Guest guest Posted June 23, 2009 Report Share Posted June 23, 2009 It seems like so many challenges during pregnancy and postpartum get blamed on something the mother ate, drank, took, thought or didn't do. Mothers are already so vulnerable to feeling guilty for anything that happens to their babies. I think we need to remember in our professional advice and efforts to build the moms up and compliment them on all their dedication, sacrifices and capability...all the things they are doing right. Babies feel their mothers confidence and strength and we are in a perfect position to boost that for them. Vicky York, CPD, IBCLC Postpartum Care Services Portland, OR www.vickyyorkdoula.com references: www.ikarma.com/user/vmyork Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 You are so right Vicky, thanks. Yes, I find it very important part of how anything is communicated to a mom. I wish you could attend some client home visits and consults and see how much relationship nourishment is an integral part of how we work with Ayurveda. It is not blaming like you say, it has to be in terms of supporting her in her own self referral dynamics. Like, talking about the natural conditions we all as mothers have going on in our body. When I advise drinking more warm liquids, for instance, I remind them how hot water washes the dishes much better than cold or cool, and warmth helps relax and expand the body channels. since our ability to digest and cleanse is temporarily slowed down after giving so much to the birthing needs, we naturally need help warming the waters, restoring digestive " fires " or strength, and deserve these supports, it is natural. Sometimes it's helpful to ask her to consider just 1-2 days of following one or two changes (often it is just, drinking only warm liquids, when her and Baby's digestion is really gassy) to see how she feels. Then the experience convinces. Anyway, it can be an ongoing story process along with education, that is intended to help the mother see for herself why food choices and lifestyle keys are something she wants. It really does make a difference how we talk about it. It is true that natural medicine and health care are all about taking responsibility for our own health. Even a doctor, a pill, anything that helps works only if it helps remind and restore the healthy functioning of our own biological intelligence. Ayurved properly taught gives this as core, and joyfully empowers a mother to more deeply access her own inner wisdom and self restoring dynamics. Thanks! Ysha > It seems like so many challenges during pregnancy and postpartum get blamed on something the mother ate, drank, took, thought or didn't do. Mothers are already so vulnerable to feeling guilty for anything that happens to their babies. I think we need to remember in our professional advice and efforts to build the moms up and Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2009 Report Share Posted June 24, 2009 I agree with all that you say Ysha. What got me going was something someone said about the parents thoughts influencing the baby, can't remember now what they said. Vicky York, CPD, IBCLC Postpartum Care Services Portland, OR www.vickyyorkdoula.com references: www.ikarma.com/user/vmyork - Ysha Oakes ayurveda Tuesday, June 23, 2009 9:11 PM PerinatalAyurveda forum Re: our words are powerful You are so right Vicky, thanks. Yes, I find it very important part of how anything is communicated to a mom. I wish you could attend some client home visits and consults and see how much relationship nourishment is an integral part of how we work with Ayurveda. It is not blaming like you say, it has to be in terms of supporting her in her own self referral dynamics. Like, talking about the natural conditions we all as mothers have going on in our body. When I advise drinking more warm liquids, for instance, I remind them how hot water washes the dishes much better than cold or cool, and warmth helps relax and expand the body channels. since our ability to digest and cleanse is temporarily slowed down after giving so much to the birthing needs, we naturally need help warming the waters, restoring digestive " fires " or strength, and deserve these supports, it is natural. Sometimes it's helpful to ask her to consider just 1-2 days of following one or two changes (often it is just, drinking only warm liquids, when her and Baby's digestion is really gassy) to see how she feels. Then the experience convinces. Anyway, it can be an ongoing story process along with education, that is intended to help the mother see for herself why food choices and lifestyle keys are something she wants. It really does make a difference how we talk about it. It is true that natural medicine and health care are all about taking responsibility for our own health. Even a doctor, a pill, anything that helps works only if it helps remind and restore the healthy functioning of our own biological intelligence. Ayurved properly taught gives this as core, and joyfully empowers a mother to more deeply access her own inner wisdom and self restoring dynamics. Thanks! Ysha > It seems like so many challenges during pregnancy and postpartum get blamed on something the mother ate, drank, took, thought or didn't do. Mothers are already so vulnerable to feeling guilty for anything that happens to their babies. I think we need to remember in our professional advice and efforts to build the moms up and Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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