lost my beautiful angel to SIDS

[Guest guest]

Hello.

My name is Maria and I'm looking for some alternative help with my

medical/emotional problems. I am a mother of a 2 1/2 year old and

recently lost my beautiful angel who was six month old to SIDS in

May. Since then I have gained a significant amount of weight, which

has caused my all ready messed up back to ache even more. I have

joined Curves to start with strengthening and *hopefully* weight

loss. But here's the kicker. I work 12 hour night shifts and my

sleep pattern is WAY out of whack, which has thrown my eating

patterns out of whack as well. I have not have my shakrahs (sp?)

cleared in about 5 years and I know that it is not helping with the

grieving process. I FEEL so clogged!!! I am very emotional, as to

be expected. So, I'm here looking for some advice and maybe a few

helpful hints to help me here and there, as well as my family. Also

all of this has effected my sexual relationship (which was VERY

healthy before the death of our daughter) with my husband.

Meditation is starting to sound like a WONDERFUL idea, but with a

2 year old in my house, it's a lil hard...lol. Any advice is

welcome

 

Thank you and have a blessed day.

[Guest guest]

Hello Maria,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter.

What a difficult thing for anyone to deal with.

What you are experiencing is a situational depression from the

loss of your child.

If you have insurance, see if you can find a good counselor.

Or try a community mental health center or crisis or women's center.

Medication, on a temporary basis, may also be helpful.

You can also try theraputic massage such as cranial sacral

or other things to counter the stress.

You need to understand that what happened is not your fault.

Counseling can help with this and with the grieving process.

If you know a minister, he or she may be able to help. Some of them

are trained counselors too.

If you have a close relationship with a spiritual teacher, such as

Jesus or Mary, call on them now. Mary is a wonderful helper and as a

mother will understand what you are going through.

As for chakra cleansing, you can get a good tape or CD on the

internet and do this yourself for now.

I'm sending you light and love for a spiritual healing.

Namaste,

David

PS. Check out:http://home1.gte.net/ladyisis/HandsOfLight.htm

 

 

 

In , " traviesa0chula1 "

<traviesa0chula1 wrote:

>

> Hello.

> My name is Maria and I'm looking for some alternative help with my

> medical/emotional problems. I am a mother of a 2 1/2 year old and

> recently lost my beautiful angel who was six month old to SIDS in

> May. Since then I have gained a significant amount of weight, which

> has caused my all ready messed up back to ache even more. I have

> joined Curves to start with strengthening and *hopefully* weight

> loss. But here's the kicker. I work 12 hour night shifts and my

> sleep pattern is WAY out of whack, which has thrown my eating

> patterns out of whack as well. I have not have my shakrahs (sp?)

> cleared in about 5 years and I know that it is not helping with the

> grieving process. I FEEL so clogged!!! I am very emotional, as to

> be expected. So, I'm here looking for some advice and maybe a few

> helpful hints to help me here and there, as well as my family. Also

> all of this has effected my sexual relationship (which was VERY

> healthy before the death of our daughter) with my husband.

> Meditation is starting to sound like a WONDERFUL idea, but with a

> 2 year old in my house, it's a lil hard...lol. Any advice is

> welcome

>

> Thank you and have a blessed day.

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Maria,

Angels come to touch our lives in a very special way...they come,

sprinkle love and joy and then naturally leave us after staying with

us for a very short time. They have to go and sprinkle that joy and

love elsewhere too!!!

I can imagine how agonising it would be for you to deal with the

loss and any amount of advice and good words would not be enough to

help you. You yourself will have to become brave and go ahead with

your life. Life as they say never stops for anybody. One thing that

really helps is, just take out time to look at people whose

sufferings are greater than you. That would give you some solace

that the angel did spend some time with you afterall.

All your physical problems are related to your mental state only.

And remember your husband is equally pained so you both need each

other more than ever before.Sex is an extension of love. infact it

is the ultimate state of love and love is all pervasive. Try it out,

you will find great comfort in each other's arms.

Meditation is one of the biggest and the most effective healer as

it gives you inner strength to deal with any situation. You do not

need too much time for doing meditation. In fact, to begin with you

just need to do it for 15 minutes and that much time one can always

find despite a 2 1/2 year old.

I do not know where you belong to and what your beliefs are but

certainly you would have heard about yoga. We begin yoga with very

very simple breathing exercises which are called 'pranayam'. These

can be extremely helpful to you.

In case you are interested, you may write to me or seek any

professional yoga instructor's help.

May God give you strength

 

Pari

 

-- In , " traviesa0chula1 "

<traviesa0chula1 wrote:

>

> Hello.

> My name is Maria and I'm looking for some alternative help with

my

> medical/emotional problems. I am a mother of a 2 1/2 year old and

> recently lost my beautiful angel who was six month old to SIDS in

> May. Since then I have gained a significant amount of weight,

which

> has caused my all ready messed up back to ache even more. I have

> joined Curves to start with strengthening and *hopefully* weight

> loss. But here's the kicker. I work 12 hour night shifts and my

> sleep pattern is WAY out of whack, which has thrown my eating

> patterns out of whack as well. I have not have my shakrahs (sp?)

> cleared in about 5 years and I know that it is not helping with

the

> grieving process. I FEEL so clogged!!! I am very emotional, as

to

> be expected. So, I'm here looking for some advice and maybe a few

> helpful hints to help me here and there, as well as my family.

Also

> all of this has effected my sexual relationship (which was VERY

> healthy before the death of our daughter) with my husband.

> Meditation is starting to sound like a WONDERFUL idea, but with

a

> 2 year old in my house, it's a lil hard...lol. Any advice is

> welcome

>

> Thank you and have a blessed day.

>

[Guest guest]

hi maria,

i can't say how sorry i am that you lost your baby girl. i know

you're in terrible pain, as is your family. i will pray for you all,

and for your physical pain as well. you have a lot on your plate and

i commend you for reaching out for help; that's hard in the midst of

grief. a website that has been a wonderful resource for me is the

root URL of this link; this link is about grief and some things you

might consider to help you:

http://www.newlife.com/Articles/article.asp?libid=29

love,

sommer

 

, " traviesa0chula1 "

<traviesa0chula1 wrote:

>

> Hello.

> My name is Maria and I'm looking for some alternative help with

my

> medical/emotional problems. I am a mother of a 2 1/2 year old and

> recently lost my beautiful angel who was six month old to SIDS in

> May. Since then I have gained a significant amount of weight,

which

> has caused my all ready messed up back to ache even more. I have

> joined Curves to start with strengthening and *hopefully* weight

> loss. But here's the kicker. I work 12 hour night shifts and my

> sleep pattern is WAY out of whack, which has thrown my eating

> patterns out of whack as well. I have not have my shakrahs (sp?)

> cleared in about 5 years and I know that it is not helping with

the

> grieving process. I FEEL so clogged!!! I am very emotional, as

to

> be expected. So, I'm here looking for some advice and maybe a few

> helpful hints to help me here and there, as well as my family.

Also

> all of this has effected my sexual relationship (which was VERY

> healthy before the death of our daughter) with my husband.

> Meditation is starting to sound like a WONDERFUL idea, but with

a

> 2 year old in my house, it's a lil hard...lol. Any advice is

> welcome

>

> Thank you and have a blessed day.

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Maria,

 

Please see www.emofree.com

 

Using the simple and basic method taught in Emotional Freedom

Technique or EFT may help you overcome enough anguish to begin

regaining your life back and that of your husband.

 

Controlling your emotions is paramount for this to happen.

 

We are all emotional beings on lifes journey, allowing the flow of

this energy is equally as important as anything physical you may do

for yourself.

 

When energy is blocked and not allowed to flow, symptoms of dis-ease

in your system begin to manifest. As you are now experiencing.

 

EFT is simple, powerful and FREE to learn, it can be done in the

comfort of your own home and only takes minutes to perform.

 

Never give up searching for ways to better your situation, there are

some very knowledgable persons on this list, please take everyones

advice and choose what is best for you and your family.

 

Sending you love and healing light.

 

Declan

[Guest guest]

Maria,

 

I am EXTREMELY saddened to hear about the loss of your precious child! This

has to be one of the hardest thing anyone could every go through. I cannot

possibly understand the myriad of emotions you are going through, but I am sure

they are normal and need to come out. If this were me, I would ask God for the

strength to heal me and pray for comfort. I would imagine after you have

grieved your course, these other issues will slowly resolve them self.

 

May our Lord take you under his wing and provide you with the strength,

comfort and peace you need.

 

Many Blessings,

Roe

 

 

~ Roe

www.roe.cellularhealthplan.com

 

v | The greatest gift one can give is the gift of health! v |

 

U U U U U U

 

~ God is GOOD and Jesus is coming! ~

I am living to Live AGAIN! Are you?

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Words can not give justice how sorry I am for your loss. You sound

very courageous. I am a firm believer of allowing ourselves to

experience even the most difficult of emotions. I sit in awe of

others who can make it through such tough times. In regards to the

back pain this I can relate all too well. I found that the most

effective exercise are pelvic tilts. I was in physical therapy for

my back injuries and the exercises help to this day. Yoga can be

great though I can not do a few of the poses as they will activate a

flare up. The worst one that shouldn't be done by people with lower

back injuries is the one where you are lying on the ground and you

twist your bent knees to the side, this was my favorite move.

Depending on the severity of your injuries to your back the pelvic

tils can be started at a low level starting with very subtle pelvic

tilts holding for a count of ten and slowly increasing intensity as

able. This can be done lying in bed even. I can also relate to the

post baby weight gain! I am struggling currently with my own. When

you have back injuries it is very nerve racking because you don't

know what will cause a flare up! I recently purchased Bliss in a Box

from one spirit. I cant do the actual three days of isolation but I

use all the tools. There is a cd and cards for yoga poses that I

have to say left me feeling great! no pain and a general feeling of

ahhhh, just skip any of the twists, I also alter the cobra pose so I

am not up on my hands in a dramatic curve but stay on my elbows. I

have found success with sticking with whole grain foods, using a lot

of the good morning meat replacement meals for extra protein, and

lots of veggies (and beano) This coupled with lots of fluids, daily

detox tea, green tea I try to have a 16 oz glass with 3/4ths pure

100% cranberry juice diluted with water over ice every evening.

It's bitter as heck but you acquire a taste. It's so good for you! I

could go on and on but I will spare you but good luck! with your

back and weight loss. Keep us in touch with how you are doing?

BB

Stacy

, " swargrajkumari "

<swargrajkumari wrote:

>

> Hello Maria,

> Angels come to touch our lives in a very special way...they come,

> sprinkle love and joy and then naturally leave us after staying

with

> us for a very short time. They have to go and sprinkle that joy and

> love elsewhere too!!!

> I can imagine how agonising it would be for you to deal with the

> loss and any amount of advice and good words would not be enough to

> help you. You yourself will have to become brave and go ahead with

> your life. Life as they say never stops for anybody. One thing that

> really helps is, just take out time to look at people whose

> sufferings are greater than you. That would give you some solace

> that the angel did spend some time with you afterall.

> All your physical problems are related to your mental state only.

> And remember your husband is equally pained so you both need each

> other more than ever before.Sex is an extension of love. infact it

> is the ultimate state of love and love is all pervasive. Try it

out,

> you will find great comfort in each other's arms.

> Meditation is one of the biggest and the most effective healer as

> it gives you inner strength to deal with any situation. You do not

> need too much time for doing meditation. In fact, to begin with you

> just need to do it for 15 minutes and that much time one can always

> find despite a 2 1/2 year old.

> I do not know where you belong to and what your beliefs are but

> certainly you would have heard about yoga. We begin yoga with very

> very simple breathing exercises which are called 'pranayam'. These

> can be extremely helpful to you.

> In case you are interested, you may write to me or seek any

> professional yoga instructor's help.

> May God give you strength

>

> Pari

>

> -- In , " traviesa0chula1 "

> <traviesa0chula1@> wrote:

> >

> > Hello.

> > My name is Maria and I'm looking for some alternative help with

> my

> > medical/emotional problems. I am a mother of a 2 1/2 year old

and

> > recently lost my beautiful angel who was six month old to SIDS in

> > May. Since then I have gained a significant amount of weight,

> which

> > has caused my all ready messed up back to ache even more. I have

> > joined Curves to start with strengthening and *hopefully* weight

> > loss. But here's the kicker. I work 12 hour night shifts and my

> > sleep pattern is WAY out of whack, which has thrown my eating

> > patterns out of whack as well. I have not have my shakrahs (sp?)

> > cleared in about 5 years and I know that it is not helping with

> the

> > grieving process. I FEEL so clogged!!! I am very emotional, as

> to

> > be expected. So, I'm here looking for some advice and maybe a

few

> > helpful hints to help me here and there, as well as my family.

> Also

> > all of this has effected my sexual relationship (which was VERY

> > healthy before the death of our daughter) with my husband.

> > Meditation is starting to sound like a WONDERFUL idea, but with

> a

> > 2 year old in my house, it's a lil hard...lol. Any advice is

> > welcome

> >

> > Thank you and have a blessed day.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Maria,

 

My heart goes out to you.

I lost a full term newborn in May many years

ago, and that was bad enough.

I can only imagine the agony that goes with

losing a living baby in that sudden way.

 

Give yourself time please.

 

As a woman you have to deal with two factors:

the grief, and getting your hormones back to

not-mother normal.

 

Are you a nurse, with the 12 hour shifts?

Try your hardest to establish some healthy

eating patterns. Prepare and take along some

healthy finger foods that you can eat when you

have an appetite.

 

One way to help your energy body and

your whole family is Emotional Freedom Technique.

It can take the edge off that raw overpowering

physical grief. It does not take away from the

memories, or the love. Just the pain.

Even a 2 year old can learn to do this, and

it can be done in stolen minutes here and there.

 

I have a PowerPoint presentation that

is easier to learn from than the e-book.

I can send it to anyone who wants to learn

this wonderful, powerful healing tool.

 

ask me at ienvan

The e-book is free for the downloading

here.

http://www.emofree.com/a/?875/1

 

As for regaining hormonal balance, of

course there are herbs and superfoods to

help with that, and of course many of us

have our favorites.

 

Please remember that different things

work for different people.

Take a look at what is out there, both

in 'online stores' belonging to members

of this list, and in your local health food

store.

Then ask for Guidance and follow your

heart.

 

Find some good whole foods-based energy

bars that you can grab on the go.

Read the ingredients. Many are junk.

Dr Joseph Mercola has one on his website

that looks good if you like coconut.

BG bars from Cell Tech have great food,

though they are a bit too sweet for my

taste.

 

Get a good green drink, so you get your

fruits and veggies even if you can't stop

to eat properly. The one on Dr Ben Kim's

website looks excellent.

 

If you visited my online store stocked with

rainforest plant magic I would recommend

the following herbal support.

 

Lunazon, herbs from the tribal midwives.

to help your system regain a normal cycle.

It is harmonizing and calming too.

 

Sumacazon

All-over gland food, rich in minerals, protein,

B vitamins, energizing and a good tonic for

female sexuality.

 

Calmazon

As the word implies, to help your churning

mind relax.

 

Metabazon

To help with blood sugar balance and food

cravings.

 

The store lives here.

http://wildhealing.net

 

That's all for now.

 

In friendship

 

Ien in the Kootenays

http://freegreenliving.com

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Thank you David,

my husband and I have seen a grief councilor and have done a

group counciling which has been beneficial, but it seems that many

days are still a struggle. Medication is kind of out of the

question because of my occupation and security clearance. I have

read many books, but I am looking for an alternative on top of the

usual things...I am very interested in the massage. Thank you again

for writing!!

~M~

 

, " divya4753 "

<divya4753 wrote:

>

> Hello Maria,

> I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter.

> What a difficult thing for anyone to deal with.

> What you are experiencing is a situational depression from the

> loss of your child.

> If you have insurance, see if you can find a good counselor.

> Or try a community mental health center or crisis or women's

center.

> Medication, on a temporary basis, may also be helpful.

> You can also try theraputic massage such as cranial sacral

> or other things to counter the stress.

> You need to understand that what happened is not your fault.

> Counseling can help with this and with the grieving process.

> If you know a minister, he or she may be able to help. Some of them

> are trained counselors too.

> If you have a close relationship with a spiritual teacher,

such as

> Jesus or Mary, call on them now. Mary is a wonderful helper and as

a

> mother will understand what you are going through.

> As for chakra cleansing, you can get a good tape or CD on the

> internet and do this yourself for now.

> I'm sending you light and love for a spiritual healing.

> Namaste,

> David

> PS. Check out:http://home1.gte.net/ladyisis/HandsOfLight.htm

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Pari,

Thank you very much for writing! I used to meditate a lot when I

was in the military to help me deal with the stress...I think I can

find meditation time after the little one goes to sleep.

Hubby's work schedule had changed and we will be spending more

time together, so maybe that will help as well (he's going from

nights to days and we will actually be sleeping together 3 nights a

week - I work nights as well).

Thank ou again!!

~M~

 

, " swargrajkumari "

<swargrajkumari wrote:

>

> Hello Maria,

> Angels come to touch our lives in a very special way...they

come,

> sprinkle love and joy and then naturally leave us after staying

with

> us for a very short time. They have to go and sprinkle that joy

and

> love elsewhere too!!!

> I can imagine how agonising it would be for you to deal with the

> loss and any amount of advice and good words would not be enough

to

> help you. You yourself will have to become brave and go ahead with

> your life. Life as they say never stops for anybody. One thing

that

> really helps is, just take out time to look at people whose

> sufferings are greater than you. That would give you some solace

> that the angel did spend some time with you afterall.

> All your physical problems are related to your mental state

only.

> And remember your husband is equally pained so you both need each

> other more than ever before.Sex is an extension of love. infact it

> is the ultimate state of love and love is all pervasive. Try it

out,

> you will find great comfort in each other's arms.

> Meditation is one of the biggest and the most effective healer

as

> it gives you inner strength to deal with any situation. You do not

> need too much time for doing meditation. In fact, to begin with

you

> just need to do it for 15 minutes and that much time one can

always

> find despite a 2 1/2 year old.

> I do not know where you belong to and what your beliefs are but

> certainly you would have heard about yoga. We begin yoga with very

> very simple breathing exercises which are called 'pranayam'. These

> can be extremely helpful to you.

> In case you are interested, you may write to me or seek any

> professional yoga instructor's help.

> May God give you strength

>

> Pari

>

[Guest guest]

You can get a really good chakra balancing tape by emailing

_Crkdarrow_ (Crkdarrow)

and inquire as to cost and let her know that grey eagle sent you. My

condolences and understanding. I too have lost a couple of children.

Peace, thyme