bacon and pork and wow....

April 9, 2008

I am really surprised at the pork discussion. I didn't think that Gina was expressing belief in the article as she noted that she was a pork eater. She was merely sharing some information that she'd read along the way in order for anyone to either glean wisdom from it and either share more information, confirm or deny the information or continue on in their own googling to discover more information for themselves. That's what discussion is? I had actually read some of the same info that she posted somewhere along the way...I wish I could remember the book. We eat pork. It's not our primary source of protein but we do eat it. For the person who said they don't always feel well after eating bacon, I wonder if that's the MSG that is used in bacon and other processed meats. I know people that are highly allergic to it. Though I think there is MSG in ham as well so that would blow that

theory..... Still, I can't help but feel bad that Gina left the group feeling attacked. We need to give the benefit of the doubt since we can't see one another. So much feeling/thoughts/emotions can be lost in the process of emails..... Just some thoughts from WI Vicki

April 9, 2008

Not to worry.....sometimes it's just easy for things to get out of hand. It's a good reminder to all of us to be "kind" as Celia said (welcome back, Cee!) and to also remember that things should not be taken too seriously. It's easy to get offended when no offense was actually meant. We all feel so passionate about what we feel is "right".....it's also easy to leave in a huff, without making the effort to turn the situation around. It was Gina's decision to leave, and I respect that, but she also could have chosen to stay and work things out.

People come and go, and most don't even make an attempt to participate in the group. A group is only as good as we make it. I appreciate all of you who DO contribute to our little group. :-)Cyndi

In a message dated 4/9/2008 9:13:34 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time, suprmommy writes:

I have to admit I feel responsible. I asked the bacon grease question. I never intended for things to go like this. I got a lot of messages about that post and some were helpful and some I didn't think i would use. But it was great to get others opinions. I know not every one in the world agrees with everything I do. Just like I may not agree with others. But if you plan on educating people about things you feel are "right" then being mean is not the way to do it. Say for instance you could have changed her mind about pork... now all that happened was she quit the group and doesn't want to hear anything about it. Where as if things went a little more civilly she might still be here and who knows ... trying pork or something. Just a thought.

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April 9, 2008

I agree, Vicki! I've been lurking and reading old posts to play

catch-up, and I felt bad when I saw what happened to Gina. Call me

old-fashioned, but I believe politeness and civility go a long way;

one can disagree or debate one another without being rude or

hurtful. It's often not *what* is said, but *how* it is said.

As for me, I try to remember not to take things personally if someone

else is having a bad day. I try to remember it's better to be " kind "

than to be " right. " I also try--but sometimes fail--to treat people

the way I would want to be treated, so I posted a saying on my

kitchen wall as a reminder to myself:

" Because Nice Matters... "

Regards,

Celia

RealSimple , Vicki Fitzsimmons <fitzfam5

wrote:

>

> I am really surprised at the pork discussion. I didn't think that

Gina was expressing belief in the article as she noted that she was a

pork eater. She was merely sharing some information that she'd read

along the way in order for anyone to either glean wisdom from it and

either share more information, confirm or deny the information or

continue on in their own googling to discover more information for

themselves. That's what discussion is? I had actually read some of

the same info that she posted somewhere along the way...I wish I

could remember the book. We eat pork. It's not our primary source

of protein but we do eat it. For the person who said they don't

always feel well after eating bacon, I wonder if that's the MSG that

is used in bacon and other processed meats. I know people that are

highly allergic to it. Though I think there is MSG in ham as well so

that would blow that theory.....

> Still, I can't help but feel bad that Gina left the group feeling

attacked. We need to give the benefit of the doubt since we can't

see one another. So much feeling/thoughts/emotions can be lost in

the process of emails.....

> Just some thoughts from WI

> Vicki

April 9, 2008

I have to admit I feel responsible. I asked the bacon grease question. I never intended for things to go like this. I got a lot of messages about that post and some were helpful and some I didn't think i would use. But it was great to get others opinions. I know not every one in the world agrees with everything I do. Just like I may not agree with others. But if you plan on educating people about things you feel are " right " then being mean is not the way to do it. Say for instance you could have changed her mind about pork... now all that happened was she quit the group and doesn't want to hear anything about it. Where as if things went a little more civilly she might still be here and who knows ... trying pork or something. Just a thought.

On Wed, Apr 9, 2008 at 12:09 PM, lady_celia <lady_celia wrote: