveness TO the person who has wronged you. To > not forgive them is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for > what they did or didn't do to you) and expecting THEM to die! " > > Alexander Pope once said, " To err is human; to forgive, Divine. " > Believe it! > > Mr. James goes on to say " Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. > It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. > It is simple. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask > yourself: " Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter? " > If the answer is " No, " then that's it! All is forgiven " . > > " The secret of forgiving everything is to understand nothing. " - > George Bernard Shaw > > Tools For Forgiveness > > The need to understand the power and place of forgiveness in our > world is important in the healing process. See humility as > forgiveness. Your own sense of peace and contentment are born out of > forgiveness. How and when you forgive, reflects much of the way you > view yourself and the world around you. Consider these reasons and > tools for forgiving: > > 1. Our ability to forgiven is in direct proportion to our ability to > receive forgiveness. > > 2. When we are able to forgive all parts of ourselves, this allows us > to be that much more perfect and whole. This in turn helps us to > forgive others for any past mistakes. > > 3. Remember: mistakes come from good people who from time to time > made some bad choices. > > 4. Judgments, resentments and grudges are destructive emotions. When > left unchecked, unresolved or not under control, they can wash away > the foundation of any relationship. > > 5. A wake-up call is in order! Talk it out. Resolve issues, disputes > and misunderstanding by expressing your feelings in a calm, well > thought out, civil conversation. Preferably in person. > > 6. When we hurt ourselves we hurt each other. Learn to forgive > yourself by releasing your guilt. Learn to forgive others by letting > go of your ego. > > 7. Remind yourself that we live in each other's hearts and when we > look at ourselves we see each other. When we love each other we love > ourselves more. > > 8. Learn to understand the relief you gain from forgiveness. > > 9. Step up to the plate and speak your peace. > > 10. Forgiving is the ultimate in acceptance of yourself and others. > It revels a path to our true selves. > > " Always forgive your enemies--nothing annoys them so much. " - Oscar > Wilde > > Forgiveness Workbook > > This Forgiveness Worksheet or Life Workbook, is a great way to bring > the power of your thoughts, good energy and a generous way to express > your true feelings on paper. This journal can be used for writing > down situations and how you have experienced them. These journals are > good places to record your positive outlook, your goals for achieving > a path to your truths and your daily affirmation. It can allow you to > look at that information later for understanding inspiration and > guidance. > > Tips for Understanding Forgiveness > > 1. Upon waking, write down the name of the person you are forgiving. > Write down what it is you are forgiving them for. > > 2. It is a good idea to write words such as I am, I can, I will. > > 3. Write down your perception of the misunderstanding. > > 4. Jot down significant words/phrases, that signify your mindfulness, > today. " My partner " , " my great career " , " my respect for myself and > others " . > > 5. List what negative feelings you are still holding on to. Explain > in your journal. > > 6. Now learn about the power of letting go of these feelings. Write > down each day, something new that you find forgivenss in doing, > seeing, saying, hearing... > > 7. Understand, it is now time to let go, which you will do > by____________________. (write it down). Look at it periodically. > What has positive impact on your thoughts? > > 8. Do you see failure as a stumbling block or a stepping stone to > forgiveness? Find three things in forgiving that make it a stepping > stone to the next level! List them now. > > 9. Be sure and write the time and day on the top of the page. > > 10. Make this journal your own! Buy or make a book that you are eager > to go to each day. Use stickers, color, doodles that all express your > journey to forgiving yourself and others. > > Andrew Pacholyk, MS, L.Ac. > Peacefulmind.com > Therapies for healing > mind, body, spirit > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2007 Report Share Posted December 11, 2007 Forgiveness does not mean allowing abuse to continue. Forgiveness only means forgiving that which has happened--being able to let go of anger, resentment towards the abuser, self guilt for having allowed it to happen, frustration at the incident(s). And even being able to love the other person. That is the true forgiveness--when you can KNOW that they were acting from a position of unlove for themselves, because if a person loves themselves truly, they cannot not love others. But it does not mean that you stay in, or move into, a situation where you will be hurt over and over again. People misunderstand forgiveness. They think that by 'turning the other cheek' you stay in the situation and allow it to happen again. It means you move out of the situation and yet keep forgiveness and love in your heart towards that person--enough so that, hopefully, their heart will change, and that you do not judge the NEXT person by what the previous person has done. Praying for their enlightenment, for their own self love, for their own personal understanding is forgiveness. When you can pray for your enemies with real, honest love towards them in your heart--that is turning the other cheek. It is a hard thing to do--completely forgive someone that has hurt you. We THINK we have forgiven them, but when we look deep inside, we haven't. We really have to look deep inside, question our hearts and feelings. When you truly forgive, all burdens on your own heart are lifted. Forgiveness of others is an act of self-love for ourselves. But again--this does not mean you stay and continue to be hurt. That shows that you do not love yourself enough to protect yourself--that somehow you think you need/deserve this pain. It is being in this world, but not of this world. It is a hard concept to grasp, and it has not been explained or taught well. We think of forgiveness as staying--hoping for change--and allowing bad behavior to continue. Forgiveness is not about putting yourself into, or staying in, positions where pain continues or repeats itself. It's all about forgiving others so that our own hearts will be happy, no matter what has happened in the past. Good luck on your quest for understanding. Samala, Renee ---- I have always 'swallowed' what came my way - thus I forgave and moved on. I am very likely to forget. But the abuse continues. The disrespect continues. I offer the other cheek and it just gets slapped... How do you stop the abuse if forgiveness makes the forgiver open to more abuse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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