Spring Season and Anger Management

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Spring Season and Anger Management

 

Anger is the feeling we experience when events in our world are not

going according to our plans. Anger is one of the most common and

destructive delusions, and it afflicts our mind. Because it is based

on an exaggeration, anger is an unrealistic mind; the intrinsically

faulty person or thing that it focuses on does not in fact exist.

It's as if we have an inner idea of how things, events and people

should be. When we get angry and either feel frustrated or try to

change them, we tend to give away our power! Many of us remain a

victim to our tempers all of our lives. In essence, anger is the

feeling we get when we want to control the world about us.

 

In Traditional , anger is most prevelant in the

Spring. It is considered the emotion of Spring. Although we can and

do experience anger at any time or season, it is Spring when we are

most easily angered. This is believed to be due to the changes of

light and dark and the balance between them.

 

It is very important to identify the actual cause of whatever

unhappiness we feel. If we are forever blaming our difficulties on

others, this is a sure sign that there are still many problems and

faults within our own mind. If we were truly peaceful inside and had

our mind under control, difficult people or circumstances would not

be able to disturb this peace, and so we would feel no compulsion to

blame anyone or regard them as our enemy. To someone who has subdued

his or her mind and eradicated the last trace of anger, all beings

are friends. Anger is the feeling we experience when events in our

world are not going according to our plans. Anger is one of the most

common and destructive delusions, and it afflicts our mind. Because

it is based on an exaggeration, anger is an unrealistic mind; the

intrinsically faulty person or thing that it focuses on does not in

fact exist. It's as if we have an inner idea of how things, events

and people should be. When we get angry and either feel frustrated or

try to change them, we tend to give away our power! Many of us remain

a victim to our tempers all of our lives. In essence, anger is the

feeling we get when we want to control the world about us.

 

In Traditional , anger is most prevelant in the

Spring. It is considered the emotion of Spring. Although we can and

do experience anger at any time or season, it is Spring when we are

most easily angered. This is believed to be due to the changes of

light and dark and the balance between them.

 

It is very important to identify the actual cause of whatever

unhappiness we feel. If we are forever blaming our difficulties on

others, this is a sure sign that there are still many problems and

faults within our own mind. If we were truly peaceful inside and had

our mind under control, difficult people or circumstances would not

be able to disturb this peace, and so we would feel no compulsion to

blame anyone or regard them as our enemy. To someone who has subdued

his or her mind and eradicated the last trace of anger, all beings

are friends.

 

Techniques for Managing Anger

 

1. The first step towards managing anger, is to identify mistaken

attitudes and convictions that predispose us to being excessively

angry in the first place! Once these mistakes have been corrected, we

will be less likely to fly off the handle than we were in the past.

 

2. The second step is to identify those factors from our childhood

that prevents us from expressing our anger as appropriately as we

otherwise might. These factors include fear, denial, ignorance

impatience... These blocks to the effective and appropriate

management of our anger towards others can be removed so that our

suppressed anger will NOT compound itself inside of us as it has been

doing for years.

 

3. The third step is learning the appropriate modes of expressing

our " legitimate " anger at others so that we can begin to cope more

effectively with anger provoking situations as they arise in our

lives. When we are anxious or depressed, we are often experiencing

the consequences of our suppressed anger. The problem is that we have

suppressed our anger so deeply that we succeeded in concealing it

from our own selves! All we are left with is the residual evidence of

it, our anxiety or our depression. When we are depressed, very often

we are also angry at our self without realizing it. Learning to

appropriately manage our anger at ourselves is the antidote to much

of alcoholism, drugs and sexual abuse.

 

4. The fourth step in the Anger Management process is to bind the

wounds that may have been left by the potentially devastating

emotional impact of anger. " Anger wounds " left in us against those

who have wronged us. If we do not complete this step, we will cling

to the resentment of having been done wrong and will carry the

residue of our anger and rage in our hearts forever. One of the most

effective means of giving ourselves immediate relief from anger in

our personal relationships is to forgive others.

 

Forgiveness

 

The need to understand the power and place of forgiveness in our

world is important in the healing process. It is urgent that we

examine the steps that lead to justice and strengthen society. We

need to understand how forgiveness improves the human condition. How

do we choose to forgive? What are the effects of holding grudges and

seeking revenge? We can find a way to balance our need for security

with the potential for granting forgiveness. Forgiveness offers the

possibility of two types of peace: peace of mind -- the potential

healing of old emotional wounds, and peace with others -- the

possibility of new, more gratifying relationships in the future.

 

Patience

 

Patience is a mind that is able to accept, fully and happily,

whatever occurs. It is much more than just gritting our teeth and

putting up with things. Being patient means to welcome wholeheartedly

whatever arises, having given up the idea that things should be other

than what they are. It is always possible to be patient; there is no

situation so bad that it cannot be accepted patiently, with an open,

accommodating, and peaceful heart.When patience is present in our

mind it is impossible for unhappy thoughts to gain a foothold.

 

There are many examples of people who have managed to practice

patience even in the most extreme circumstances, such as under

torture or in the final ravages of cancer. Although their body was

ruined beyond repair, deep down their mind remained at peace. By

learning to accept the small difficulties and hardships that arise

every day in the course of our lives, gradually our capacity for

patient acceptance will increase and we shall come to know for

ourself the freedom and joy that true patience brings.

 

 

Andrew Pacholyk MS, L.Ac.

Peacefulmind.com

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