Part vent, part question

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Ilana

I understand your frustration. My DH isn't in to all this. He doesn't stop me though.and occassionally i get to give him herbs...lol... You must remember, you can only change yourself. Love him for who he is not who you want him to be. Say your prayers, be patient and what will be will be.. If you are serving good nutritious foods then that is a start and he is getting some good stuff. Everyone has to make their own decisions about their health.. we can hope and help but not push.

i could on but i think you get the picture...... lol... they get some of the benefits from us doing the right things...

Suzi

 

Ilana Grostern <ilana wrote:

Hi all,This post is partly a vent, partly a victory dance and party a question:My husband is 29 years old. About three years ago, after a particularly stressful time in his life during which he lost a lot of weight and couldn't eat, he was diagnosed with ITP, a clotting disorder. Not sure how much of a diagnosis it is, really, if it's ideopathic, but that's beside the point. The ITP may have been a pre-existing condition but it wasn't detected before and I think there might be a connection between it and the stress he was undergong. As soon as he eliminated the stress from his life he was able to start eating again and regained the weight, but his platelet counts remained lower than average. So far he hasn't had any crises so maybe those numbers are "normal" for him. But anyways, for the first time in the last few years his counts have actually risen (he had a blood test this morning), and I credit the fact that we are now almost completely organic and I have him on a vitamin regimen for baby-making purposes, and also we have significantly reduced our meat intake (mine to none, his to a lot less than previous). Another improvement in his health that I have noticed is that his breath, which has been horrible since I met him six years ago, is not a problem anymore. I don't know what is responsible for that other than good nutrition in general seeing as we have never investigated the source of the problem. So those are my celebrations.My rant is that no matter how much I explain to him the connections between eating properly and his health he's still not making them for himself, even when I give him direct proof in the form of improvements to his own health. I know that I have to let him come to his own conclusions in his own time, and I'm very lucky because he takes his vitamins with only minor grumbling and he eats what I cook, but it's KILLING me to have to sit back and watch him continue to make food choices which are ultimately going to have negative impacts on his life. I had to be out of the room yesterday when he and his friends were scarfing down the meat lovers pizza with cheese-stuffed crust that they had ordered, along with their beer and pop, not a vegetable in site. And he complains to me about his bowel movements and how he can't eat my vegetarian chili because it's making him go too often. Our way of eating has virtually eliminated (no pun intended) his hemarrhoid problem and he doesn't make the same horrid smells he used to.So my question is, how do others in my situation cope? I'm a bit of a purist and it's all or nothing for me when it comes to nutrition, and I understand and accept that it's not fair of me to expect him to completely change his life like I did, but how do you sit back and watch a person you love more than life itself make deliberate choices to impact their health? He complains about this and that and I have to bite my tongue to keep from lecturing him because I KNOW the answers to his problems! It's a constant source of stress in our relationship (the only one, really) and it's coming from me I realize, but I feel I'm being very very tolerant of his choices, to the best of my abilities.I know that it's going to take a lot more time and lot more gentle persuasion to "clean him up" but in the meantime, I'm not sure how to cope with this.Thanks,ILANA xoxo-- Chimera13 Multimedia Inc.Sales (514) 952-5351Art Department (514) 733-9445http://www.chimera13.caFederal Law requires that we warn you of the following: 1. Natural methods can sometimes backfire. 2. If you are pregnant, consult your physician before using any natural remedy. 3. The Constitution guarantees you the right to be your own physician and toprescribe for your own health. We are not medical doctors although MDs are welcome to post here as long as they behave themselves. Any opinions put forth by the list members are exactly that, and any person following the advice of anyone posting here does so at their own risk. It is up to you to educate yourself. By accepting advice or products from list members, you are agreeing to be fully responsible for your own health, and hold the List Owner and members free of any liability. Dr. Ian ShillingtonDoctor of NaturopathyDr.IanShillington