Guest guest Posted July 16, 2005 Report Share Posted July 16, 2005 Hello everyone, I have a significant other and he his having a hard time dealing with his past. His father left his family when he was 6 yrs. old and they still talk. He has his mother but as a child she was working to jobs and was often left alone. He has a lot of anger and resentment about his childhood and basically growing up. He doen't care about making the right choices and chooses to sulk in it. This started about 8 months ago and it is affecting our relationship. I try to show him that letting go the past along with the anger, gulit, and resentment is the only way to be set free. I let him know that he deserves to be happy and not have to carry all the emotions that he carries with him. But he doesn't want to take my help because he feels bad for hurting me. He feels like he doens't deserve forgiveness or love. His crutch right now is alcohal and I am afraid that he might be on the road to become an alcoholic. Please help me send healing and unconditional love energy through him. Thank you, God Bless! Crystal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2005 Report Share Posted July 16, 2005 Hi Crystal, First of all, use what you like and disregard the rest. I am not sure you will appreciate my reply, but the second thing I want to say to you with all love is, this sounds like his issue/problem/situation. As such, he needs to be ready and willing for healing in order for any changes to occur. It sounds as if you are more motivated in this than he is, which is still perfect. You need to let go of the situation in order for changes to happen -- as long as you are trying (ever so kindly) to force the issue, the automatic reaction is of pushing back. So, I won't be sending healing energy. But, I ask myself, what might I do if I were in a similar situation? I would work on myself and my acceptance of the situation. I would also bring crystals into the mix, because that is what I do when I am working on issues myself. What would I surround myself with? Amethyst stands up and shouts to be heard above all the others who are volunteering. Cats eye selenite along with smoky citrine, my 2 favorite friends for dealing with past issues of hurt/anger/being a victim/etc. One of those red sputnik aragonite clusters -- they can hide if need be. As far as I can come in manipulating another is this: I would place the aragonite on a table near where he likes to sit. Rose quartz in large numbers. I would bathe with lepidolite for its calming effects. And black tourmaline to wear. Blue moss agate, which is the most wonderful aid in speaking your truth I've felt in a very long time. Blue kyanite for its ability to align chakras and not take on negativity. Carnelian in plenty, too. Again, use what you like and throw away the rest. I wish you the best of luck in this path you have chosen. Love, Light and Blessings to us all, Diana Endresen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2005 Report Share Posted July 16, 2005 Crystal I have just sent healing and loving energy to both you and your other. Also requesting he be open to this healing for the Greatest Good. Blessings, Cee , " crystalpascua " <crystalpascua> wrote: > Hello everyone, > > I have a significant other and he his having a hard time dealing > with his past. His father left his family when he was 6 yrs. old > and they still talk. He has his mother but as a child she was > working to jobs and was often left alone. He has a lot of anger and > resentment about his childhood and basically growing up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2005 Report Share Posted July 17, 2005 , " crystalpascua " <crystalpascua> wrote: > I have a significant other and he his having a hard time dealing > with his past. But he doesn't want to take my help because he feels bad for hurting me. He feels like he doens't deserve forgiveness or love. ---------- I heard the best line the other day from a movie no less. It said, " Why do we fall?.... So that we may learn how to pick ourselves up. " And that is our existence on this dimension explained in one sentence. We are here to experience concepts of humanity, in this case, abandonment and unacceptability, and overcome it. In the process of overcoming we learn how to be perfect being human. The gift is the learning. If we get bogged down in the emotion of the situation, we never get to the learning part. We get stuck in anger or hate and stay in a place where we think that we are justified in feeling the way that we do. Do we want to feel justified or do we want to be happy? As difficult as it to watch as someone we love struggles with aspects of their learning, we cannot rush in to save them from themselves. Sometimes we have to love someone enough not to take away their opportunity to learn the lesson for if they do not learn it this time, the lesson will come up again for them later. These lessons are not punishments, they are blessings in disguise. Once the lesson is truly learned, it need not be repeated again. We cannot learn another's lessons for them. We can only be there to love them and support them during the process of the journey of their soul. And as learning is never onesided, please look, too, what is the learning for you in this situation. My prayers are that everyone, in accordance with their greatest and highest good, sees with clear eyes whatever needs to be seen and learns whatever need to be learned. Blessings, Margit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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