Guest guest Posted October 18, 2004 Report Share Posted October 18, 2004 My husband has a drinking problem.He used to drink beer 2-3 times a week after work, at home.Never going out to drink.Now, it seems that He needs to drink every (3) other day. He sleeps more than usual.Starting the end of july he complained about pain in his elbow and Hips.He does not want to go back to work. Symptoms:anger,irritability,quarrelsome,snaps,hatred, impulsive,without sexual desire,perspiration; profuse after walking,warmth of room unbearable,better riding in cold wind.... easily,symptoms follow intense emotions,increased appetite,obesity (265 pounds), after drinking wants to break things (throws ),talkative,cries when recalling past memories. Thank you, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 Alcoholism is a complex subject and usually is best approached on multiple sides. It isn't usually something that anyone can take a " pill and get cured " . It has a physical component and a mental component and they are connected. The people who are affected by someone elses drinking can not cure the alcoholic. The alcoholic must be the one to learn about alcoholism and himself to affect a remission. The others who are affected must learn about alcoholism and themselves. I suggest that you contact Al-anon to learn about alcoholism and for your own support. Here is a link to Al-anon. http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ It is not somthing that can just be read and it works. It requires attendance and participation. If your husband wants help he should contact the local AA meetings in your area. Nutritional support is also very important. You can self educate about nutrition and moods, behavior, addictions, etc. as well as sound nutritional understandings that will affect all areas of your lives. This site is the best place on the web to self educate oneself. There are over 24,000 articles in our archives. There is a links library to use for indepth study on specific issues. There is another online message board where the articles are broken down by category. All of these are listed at the bottom of every message from the group. There are 2000 members which can be a blessing or a curse depending on what kind of answers a person might receive. We do get about a hundred new members a month though, so we cannot take on the responsibility to personally educate each one from scratch. That is why the group is set up the way that it is, so that those that want to learn can. We have mountains of information. welcome to the group. Frank , " gsm726 " <gsm726> wrote: > > > My husband has a drinking problem.He used to drink beer 2-3 times a > week after work, at home.Never going out to drink.Now, it seems that > He needs to drink every (3) other day. > He sleeps more than usual.Starting the end of july he complained > about pain in his elbow and Hips.He does not want to go back to work. > Symptoms:anger,irritability,quarrelsome,snaps,hatred, > impulsive,without sexual desire,perspiration; profuse after > walking,warmth of room unbearable,better riding in cold wind.... > easily,symptoms follow intense emotions,increased appetite,obesity > (265 pounds), > after drinking wants to break things (throws ),talkative,cries when > recalling past memories. > Thank you, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 19, 2004 Report Share Posted October 19, 2004 As our work environment pays less and offers fewer perks and health insurance, there will be growing dissatisfaction and resentment. This trend will likely grow worse due to the changing job climate and outsourcing of jobs as well as influx of cheap labor. We need to adjust to the economic change by saving more money and becoming more careful about expenses and purchases. It is especially a bad time to take on debt. The government is setting in place a control grid which will track and potentially ostracize your husband if his alcoholism becomes documented. These are not times to indulge in weaknesses. It's easy to forget that alcohol is a dangerous, addictive drug and a poison. The line between recreational use and addiction is often a stressful event--better to abstain totally. Take a hard look at your expenditures. It may be necessary to get rid of the cell phone or to drive less. Once your husband is less dependent on his work income, he will feel more in control of his life. By tightening the belt severely for 6 months, you can get your debts under control. The obvious toxin to address is the alcohol. The described behavior while drunk is not unusual. The alcohol could result in actions which would ruin his life. He could even be prevented from flying or taking the bus--the olden days are gone, gone, gone. Big Daddy will get your husband it his pinchers and give him a bad color coding on the new national id card (internal passport) that was just passed by Congress. (We hired the former head of the KGB,Primakov, to advise us on designing this national id system.) Your husband is not alone is feeling life around him is a nightmare. Unfortunately, it could even get worse! He needs to stop all alcohol and to build his physical strength. Whatever can be done to save money and get on more stable footing for the days ahead will only help. Money saving ideas: put in a digital thermostat for heating the house,turn down the heat at night and use extra blankets, drive less, get rid of cell phone (you can have the number transferred to your home phone-allow a month for the transfer), look for a fruit stand or liquidator grocery to save on food costs, shop the dollar stores first and the thrift stores, stop eating and drinking coffee out, switch to basic cable TV, download Skype for long distance and pc-to-pc calls. I use Net2phone (available over the Internet) when calling from a landline phone or pay phone. With the pin number, you can call from any phone. Long distance is around ..04/minute. It's about the same to Europe. From a payphone is .07/minute, and you don't pay tax. Install water saver toilets and add water saving devices to sinks and shower, take shorter showers. If your husband finds the world upsetting right now, he certainly is in good company. Unfortunately, going to the doctor for help or sympathy may only result in a violation of his privacy--the notes could literally end up linked to his driver's license by way of a chip in the near future or he could end up diagnosed with a " mental illness. " If he threatens life while drunk he could literally be charged with terrorism under the Patriot Act and sentenced to death. The reality is he needs to cut back and get his life better organized and under control NOW. I'm concerned that he hates his work, so I hope he can cut back on expenses so he feels less dependent on his job. I know he can turn this around, but he has to realize that alcohol, even three times a week, is too much. The alcohol, a cultural habit, must go. It will totally disrupt his health and life in countless ways. _______________________________ Declare Yourself - Register online to vote today! http://vote. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 20, 2004 Report Share Posted October 20, 2004 The very best suggestion I could make for you, is to find some Alanon meetings nearby (a contact number should be in the phone book). The spouse and family is always affected by the Alcoholic, and support can be very helpful. You should be able to find the guidance, even friendships, that will make a difference in your life. We really can't change other people. I'm sure you'll find plenty of answers at the Forum about your husband's painful joints. Alcohol probably doesn't improve the situation, maybe even contributes to it. He may feel better when the alcohol hits, though. I may be jumping to conclusions about the possibility that your husband drinks alcoholically, but if you're concerned about his drinking, then Alanon may well be what you're looking for. Steve - gsm726 Monday, October 18, 2004 2:50 PM Help for My Husband's Problem My husband has a drinking problem.He used to drink beer 2-3 times a week after work, at home.Never going out to drink.Now, it seems that He needs to drink every (3) other day. He sleeps more than usual.Starting the end of july he complained about pain in his elbow and Hips.He does not want to go back to work. Symptoms:anger,irritability,quarrelsome,snaps,hatred, impulsive,without sexual desire,perspiration; profuse after walking,warmth of room unbearable,better riding in cold wind.... easily,symptoms follow intense emotions,increased appetite,obesity (265 pounds), after drinking wants to break things (throws ),talkative,cries when recalling past memories. Thank you, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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