Guest guest Posted August 22, 2003 Report Share Posted August 22, 2003 Hi guys, Okay, I've had Jamie on TT and Echinacea for 5 days now, and no change. He still shows the dark circles under his eyes. He didn't get a runny nose, although he has had more bowel movement - icky ones, some of them quite runny. He's also been quite tired, stopping to lie down on the couch, and not quite walking so much. He's been refusing to down his DMSO, which I used to give him in his juice in the morning, but now he just empties the cup on his (waterproof) picnic mat. He also doesn't always take his TN anymore - refusing to drink the juice that has it in it. I've added (soya) yoghurt to his diet, which he now eats in the morning (I thought the extra BM being related to the yoghurt). Today was the first time this week he had any bread, so I don't think the eye thing is related to the bread in any way. So unless he's allergic to organic chicken, or sprouted organic rice, I don't know where to look! Any other ideas? Doc, do you have any suggestions? love, Lisa - Lisa Belcher herbal_remedies Sunday, August 17, 2003 8:34 AM Dark under eyes Hi guys, My 5-year-old son is showing dark circles under his eyes which are a bit swollen. He sleeps fine - about 12 hours per night - so I doubt it's a lack of sleep. What else could be causing this? His diet is not very good at the moment, consisting of rice with chicken (sprouted and organic) and bread (organic) with tomato ketchup (organic). I know, but it's all he'll eat. I spent loads of money buying and preparing better foods, but he simply won't eat anything else. So I gave up, and let him eat what he wants, hoping he'll get sick of it soon, and move onto something better :-) I also give him TN in his juice, and he takes DMSO. He drinks store bought juice (organic) watered down (distilled water). And that's all. No sweets, no fruit, with only occasional peas as vegetables. About once a week I manage to get him to eat potatoes with carrots and fish. Oh yes, and I give him a Calcium/Magnesium drink each night after dinner. Is he lacking some vital nutrient? Or is this something else? Ms Lisa BelcherSunderland, UK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2003 Report Share Posted August 22, 2003 My hunch is he is pretty yeasty. I would not give him soy or any fruit or juice that is not fresh raw or fresh juiced. Store bought juice is pasteurized. Cow's milk or Goat's milk yogurt would be a better choice. Buy WHOLE milk and organic type. Not sweetened. Add a little stevia or fresh fruit to sweeten....dates are great to sweeten- fresh organic NOT suphured. It may take some time...be patient- you are doing great! Will he eat raw foods? I would let him eat TONS of fresh raw food all day- fruits mostly...some yogurt, flax, soaked raw nuts- organic....plus the TN in fresh raw juice- maybe in a yummy smoothie!. LOADS of water...avocados (fruit), bananas, melons, pineapple, berries, apples, nectarines, raw carrots....I have a 4 yr old and he eats these things...and nurses...and is in incredible health- non vaccinations or antibiotics and still nursing. Can you serve little to no grains? Millet is good instead of rice. You could try it. Also sprouted breads- very, very little. Hope something here helps. Love, Elizabeth On Friday, August 22, 2003, at 02:44 PM, Lisa Belcher wrote: > I've added (soya) yoghurt to his diet, which he now eats in the morning > (I thought the extra BM being related to the yoghurt). Today was the > first time this week he had any bread, so I don't think the eye thing > is related to the bread in any way. So unless he's allergic to organic > chicken, or sprouted organic rice, I don't know where to look! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2003 Report Share Posted August 23, 2003 Thanks Elizabeth :-) Sorry no, I just cannot get him eating any raw foods. I eat quite a few salads, but he won't touch them. He's totally gone off the fruit. He used to eat lots of bananas, but no more. I have tried other fruits, and occasionally he will eat one - but that is really few and far between. He won't eat raw carrot - I love freshly juiced carrot, but he won't even try it.. He won't drink freshly juiced fruits. Doc told me not to give him milk yoghurt (he's allergic to dairy); we tried the goat's yoghurt but he doesn't like it (I didn't either, so I don't blame him LOL). He won't try the sprouted bread - I bought a bread maker and tried lots of times making some, but he just won't touch it. I will keep trying to give him some of this stuff, but so far no go. What about serving millet instead of rice? How would I serve this? love, Lisa - Elizabeth herbal remedies Friday, August 22, 2003 9:11 PM Re: [herbal remedies] Dark under eyes My hunch is he is pretty yeasty. I would not give him soy or any fruit or juice that is not fresh raw or fresh juiced. Store bought juice is pasteurized. Cow's milk or Goat's milk yogurt would be a better choice. Buy WHOLE milk and organic type. Not sweetened. Add a little stevia or fresh fruit to sweeten....dates are great to sweeten- fresh organic NOT suphured. It may take some time...be patient- you are doing great! Will he eat raw foods?I would let him eat TONS of fresh raw food all day- fruits mostly...some yogurt, flax, soaked raw nuts- organic....plus the TN in fresh raw juice- maybe in a yummy smoothie!. LOADS of water...avocados (fruit), bananas, melons, pineapple, berries, apples, nectarines, raw carrots....I have a 4 yr old and he eats these things...and nurses...and is in incredible health- non vaccinations or antibiotics and still nursing. Can you serve little to no grains? Millet is good instead of rice.You could try it. Also sprouted breads- very, very little.Hope something here helps. Love,ElizabethOn Friday, August 22, 2003, at 02:44 PM, Lisa Belcher wrote: I've added (soya) yoghurt to his diet, which he now eats in the morning (I thought the extra BM being related to the yoghurt). Today was the first time this week he had any bread, so I don't think the eye thing is related to the bread in any way. So unless he's allergic to organic chicken, or sprouted organic rice, I don't know where to look! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 This is not a critique of your parenting, just a suggestion: I have heard Dr. Phil talk about this subject. What he suggested was that you put out a complete meal, and if he doesn't eat it at supper, you feed the same food, not the same plate, but the same food. If you had spaghetti with salad and milk, then the next meal, give him spaghetti, salad and milk, or whichever item he didn't eat. Also, if it is not meal time, if he didn't eat his dinner, then he gets hungry 2 hours later, do not feed him a snack. He will learn that he is to eat at meal time. One of the reasonings that Dr. Phil gave is that kids need to learn about our family schedules, and if they are eating and having you prepare things on his schedule, he begins to rule the household. Growing up that was how my parents did it, getting us to learn to work within the family schedule, not letting us upset the house too much. I wouldn't eat beef for a while, and they told me no dessert if I didn't eat it. If I liked what was for dessert, I ate it, if I didn't, I wouldn't eat it. Eventually, when I would go for weeks without eating beef, my mom let me prepare my own meat, but I ended up learning that she prepared a family meal, and would not be put out for my different habits. I learned to work within the rules. My brother at one time would not eat tomatoes, so my mom told him he could not have any other products that he liked with tomatoes in it unless he ate tomatoes. He loved ketchup, so for a while he couldn't have any. He learned to like tomatoes. My dad set a good example for us. Growing up, we were all to eat what was given us. The year after both my brother and I had graduated from high school, we gathered at Christmas. One of the foods my mom prepared was a carrot and parsnip dish. My dad was dishing it up onto his plate, and didn't have any carrots. I pointed this out to him, and he told me that he didn't like carrots. I was shocked. I said " What do you mean, you ate them all the time growing up? " He told me that he ate them to set a good example for us. It worked!! Both my brother and I have very flexible food tastes, and it makes it really nice and easy to eat at friends houses. I took in 2 step kids when I got together with my husband, and they were 10 and 13. They were extremely picky eaters. I am a very tough person, and I know I cook good, so I told them that they were to try everything at least once. After about a year, neither one of them was a picky eater anymore. They did each have foods that they weren't crazy about, but I used the eating at a friends house argument. I always asked them to find a way to eat a food, that they could at least eat it as a guest. I also had them participate in what we had for dinner. I would ask them to choose a recipe, and I would make it. As they learned about kitchen safety and the like, they would make the recipe. I know they are a bit older than your child, but maybe you could find a cookbook that has all main course dishes, and have him choose one, help you cook it, and then maybe he would like it better. Over time, you could try and find a dozen or two recipes he likes, and focus on those. I get bags under my eyes and I found out it is from a lack of vitamin K. It is found in the following foods: green vegetables (collards, spinach, salad greens, broccoli), brussel sprouts, cabbage and plant oils. It is a vitamin that is not available as a supplement in some countries. Even though it is one of the vitamins that many governments say we need. Love those beaurocrats who do that!! Thora Sill [thesills] Saturday, August 23, 2003 9:40 AM herbal remedies Re: [herbal remedies] Dark under eyes From what you have said in your last few posts, I would almost wonder if the dark under the eyes isn't due to malnutrition. I'm NOT saying anything about your mothering skills, so please don't take it that way. ;o) However, I have had doctors tell me that children will eat what they need and not to worry if they do not eat rounded meals, but I'm pretty sure that is hogwash. LOL! I cannot see how a child can get proper nutrition if they only eat a select item or couple of items. If your son likes the flavor of kool-aid, there are some liquid vitamins that might help. One that comes to mind is Ocean Essentials. I will post their website below. You can order a free sample from them. When I did this, I got it in just a couple of days. At least with the sample you will know if it is something he likes. Another option is something like Pediasure, but to be honest I don't know if there are things that are bad in it since we have never used it. Perhaps someone here can comment on that. www.oceanessentials.com Blessed Be! MtMoonKitty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 I wasn't going to respond to this because I didn't think I had any valuable info...I still might not,but after reading about Dr. Phil's ways,I thought...why not. I was and am a picky eater...I was 9 years old before I was able to eat an entire McDonalds small hamburger. My parents of coarse tried various ways to entice me..threaten me...etc. When I was 8 they put me through tests (gi's) and discovered that I have a peptic ulcer. From there on they knew that certain food "Hurt" my stomach and of coarse was put on a bland food diet. It helped...and then as I grew up more I was allowed to eat what I wanted...to an extent of coarse. There was the Main meal on the table...along with extras that I might like in case I couldn't eat the Main part,such as a big choice of side dishes...vegetables,pasta's etc. As for the part of Dr. Phil's eat it now or starve...I totally disaggree...Like me,with an ulcer,I would eat til I was full,and then a little while later I would be hungry again,and I was allowed to eat because my Mom understood the nature of my ulcer. I grew up just fine...I have no deficits from this diet or rather way of eating. And also as for trying EVERYTHING at least once...I think that is great for adventerous people who make those decisions for themselves...not for everyone though. I have never tried...calamari,shark,salmon,octopus,bear,tripe,etc...and i never will...but it didn't hurt me one bit not to have tried these things. And you might not understand your childs reasons for NOT trying certain foods. In todays world there is no telling what they have learned about things...and the more knowledge they have on animals,etc...the more rights they should have to make these choices for themselves...like I said...to a certain extent. I hope everyone understands what I am trying to get across here? Karly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 i would just also like to say that i disagree with dr. phil's suggestions...is this oprah's dr. phil? if so i don't think i've even seen that guy say something useful...but anyway...the whole idea of threatening to not give dessert if your kid doesn't eat dinner is wrong on so many levels... 1. it insinuates that there is always dessert...which is not a good diet (or that dessert can't be healthy...like an apple) 2. it gives kids the idea that dinner=bad and dessert=good...c'mon the punishment is having to eat your dinner so you can get the reward...dessert...just setting kids up for unhealthy eating 3. what's wrong with snacks so long as they like everything in your house are chosen by you and are healthy. if your child actually can learn to stop eating when s/he is full instead of overeating...that is a good thing...and if s/he gets hungry two or three hours later that could be perfectly normal and should not be stifled or starved until the next huge meal. 4. dialogue rather than force or threats seems key...find out why your child doesn't like something...talk about it. and then if it seems appropriate reward them for trying it...or make it into a game that you'll both try one new thing a week or something. i'm going to stop there b/c this is already way more than i intended to write...but it seems like this " old school " way of making kids eat should be left with all the other " old school " american eating habbits...if you are bothering to change your diet/health why not also change your mindset about food and how to teach your kids about a healthy diet. luv laura herbal remedies , karly <karly11us> wrote: > I wasn't going to respond to this because I didn't think I had any valuable info...I still might not,but after reading about Dr. Phil's ways,I thought...why not. > I was and am a picky eater...I was 9 years old before I was able to eat an entire McDonalds small hamburger. > My parents of coarse tried various ways to entice me..threaten me...etc. > When I was 8 they put me through tests (gi's) and discovered that I have a peptic ulcer. > From there on they knew that certain food " Hurt " my stomach and of coarse was put on a bland food diet. > It helped...and then as I grew up more I was allowed to eat what I wanted...to an extent of coarse. There was the Main meal on the table...along with extras that I might like in case I couldn't eat the Main part,such as a big choice of side dishes...vegetables,pasta's etc. > As for the part of Dr. Phil's eat it now or starve...I totally disaggree...Like me,with an ulcer,I would eat til I was full,and then a little while later I would be hungry again,and I was allowed to eat because my Mom understood the nature of my ulcer. > I grew up just fine...I have no deficits from this diet or rather way of eating. > And also as for trying EVERYTHING at least once...I think that is great for adventerous people who make those decisions for themselves...not for everyone though. > I have never tried...calamari,shark,salmon,octopus,bear,tripe,etc...and i never will...but it didn't hurt me one bit not to have tried these things. And you might not understand your childs reasons for NOT trying certain foods. > In todays world there is no telling what they have learned about things...and the more knowledge they have on animals,etc...the more rights they should have to make these choices for themselves...like I said...to a certain extent. > I hope everyone understands what I am trying to get across here? > Karly > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2003 Report Share Posted September 3, 2003 hehehe :-) Hi Laura, Well, Jamie doesn't eat ANY sweets, so using deserts would be totally useless - we don't eat any. Besides this, I actually tried one time to insist he eat his dinner - what a useless act LOL. I just couldn't carry it through - big softie that I am LOL. Jamie has his own definite ideas, and no amount of persuasion or coaxing has been able to change his mind! But, his choices are all healthy choices even though not balanced. I mean, (organic) chicken, rice, yoghurt, bread, are not exactly unhealthy choices of food, not like some other children I hear about. If Jamie does want a snack, it's usually a banana. Anyhow, such threats etc are not my style; I do not agree with them. love, Lisa - laura_e25 herbal remedies Wednesday, September 03, 2003 4:35 PM [herbal remedies] Re: Dark under eyes i would just also like to say that i disagree with dr. phil's suggestions...is this oprah's dr. phil? if so i don't think i've even seen that guy say something useful...but anyway...the whole idea of threatening to not give dessert if your kid doesn't eat dinner is wrong on so many levels...1. it insinuates that there is always dessert...which is not a good diet (or that dessert can't be healthy...like an apple)2. it gives kids the idea that dinner=bad and dessert=good...c'mon the punishment is having to eat your dinner so you can get the reward...dessert...just setting kids up for unhealthy eating3. what's wrong with snacks so long as they like everything in your house are chosen by you and are healthy. if your child actually can learn to stop eating when s/he is full instead of overeating...that is a good thing...and if s/he gets hungry two or three hours later that could be perfectly normal and should not be stifled or starved until the next huge meal. 4. dialogue rather than force or threats seems key...find out why your child doesn't like something...talk about it. and then if it seems appropriate reward them for trying it...or make it into a game that you'll both try one new thing a week or something.i'm going to stop there b/c this is already way more than i intended to write...but it seems like this "old school" way of making kids eat should be left with all the other "old school" american eating habbits...if you are bothering to change your diet/health why not also change your mindset about food and how to teach your kids about a healthy diet.luv lauraherbal remedies , karly <karly11us> wrote:> I wasn't going to respond to this because I didn't think I had any valuable info...I still might not,but after reading about Dr. Phil's ways,I thought...why not.> I was and am a picky eater...I was 9 years old before I was able to eat an entire McDonalds small hamburger.> My parents of coarse tried various ways to entice me..threaten me...etc.> When I was 8 they put me through tests (gi's) and discovered that I have a peptic ulcer.> From there on they knew that certain food "Hurt" my stomach and of coarse was put on a bland food diet.> It helped...and then as I grew up more I was allowed to eat what I wanted...to an extent of coarse. There was the Main meal on the table...along with extras that I might like in case I couldn't eat the Main part,such as a big choice of side dishes...vegetables,pasta's etc.> As for the part of Dr. Phil's eat it now or starve...I totally disaggree...Like me,with an ulcer,I would eat til I was full,and then a little while later I would be hungry again,and I was allowed to eat because my Mom understood the nature of my ulcer.> I grew up just fine...I have no deficits from this diet or rather way of eating.> And also as for trying EVERYTHING at least once...I think that is great for adventerous people who make those decisions for themselves...not for everyone though.> I have never tried...calamari,shark,salmon,octopus,bear,tripe,etc...and i never will...but it didn't hurt me one bit not to have tried these things. And you might not understand your childs reasons for NOT trying certain foods.> In todays world there is no telling what they have learned about things...and the more knowledge they have on animals,etc...the more rights they should have to make these choices for themselves...like I said...to a certain extent.> I hope everyone understands what I am trying to get across here? > Karly> > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 What was described in the original message was a severe eating disorder, and that is something that needs to be dealt with somehow. These were the foods that were being eaten: rice chicken bread tomato ketchup juice occasional peas once a week potatoes once a week carrots once a week fish This will not sustain health. If this is not dealt with somehow, this child will never thrive. Lack of necessary nutrients cause serious health problems. To tell me that my suggestions will cause eating disorders may be true, but it could not be worse than what is already happening. There was some mention that " old fashioned " attitudes on eating are not good for us, but old school habits from 50 years ago did not create the eating disorders that are rampant in our current society. We are plagued with obesity, anorexia, bolemia, etc. There is a diffence between forcing a child to eat barf and simply cleaning up an unfinished meal and moving on with the evening. There is a diffenece between making a huge scene and making everyone miserable, and simply making it a non issue. I may have not made that clear in my message, but that was what I was trying to get across. If he won't eat something, for example a salad, then the next meal, or 2 hours later or whatever, feed him something in that food group, maybe some veg soup, salad, veg stew, somthing that has that food group, that contains the nutrients that he missed. If you don't want to feed him dessert then that theory could work by allowing him to eat something he doesn't want to, like veggies, then allow him to have something that he does want, whether it is bread, ketchup, or whatever. Right now he already thinks veggies are bad, so if he would eat them if he gets something he likes, yes he might think veggies are bad, but, nothing will have changed, except that he got the nutrients that he needs. You will have gained, he will have gained. Could it create an eating disorder, I don't know, is it worse than what already exists, no. You may just have to switch one disorder for another one. But it is important that he gets a balanced meal. And really, at age 5, most behavior that happens would be consided terrible, obsessive, demented, if it was applied to an adult, but this is a 5 year old. They act like 5 year olds, and we should not invent disorders just because they disagree with us. Maybe you could try stepping back from the situation, and try and find a family you know that has kids that eat everything. I have found that kids who eat everything have parents that eat everything, and they never have big battles over food. It becomes a nonissue. Talk to them, and see if you could invite each other for meals together, and see how they treat the food issue. Maybe you could let those people deal with your sons eating problems during one meal, rather than you, and see what they do. It may need to happen a few times, but see if it works. Sometimes we need to forget about worrying about creating a problem until we know for sure something works or not. Will it change overnight, probably not, but if something gets him to eat it, then it is okay. As far as the dark circles, the leafy green vegetables are somthing that needs to be fed to him to get rid of them. Somehow, someway, a way needs to be found to get them into him, along with all other things he needs to thrive. >>Original message<< Hi guys, My 5-year-old son is showing dark circles under his eyes which are a bit swollen. He sleeps fine - about 12 hours per night - so I doubt it's a lack of sleep. What else could be causing this? His diet is not very good at the moment, consisting of rice with chicken (sprouted and organic) and bread (organic) with tomato ketchup (organic). I know, but it's all he'll eat. I spent loads of money buying and preparing better foods, but he simply won't eat anything else. So I gave up, and let him eat what he wants, hoping he'll get sick of it soon, and move onto something better :-) I also give him TN in his juice, and he takes DMSO. He drinks store bought juice (organic) watered down (distilled water). And that's all. No sweets, no fruit, with only occasional peas as vegetables. About once a week I manage to get him to eat potatoes with carrots and fish. Oh yes, and I give him a Calcium/Magnesium drink each night after dinner. Is he lacking some vital nutrient? Or is this something else? Ms Lisa Belcher Sunderland, UK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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