Gut Honesty

[Guest guest]

Gut Honesty

By Angel Femia

Of LoveCry

 

When anyone cames to LoveCry we very clearly explain that everyone on

the planet is an abuser of some sorts. This is not a judgment at all

it is just plain fact. If anyone judges, gets angry and brakes

something, curses or even has negative thoughts we are abusing. Many

just don't understand due to ego and pride. For many years now pride

has been humans worst enemy but somehow we tend to believe that this

form of self indulgence called pride is good for us. The Human Ego is

being fed non-stop and many of us walk around living an illusion. Then

when we are faced with the fact that we are living in an illusion we

get defensive, angry and resentful.

 

In my opinion anything that gets in the way of myself being the best

person I am able to be each day and healing, is a problem not a

solution. Pride and Ego would most definitely stop me from being gut

honest with myself about my personal mistakes in life. This would

block myself from being honest and healing.

 

Many people have asked me why I don't have loads of friends around me

all the time. They also ask why people get so angry with me. These are

very good questions as I love people and work hard to treat everyone

with respect. Of course I am far from perfect. In my mind friends are

not just there for the good, happy times but for the worst of times.

If I find that if my friend is being dishonest with themselves for any

reason I feel obligated as a friend to help this friend to see the

truth. This of course includes my friend being abusive. If I feel my

friend is being abusive towards themselves or others, I try to find

the best wording I am able to get that point across without causing

pride and ego to jump up in defense. Most times this is imposable

therefore I am unable to be true friends under such circumstances.

 

Also I find that no one can be a friend to anyone unless they are

first a friend and honest to themselves. In no way does it mean that I

do not care in fact quite the opposite. If I did not care I would just

shut up and not even try to straighten things out at all. In fact I

put it all on the line trying to help my friend to understand. I have

totaled relationships trying to get through to people that they are

hurting others with their thought, words or deeds.

 

Another very important reason for having few friends is that many

people refuse any friendship that is offered. A real friend would not

let a friend screw up their head, life or the ones they love. With

such huge pride and ego factors people make it imposable to be a true

friend to them. If I try to point out something I believe a person is

doing incorrectly, this makes many people angry and emotions rise,

then an argument starts. Due to my own abuse problems, that I work on

daily and will till I die, this anger freaks me out and I become

defensive therefore producing a grave fear within myself of

approaching these people with any sort of problem. After this

suppressed problems mount until there is an even worse explosion. This

reaction is very common amongst abused victims and survivors.

 

 

Lets get something straight first. At no time did I intentionally put

anyone down. Even most of the mistakes people have made were simply

noted, put aside and I showed them a better way at a later date. I do

not believe anyone is incompetent or unable to do anything they set

their minds to do. Not even after all of this crap that has been

happening in my life thus far.

 

I work with street kids and if I even cared weather they did a great

job or not I would be at the end of my rope all the time. Most of the

time I spend finishing what they started because they just leave. In

other words it would not matter how many mistakes anyone including you

made we would just do it again and again until it was done right. No

judging just do it again and work to do it better. Sooner or later we

will get it right.

 

Whatever it is anyone is going through, everyone needs to be bottom

line honest with them-selves even when it tears their pride to shreds.

When we say all humans are abusers we mean just that and are totally

serious. We know that one does not mature unless they are willing,

ready and able to see themselves in totality. Totality takes in all

negative factors as well as the positive ones of us as humans, what we

are capable of and how serious it is to face our misgivings and

correct them to the best of our abilities. Most adult humans are quite

willing to face the positive ones but hideously ashamed and in denial

of the negative ones. We cannot expect the kids to face reality if we

are as adults not willing to do the same. With this approach {adults

being in denial} how can any of us truly heal?

 

Abuse starts with a thought and grows into larger more hateful things.

It come in various degrees so does the hate that is within the abuse.

Pride will keep you caught up on the Title. The title is just a word

for the problem and should be dealt with as such. There is no room for

any form of pride there. We are all HUMANS and are literally the same

in this matter.

 

Even if Mother Theresa, one of the most Saintly people on the earth,

thought Angel is an asshole. This thought is negative, degrading and

is considered to be abusive therefore it is abuse.

 

Do you know what Hate truly is:

Hate is the product of negativity weather thought, word or action.

 

Example:

If I think you are a shit head. There is negative energy rises from

my soul towards you and that energy is hate.

 

1.Every negative {judgments ect.} thought we have and allow ourselves

to have sends out hateful energy from our souls to whatever or

whomever we are projecting towards.

 

2. Gossip is a form of hate if that talk is negative. The person being

spoken about will feel and react due to the energy that the words

others are saying regarding them but they may not ever know where that

negativity or mood change came from, Unless they are using their

psychic abilities.

 

3. Any form of Manipulation {whether it be for a good reason or not}

is a lie, usually in silent form or forms of double messaging, which

lies to the intended victim as well as yourself and is another form of

psychic abuse. Every time we lie either to our-selves or others we are

doing damage to both our emotions and our bodies. Of course as you

know, lies destroy our souls from reaching each other. They block the

energy flow; therefore closing off the love we may feel towards others

and ourselves. Deceit is the gravest of hates on the planet.

Manipulation does more damage to a human mind then most physical

abuses ever do. The silence of this type of abuse makes the problem

much worse.

 

Example:

1. If I try to talk to someone about a problem and they pretend they

are not home to answer my phone call when they are sitting right

beside that phone but just don't want to or flat out refuse to deal

with this problem that is manipulation , deceit and therefore abuse.

2. Another is if I or anyone just ignores any problem and refuse to

take the time to deal with and resolve said problem this is neglect

and therefore abuse.

3. If I or anyone refuses to listen without interruption to another

with a problem, this is again shutting them out and therefore abuse.

And there are many more!

 

4. The sex game. One of the most widely used control games humans play

on each other. It is the major foundation of the reason our family

unit is falling apart. {When the sex game is played on an unsuspecting

person they truly believe they are in love. Huge mistakes in judgment

are then made even to marriage and children. This union disintegrates

{real love does not do this} and everyone is ripped on all major human

levels possible} This particular manipulation takes over all of our

beings and produces emotional basket cases that believe they are in

love when in fact all they are in is lust. Due to the fact that humans

have not realized this game and the damages done playing or playing

into it we are literally destroying ourselves with it. If you truly

look you will see that most of the suicides preformed in the

entertainment industry began with the sex games.

 

I could go on with this topic forever feel this is a great deal for

anyone to take in all at once. I pray you will read this with the care

and love it is being shared.

 

If you look into love you will se the exact same the only difference

is that love derives from positive thought.