Guest guest Posted June 11, 2006 Report Share Posted June 11, 2006 I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint...(he would not let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, there is strength in numbers. Thanking you all in Advance, In her Honor, Debby aka Azera MoonHawk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2006 Report Share Posted June 11, 2006 Dear Debby, I have been in the exact same situation as you are in right now. You need to do something to get him out or leave yourself. I would set up a grid if I were you with stones that change negitive into positive and those that ward off negitive all together. Also the stones that protect you from these things. To name a few you should use are as fallows: Jet, Black Obsidian, Fire Agate, Clear Quartz, Mohogany obsidian, Smokey Quartz, Amethyst, Turquoise, Ruby, Apache Tear, Salt, Vanadinite, Cheveron Amethyst, Sodalite, Tiger Eye, and Charoite. These are just a few stones that I recomend for starters. Make sure you do meditation and listen to the inner self and spirit guides. Do what you are told and exactly how you are told to do it. This will help you greatly. But you need him to go or you need to go without him knowing where you have gone. This is very important for you or it could be your life that is taken from you. Please be very careful. You are dealing with someone who is very violent and has potential to kill. With Crystal Love, Vanessa Debby <shesmagick Sunday, June 11, 2006 3:16:23 AM [CrystalHW] Desperately need Protection and Magick I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint... (he would not let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, there is strength in numbers. Thanking you all in Advance, In her Honor, Debby aka Azera MoonHawk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2006 Report Share Posted June 11, 2006 my advice, you need to leave the situation ASAP, if that includes restraining orders or whatever you need to go, NOW Peace and Light tkdmom4mykids wrote: Dear Debby, I have been in the exact same situation as you are in right now. You need to do something to get him out or leave yourself. I would set up a grid if I were you with stones that change negitive into positive and those that ward off negitive all together. Also the stones that protect you from these things. To name a few you should use are as fallows: Jet, Black Obsidian, Fire Agate, Clear Quartz, Mohogany obsidian, Smokey Quartz, Amethyst, Turquoise, Ruby, Apache Tear, Salt, Vanadinite, Cheveron Amethyst, Sodalite, Tiger Eye, and Charoite. These are just a few stones that I recomend for starters. Make sure you do meditation and listen to the inner self and spirit guides. Do what you are told and exactly how you are told to do it. This will help you greatly. But you need him to go or you need to go without him knowing where you have gone. This is very important for you or it could be your life that is taken from you. Please be very careful. You are dealing with someone who is very violent and has potential to kill. With Crystal Love, Vanessa Debby <shesmagick Sunday, June 11, 2006 3:16:23 AM [CrystalHW] Desperately need Protection and Magick I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint... (he would not let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, there is strength in numbers. Thanking you all in Advance, In her Honor, Debby aka Azera MoonHawk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2006 Report Share Posted June 11, 2006 I agree. Don't even stop to turn off the computer. Get out of there NOW. --Martha Mike Eggleston <awakened_1_consciousness wrote: my advice, you need to leave the situation ASAP, if that includes restraining orders or whatever you need to go, NOW Peace and Light tkdmom4mykids wrote: Dear Debby, I have been in the exact same situation as you are in right now. You need to do something to get him out or leave yourself. I would set up a grid if I were you with stones that change negitive into positive and those that ward off negitive all together. Also the stones that protect you from these things. To name a few you should use are as fallows: Jet, Black Obsidian, Fire Agate, Clear Quartz, Mohogany obsidian, Smokey Quartz, Amethyst, Turquoise, Ruby, Apache Tear, Salt, Vanadinite, Cheveron Amethyst, Sodalite, Tiger Eye, and Charoite. These are just a few stones that I recomend for starters. Make sure you do meditation and listen to the inner self and spirit guides. Do what you are told and exactly how you are told to do it. This will help you greatly. But you need him to go or you need to go without him knowing where you have gone. This is very important for you or it could be your life that is taken from you. Please be very careful. You are dealing with someone who is very violent and has potential to kill. With Crystal Love, Vanessa Debby Sunday, June 11, 2006 3:16:23 AM [CrystalHW] Desperately need Protection and Magick I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint... (he would not let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, there is strength in numbers. Thanking you all in Advance, In her Honor, Debby aka Azera MoonHawk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Hi Debby...I am so sorry you are going through this at this time in your life...it would be so nice if nobody would have to deal with this kind of stuff....but I would just like to give you a different approach to your issues...as I would have to agree with the others to find a way to change your situation as soon as possible...I also firmly believe that nothing happens without a reason and with everything in our lives there are lessons to be learned...and before you can change a situation and have it be a perminate one there needs to be a lessoned learned...and before you learn that lesson and accept the lesson on what ever level that is....you may not be able to change your situation in a timely manor...ask yourself...your higher power within...in a meditation...asking what the lesson to be learned is and trust and listen to your higher power within...you need to be specific and trust the answers from within...when we are given situations such as this it is so easy to want an easy fix and run...but what we really need to do is face it and accept what the situation brings to you on your path to a higher level of spirituality...and learn the lesson to be learned...I have found that after a meditation and listening to my higher self and learning the lessons to be learned is to write them down...in a journal maybe...keep a journal of lessons learned...you'd be surprised and what the lessons to be learned are...sometimes they are as simple as...learning to love yourself and accept the person you are...I find when I am connecting to my higher power I use purple...I use an amethyst on my 6th chakra...the third eye...which is a connection to the higher power within...it is a stone that helps with this connection...I also use rose quartz a lot as I like it for it's soothing effect and helping to see things with love in your heart and soul...if you approach a situation with love in your heart and soul it is easier to find a solution within...Anyway...I just wanted to give my 2 cents on this discussion....good luck...Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Blessings to all of you wonderful folks who have responded. All is calm right now...I am taking it slow and easy...not letting on that I have a plan...just acting like nothing is wrong...I have an appointment with an abuse councelor today so I can get some advice on how I should proceed. Trying so hard to work through the fear of the whole process...I am so non-confrontational I get nauseated just thinking about proceeding, but each e-mail and response I get helps me feel stronger and more impowered...thank you all so very much. And also my crystal allies as well. Much Love, Debby aka Azera MoonHawk , Mike Eggleston <awakened_1_consciousness wrote: > > my advice, you need to leave the situation ASAP, if that includes restraining orders or whatever you need to go, NOW > > Peace and Light > > tkdmom4mykids wrote: Dear Debby, > I have been in the exact same situation as you are in right now. You need to do something to get him out or leave yourself. I would set up a grid if I were you with stones that change negitive into positive and those that ward off negitive all together. Also the stones that protect you from these things. To name a few you should use are as fallows: > Jet, Black Obsidian, Fire Agate, Clear Quartz, Mohogany obsidian, > Smokey Quartz, Amethyst, Turquoise, Ruby, Apache Tear, Salt, Vanadinite, > Cheveron Amethyst, Sodalite, Tiger Eye, and Charoite. These are just a few stones that I recomend for starters. Make sure you do meditation and listen to the inner self and spirit guides. Do what you are told and exactly how you are told to do it. This will help you greatly. But you need him to go or you need to go without him knowing where you have gone. This is very important for you or it could be your life that is taken from you. Please be very careful. You are dealing with someone who is very violent and has potential to kill. > With Crystal Love, > Vanessa > > > Debby <shesmagick > > Sunday, June 11, 2006 3:16:23 AM > [CrystalHW] Desperately need Protection and Magick > > I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel > awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been > living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very > abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded > animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help > and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very > distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's > negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he > just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe > that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to > make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers > will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to > leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need > him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything > we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get > that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on > like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am > not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I > really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my > children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have > threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The > reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living > with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint... (he would not > let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. > I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I > found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the > Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He > threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as > well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so > that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If > he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels > he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that > you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't > I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me > and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, > that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to > be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I > need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, > there is strength in numbers. > Thanking you all in Advance, > In her Honor, > Debby aka Azera MoonHawk > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Hi Vanessa, There are so many protective stones, grids, and wards around here a negative knat would not want in...maybe he'll feel so uncomfortable he'll leave on his own...oh Goddess, wouldn't that be wonderful Thanks for all your advice and energy Blessings, and Love, Debby CrystalHealing- workshop , <tkdmom4mykids wrote: > > Dear Debby, > I have been in the exact same situation as you are in right now. You need to do something to get him out or leave yourself. I would set up a grid if I were you with stones that change negitive into positive and those that ward off negitive all together. Also the stones that protect you from these things. To name a few you should use are as fallows: > Jet, Black Obsidian, Fire Agate, Clear Quartz, Mohogany obsidian, > Smokey Quartz, Amethyst, Turquoise, Ruby, Apache Tear, Salt, Vanadinite, > Cheveron Amethyst, Sodalite, Tiger Eye, and Charoite. These are just a few stones that I recomend for starters. Make sure you do meditation and listen to the inner self and spirit guides. Do what you are told and exactly how you are told to do it. This will help you greatly. But you need him to go or you need to go without him knowing where you have gone. This is very important for you or it could be your life that is taken from you. Please be very careful. You are dealing with someone who is very violent and has potential to kill. > With Crystal Love, > Vanessa > > > > Debby <shesmagick > > Sunday, June 11, 2006 3:16:23 AM > [CrystalHW] Desperately need Protection and Magick > > > I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel > awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been > living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very > abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded > animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help > and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very > distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's > negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he > just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe > that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to > make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers > will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to > leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need > him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything > we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get > that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on > like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am > not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I > really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my > children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have > threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The > reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living > with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint... (he would not > let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. > I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I > found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the > Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He > threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as > well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so > that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If > he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels > he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that > you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't > I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me > and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, > that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to > be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I > need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, > there is strength in numbers. > Thanking you all in Advance, > In her Honor, > Debby aka Azera MoonHawk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Debby dear I want you to remember something, you do not have to save the world. you are a wonderfull person and deserve all the blessings, love and light this life can offer. you do not have to put up with emotional/mental abuse, or physical abuse. Anyone who you may have in your life that may say other wise is an abuser, and it is not your fault. Remember you have a path in life and so does he, just because he has chosen a path of abuse towards other, doesnt mean you have to follow it or put up with his abuse. You are following the right path, remeber you do not have to save the world to make it to a higher path. some rescues require someone else to work on them, and I believe he is not one you should work with. You are worth so much more than he is willing to offer and he is not doing you a favor you were doing him the favor. -- Have a Happy and Keep Smiling TTFN Angelina Thelin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Dear Debby, I am glad to have been of some help. Just make sure you listen to yourself and do for yourself first. You are the are the important one at this time. With Crystal Love, Vanessa Debby <shesmagick Monday, June 12, 2006 10:57:43 AM Re: [CrystalHW] Desperately need Protection and Magick Hi Vanessa, There are so many protective stones, grids, and wards around here a negative knat would not want in...maybe he'll feel so uncomfortable he'll leave on his own...oh Goddess, wouldn't that be wonderful Thanks for all your advice and energy Blessings, and Love, Debby CrystalHealing- workshop@ s.com, <tkdmom4mykids@ ...> wrote: > > Dear Debby, > I have been in the exact same situation as you are in right now. You need to do something to get him out or leave yourself. I would set up a grid if I were you with stones that change negitive into positive and those that ward off negitive all together. Also the stones that protect you from these things. To name a few you should use are as fallows: > Jet, Black Obsidian, Fire Agate, Clear Quartz, Mohogany obsidian, > Smokey Quartz, Amethyst, Turquoise, Ruby, Apache Tear, Salt, Vanadinite, > Cheveron Amethyst, Sodalite, Tiger Eye, and Charoite. These are just a few stones that I recomend for starters. Make sure you do meditation and listen to the inner self and spirit guides. Do what you are told and exactly how you are told to do it. This will help you greatly. But you need him to go or you need to go without him knowing where you have gone. This is very important for you or it could be your life that is taken from you. Please be very careful. You are dealing with someone who is very violent and has potential to kill. > With Crystal Love, > Vanessa > > > > Debby <shesmagick@ ...> > CrystalHealing- workshop > Sunday, June 11, 2006 3:16:23 AM > [CrystalHW] Desperately need Protection and Magick > > > I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel > awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been > living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very > abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded > animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help > and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very > distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's > negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he > just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe > that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to > make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers > will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to > leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need > him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything > we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get > that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on > like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am > not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I > really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my > children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have > threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The > reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living > with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint... (he would not > let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. > I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I > found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the > Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He > threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as > well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so > that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If > he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels > he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that > you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't > I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me > and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, > that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to > be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I > need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, > there is strength in numbers. > Thanking you all in Advance, > In her Honor, > Debby aka Azera MoonHawk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2006 Report Share Posted June 12, 2006 Your sl sweet Angelina, Your right...I have been unfair to my soul and spirit not be stronger a long time ago. I just got him to sign the title to the car I drive...so far so good...every thing is falling into place. Love and Blessings, DebbyCrystalHealing- workshop , " Angelina Thelin " <Angelina.Thelin wrote: > > Debby > dear I want you to remember something, you do not have to save the world. > you are a wonderfull person and deserve all the blessings, love and light > this life can offer. you do not have to put up with emotional/mental abuse, > or physical abuse. Anyone who you may have in your life that may say other > wise is an abuser, and it is not your fault. Remember you have a path in > life and so does he, just because he has chosen a path of abuse towards > other, doesnt mean you have to follow it or put up with his abuse. > > You are following the right path, remeber you do not have to save the world > to make it to a higher path. some rescues require someone else to work on > them, and I believe he is not one you should work with. You are worth so > much more than he is willing to offer and he is not doing you a favor you > were doing him the favor. > -- > Have a Happy and Keep Smiling > TTFN > Angelina Thelin > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2006 Report Share Posted September 4, 2006 , " Debby " <shesmagick wrote: > > I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel > awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been > living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very > abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded > animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help > and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very > distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's > negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he > just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe > that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to > make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers > will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to > leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need > him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything > we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get > that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on > like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am > not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I > really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my > children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have > threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The > reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living > with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint...(he would not > let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. > I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I > found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the > Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He > threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as > well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so > that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If > he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels > he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that > you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't > I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me > and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, > that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to > be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I > need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, > there is strength in numbers. > Thanking you all in Advance, > In her Honor, > Debby aka Azera MoonHawk > You were all so wonderful and sent powerful healing energies. Well Derrell's tourchered soul and the Goddess have taken things into their hands and Saturday Derrell fell from a 2 story roof. ( He was a roofer by trade) He landed on his head and has damaged his stem cell, and most of his brain...He is brain dead, and still on life support. I don't know who made the call...but they are keeping him on for a few more days...He is not there, I have been with him most of the last 2 days and at one point his fever shot to 113...and his blood pressure was 173 the low one...I did some reiki, and energy work to help his body calm down. When I left his temp was 99.3 and his blood pressure was 117. I pray to the Goddess that his crossing be peaceful and joyful. I am still in shock and can't stop crying...I felt so sorry for him and I was so afraid of him at the same time...he will finally have peace and not be afraid any more. As we witches all know anger and almost all negative emotions stem from fear. I know that I will be better soon, but right now I am just a basket case...Please send me calming energies . He was pronounced dead last night at 11:32PM and they waited until this morning when we were all there to unhook him from the machines. Thank you all for everything...it's finally over...but ending in such a tramatic fashion has just thrown me for a loop. Thank You and Many Blessings, In her Honor, Azera MoonHawk aka Debby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2006 Report Share Posted September 5, 2006 I am very sorry for what you have been going through sending healing energy Love Sandria On 9/4/06, Debby <shesmagick wrote: > > --- In <%40.co\ m>, > " Debby " > <shesmagick wrote: > > > > I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel > > awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been > > living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very > > abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded > > animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help > > and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very > > distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's > > negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and > he > > just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the > universe > > that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell > to > > make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers > > will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him > to > > leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need > > him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. > Everything > > we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get > > that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on > > like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am > > not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I > > really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my > > children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they > have > > threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The > > reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living > > with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint...(he would > not > > let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in > prison. > > I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I > > found out then that he has been abusing people for a long > time...the > > Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He > > threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as > > well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any > woman...so > > that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. > If > > he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels > > he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the > rent...that > > you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I > won't > > I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me > > and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, > > that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to > > be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I > > need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and > Witches, > > there is strength in numbers. > > Thanking you all in Advance, > > In her Honor, > > Debby aka Azera MoonHawk > > > You were all so wonderful and sent powerful healing energies. > Well Derrell's tourchered soul and the Goddess have taken things > into their hands and Saturday Derrell fell from a 2 story roof. ( He > was a roofer by trade) He landed on his head and has damaged his > stem cell, and most of his brain...He is brain dead, and still on > life support. I don't know who made the call...but they are keeping > him on for a few more days...He is not there, I have been with him > most of the last 2 days and at one point his fever shot to 113...and > his blood pressure was 173 the low one...I did some reiki, and > energy work to help his body calm down. When I left his temp was > 99.3 and his blood pressure was 117. I pray to the Goddess that his > crossing be peaceful and joyful. I am still in shock and can't stop > crying...I felt so sorry for him and I was so afraid of him at the > same time...he will finally have peace and not be afraid any more. > As we witches all know anger and almost all negative emotions stem > from fear. I know that I will be better soon, but right now I am > just a basket case...Please send me calming energies . He was > pronounced dead last night at 11:32PM and they waited until this > morning when we were all there to unhook him from the machines. > Thank you all for everything...it's finally over...but ending in > such a tramatic fashion has just thrown me for a loop. > Thank You and Many Blessings, > In her Honor, > Azera MoonHawk aka Debby > > > -- www.youngliving.org/sldecker keeping family healthy the natural way with young living essential oils and natural suppliments!! http://health.lilpixierose a great new group for EOs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2006 Report Share Posted September 5, 2006 Aloha and Blessings Debby! I have worked with both abused women and children and as a mentor for a families extricating themselves from drug related issues, so will share the following with love. . Number 1 and this is VERY important. If you are in physical danger or see it as likely leave where you are. Sounds easy, but it may be the most difficult step you take. Contact a local women's safe shelter. If one is not listed in phone book, call the local emergency or police number. If you've been putting up with this for a long time, you may want to let yourself think that things will be better tomorrow. Not so. You can already see the signs and you owe it to yourself and children to act now. Ask for the help of someone you trust to gather what little you need and go as discreetly as possible. Announcing your intentions to your partner will only complicate things. Number 2 Remind yourself that the issue is not about changing the abusive partner, it is about moving yourself to a safe place and creating the life that you want and deserve. Abusive partners have a tendency to hook us into believing we are responsible for their behavior and that only we can help them. There are legal protections and issues that are complicated to deal with and those those operating the safe shelters are experienced with such and will guide you through everything necessary to make a change. Do it now, don't wait. Number 3. Forgive yourself for any part you feel you've played in creating this drama. You created a lesson and that's what we're here to do-honor the lessons we've chosen to walk through in this lifetime. We have all been in situations we've created that take an incredible amount of intent to change. You'll have your turn to give back at some point so don't hesitate in asking for help. Number 4. Most women stay in abusive relationships for financial reasons. Even if you only have the shirt on your back leave. The change will be drastic but everything will fall into place within a number of weeks and you will wonder why, oh why, you ever put up with the abuse for so long. Number 5. Everyone reading this is cheering for you. YOU GO GIRL! If you work with the crystal beings find a piece of Rose Quartz. Ask it in assisting you in opening your heart to receiving love. Wear it, carry it, sleep with it. If you don't have a piece close by, ask for it's presence to come to you and work with you. If you want to contact me directly I will send a piece to you. Black Tourmaline and Golden Tiger's Eye are often used for personal protection. Allow your intuition to guide you in how to use them. Citrine is wonderful in transmuting energy from negative to positive. I sometimes wear a piece near the solar plexus area. I also like to keep a piece visible to remind me of our connection to the sun and other galaxies. For some reason, I'm being guided to mention Green and Peach Aventurine, Serpentine (a form of Jade), Blue Lace Agate and Angelite and Aquamarine. Just remember that there is no right or wrong stone. Using the guideline--Intuition, Attention and Intention will offer everything you need. If a stone is not available simply ask for it's presence and guidance. We're all rooting for you. Respond when you are able, but don't do so at the expense of moving to a safe place. In Light and Love. . .Skye Debby <shesmagick wrote: , " Debby " <shesmagick wrote: > > I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel > awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been > living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very > abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded > animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help > and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very > distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's > negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and he > just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the universe > that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell to > make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers > will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him to > leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need > him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. Everything > we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get > that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on > like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am > not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I > really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my > children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they have > threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The > reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living > with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint...(he would not > let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in prison. > I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I > found out then that he has been abusing people for a long time...the > Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He > threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as > well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any woman...so > that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. If > he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels > he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the rent...that > you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I won't > I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me > and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, > that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to > be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I > need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and Witches, > there is strength in numbers. > Thanking you all in Advance, > In her Honor, > Debby aka Azera MoonHawk > You were all so wonderful and sent powerful healing energies. Well Derrell's tourchered soul and the Goddess have taken things into their hands and Saturday Derrell fell from a 2 story roof. ( He was a roofer by trade) He landed on his head and has damaged his stem cell, and most of his brain...He is brain dead, and still on life support. I don't know who made the call...but they are keeping him on for a few more days...He is not there, I have been with him most of the last 2 days and at one point his fever shot to 113...and his blood pressure was 173 the low one...I did some reiki, and energy work to help his body calm down. When I left his temp was 99.3 and his blood pressure was 117. I pray to the Goddess that his crossing be peaceful and joyful. I am still in shock and can't stop crying...I felt so sorry for him and I was so afraid of him at the same time...he will finally have peace and not be afraid any more. As we witches all know anger and almost all negative emotions stem from fear. I know that I will be better soon, but right now I am just a basket case...Please send me calming energies . He was pronounced dead last night at 11:32PM and they waited until this morning when we were all there to unhook him from the machines. Thank you all for everything...it's finally over...but ending in such a tramatic fashion has just thrown me for a loop. Thank You and Many Blessings, In her Honor, Azera MoonHawk aka Debby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 That would throw anyone through a loop! I've been thinking about your post all day. Healing, calming Reiki coming at you. Deb , " Sandria Decker " <lphoenixstar wrote: > > I am very sorry for what you have been going through sending healing energy > Love Sandria > > On 9/4/06, Debby <shesmagick wrote: > > > > <CrystalHealing- workshop%40>, > > " Debby " > > <shesmagick@> wrote: > > > > > > I have never asked for help before and have been a lurker , I feel > > > awkward but I am desperate and really need some help. I have been > > > living with a man for about 7 years...he was in prison and very > > > abused and broken when I met him. I have always rescued wounded > > > animals and people. DUH! At first he showed signs of wanting help > > > and change, but recently...the last 2 years he has become very > > > distant and cruel. Usually he does not speak....when he does it's > > > negative and mean. I have tried several times to talk to him and > > he > > > just gets mad, so I back off. I am putting in out to the > > universe > > > that he needs to go some where else. I do not want to do a spell > > to > > > make him leave because of the repercussions of effecting anothers > > > will. I am really afraid of him. I have not told him I want him > > to > > > leave, I have just said I can't live this way any more and I need > > > him to try and get some help. He gets really mad then. > > Everything > > > we have is in my name ...except the car I drive...I know I can get > > > that title changed over pretty easily. I am sorry to be going on > > > like this, but this is a really scary situation. Financially I am > > > not sure I can stay in my rental home alone...I think I can if I > > > really cut back. I am scared that he will hurt me or my > > > children...they are all grown and don't live with me, but they > > have > > > threatened him before when he got abusive.(only verbally). The > > > reason he was in prison was because he hit a woman he was living > > > with...(not the first time) and felonious restraint...(he would > > not > > > let her leave)...she pressed charges and he spent 3 years in > > prison. > > > I had a restraining order on him at first, when he pushed me and I > > > found out then that he has been abusing people for a long > > time...the > > > Magistrate said " have you seen his rap sheet? Are you crazy? " He > > > threatened to kill her because of that He has threatened me as > > > well, but says he won't go back to prison because of any > > woman...so > > > that is the only thing that has kept him from hitting me so far. > > If > > > he gets into a blind rage I don't know what he would do...He feels > > > he has done me a favor staying her and helping with the > > rent...that > > > you would have to do any where you live. I could go on, but I > > won't > > > I hope you get the picture. Please send protective energies to me > > > and my children, and courage for me to do what I know I must do, > > > that Derrell (his name) go in peace and be where he needs to be to > > > be happy and also the the finances that I need fall into place. I > > > need lots of power and intent from you wonderful Pagans and > > Witches, > > > there is strength in numbers. > > > Thanking you all in Advance, > > > In her Honor, > > > Debby aka Azera MoonHawk > > > > > You were all so wonderful and sent powerful healing energies. > > Well Derrell's tourchered soul and the Goddess have taken things > > into their hands and Saturday Derrell fell from a 2 story roof. ( He > > was a roofer by trade) He landed on his head and has damaged his > > stem cell, and most of his brain...He is brain dead, and still on > > life support. I don't know who made the call...but they are keeping > > him on for a few more days...He is not there, I have been with him > > most of the last 2 days and at one point his fever shot to 113...and > > his blood pressure was 173 the low one...I did some reiki, and > > energy work to help his body calm down. When I left his temp was > > 99.3 and his blood pressure was 117. I pray to the Goddess that his > > crossing be peaceful and joyful. I am still in shock and can't stop > > crying...I felt so sorry for him and I was so afraid of him at the > > same time...he will finally have peace and not be afraid any more. > > As we witches all know anger and almost all negative emotions stem > > from fear. I know that I will be better soon, but right now I am > > just a basket case...Please send me calming energies . He was > > pronounced dead last night at 11:32PM and they waited until this > > morning when we were all there to unhook him from the machines. > > Thank you all for everything...it's finally over...but ending in > > such a tramatic fashion has just thrown me for a loop. > > Thank You and Many Blessings, > > In her Honor, > > Azera MoonHawk aka Debby > > > > > > > > > > -- > www.youngliving.org/sldecker > > keeping family healthy the natural way > with young living essential oils and natural suppliments!! > > http://health.lilpixierose > a great new group for EOs. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2006 Report Share Posted September 6, 2006 Usually I trim my posts but this one deserves a second look. What Skye has written here should be put on huge billboards across the world!!! L & L Tom , Skye Coe <mauiskye1 wrote: > > Aloha and Blessings Debby! > > I have worked with both abused women and children and as a mentor for a families extricating themselves from drug related issues, so will share the following with love. . > > Number 1 and this is VERY important. If you are in physical danger or see it as likely leave where you are. Sounds easy, but it may be the most difficult step you take. Contact a local women's safe shelter. If one is not listed in phone book, call the local emergency or police number. If you've been putting up with this for a long time, you may want to let yourself think that things will be better tomorrow. Not so. You can already see the signs and you owe it to yourself and children to act now. Ask for the help of someone you trust to gather what little you need and go as discreetly as possible. Announcing your intentions to your partner will only complicate things. > > Number 2 Remind yourself that the issue is not about changing the abusive partner, it is about moving yourself to a safe place and creating the life that you want and deserve. Abusive partners have a tendency to hook us into believing we are responsible for their behavior and that only we can help them. There are legal protections and issues that are complicated to deal with and those those operating the safe shelters are experienced with such and will guide you through everything necessary to make a change. Do it now, don't wait. > > Number 3. Forgive yourself for any part you feel you've played in creating this drama. You created a lesson and that's what we're here to do-honor the lessons we've chosen to walk through in this lifetime. We have all been in situations we've created that take an incredible amount of intent to change. You'll have your turn to give back at some point so don't hesitate in asking for help. > > Number 4. Most women stay in abusive relationships for financial reasons. Even if you only have the shirt on your back leave. The change will be drastic but everything will fall into place within a number of weeks and you will wonder why, oh why, you ever put up with the abuse for so long. > > Number 5. Everyone reading this is cheering for you. YOU GO GIRL! > > > If you work with the crystal beings find a piece of Rose Quartz. Ask it in assisting you in opening your heart to receiving love. Wear it, carry it, sleep with it. If you don't have a piece close by, ask for it's presence to come to you and work with you. If you want to contact me directly I will send a piece to you. > > Black Tourmaline and Golden Tiger's Eye are often used for personal protection. Allow your intuition to guide you in how to use them. > > Citrine is wonderful in transmuting energy from negative to positive. I sometimes wear a piece near the solar plexus area. I also like to keep a piece visible to remind me of our connection to the sun and other galaxies. > > For some reason, I'm being guided to mention Green and Peach Aventurine, Serpentine (a form of Jade), Blue Lace Agate and Angelite and Aquamarine. Just remember that there is no right or wrong stone. Using the guideline--Intuition, Attention and Intention will offer everything you need. If a stone is not available simply ask for it's presence and guidance. > > We're all rooting for you. Respond when you are able, but don't do so at the expense of moving to a safe place. > > In Light and Love. . .Skye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2006 Report Share Posted September 7, 2006 Thanks you all for all your love and healing...I know it's helping...The funeral is Friday and I will be much better when that is through. All my Love and Blessings, In her Honor, Debby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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