Advice please - what to focus on in only one day's care

[Guest guest]

Dear Saroj;

To maximize your time with her ... sounds like you will be giving her

more than she has paid for of course, something many of us would

do...So my suggestions re ayurvedic care are based on spending the

time if you can to not only appropriately cook for her and do the

mother's home spa abhyianga for her, but make sure a few extras are

included for self-care education/process.

 

* Bring the daily results sheet along. Discuss all the points you

can including asking some questions to ascertain digestion and

elimination condititions. Possibly do followup call(s) over several

days to support her process.

* Make this part of your internship case study work if you can, I

think there may be a few requirments left? I haven't seen your logs.

Call me to talk about her case that way, or we can do this by email

perhaps here.

* As YOUR time with her is limited, whatever you cannot do here, the

following can be coached for her support.

* Discuss and give handout on Self massage with example how to

visualize getting it in before baby's

* Give notes on infant massage instruction. If you need to practice

for your requirements, schedule a session.

* Give her the double sided piece on cooking for postpartum mothers,

with some explanation of key points, including OLEATION

* Encourage her to make a list of best friends, or church friends,

like that, and one who can coordinate supportive attentions so she is

not on the phone much. Hopefully you can talk with this friend about

key needs and email or copy for her the cooking guidelelines, as well

as discuss a calender. Her strength is partly from an extension of

the natural cortisol high (as shared in an article posted this site by

Adrienne) that helps her protect in fight or flight type hormones.

The likelihood (and need for) a switchover to more rejuvenative type

hormonal activity, with possible big drop physically and emotionally

should be taken into account in her self care plan and minimized outings.

* I would be bringing my essential oils and using a few during the

abyanga, as you know they can a powerful turnaround boost to anything

like emotions, hormones, immune, digestion and prana issues which

likely may be needing support, and encourages her appreciation of the

contrasting state she is in after you came.

 

Be sure to discuss with her

* Her 42 day window, which really should be looked at as 2-3 months

in her situation, especially.

* Even extra rest and nourishment attentions for herself around the

growth spurt days

* The tendency for colic to begin to manifest after about 3 weeks of

inappropriate foods

* Suggest if you/she feels the need, some personalized herbal tonic

will be a very good idea.

 

More about the very important nourishment issues for Mom (and Baby!) -

* If husband or friends need to be coached to round it up as below,

talk on the phone before you even come to get it going.

* When anyone is cooking for her, with her agreement of course, not

only take into account she has been eating many vata aggravating and

probably constipating things, but also her appetite (should be) that

of a lioness now, but extra agni supportive spices would be used

adjusting which (not if) if you know she has big pitta aggravation and

strong appetite combined. Whe WILL have accumulations which need

support to eliminate.

* So, it will be best to give her this day an experience of how she

will feel, when she eating the should be 5 times a day including

snacks, and how easily some things can be put in motion.

* So for the menu, no not just kitchari. ANd enough for her at least

for lunch and dinner quantity, plus snacks. Best to arrive in am with

food or to cook so the food does not become tamasic overnight.

* In addition to kitchari (quicker than rice and a thinner mung soup

separately) Definitely a grounding and alkalizing combo veggie dish

also, such as soup with beets and/or carrots along with okra or

asparagus, dessert, hot milk, the fennel/fenugreek tea, an unleavened

(hopefully) chappati will probably be welcome addition, (you can bring

them some chappatti dough and they can see how easy it is to keep

inexpensive bread availablie, they are easy enough to roll a few and

cook as needed. This kitchari would go well with a simple lassi

(yoghurt served in this way only and served at lunchtime only), not

cold and no fruit, you know the rules.

* Nourishing snacks - To keep your costs down, some baked apples. Or

at least put some dried fruits and almonds on to soak for later/next

day also. Of course a Sheero Halva or (eggless) rice pudding is often

ideal.

* Be sure to use full cream milk, which can be accomplished by buying

skim plus cream separately if you do not have unhomogenized available.

Be sure to also add the teaspoon of ghee (unless alchoholic liver or

gall bladder type problems) and some sweetener before serving, they

will forget or not want to get up and do it also might not like as

much and not drink more, so not honey as when rewarming they may boil

by mistake again, and we know the no cooked honey rule, right?

* If you can have them shop for these things before you come to

replace your expense, or have to cook there, some of these things can

be baked while you do the warm oil abhyianga.

* Tend to the shopping list for them to get them going in the right

direction, including also easy bake yams, squash and fruits, perhaps .

* I would also put ghee on to make if they will buy the unsalted

butter, as well as the hot milk tonic. So the stove will be busy.

 

Vicky and Janel have the expertise on those other matters, for sure

she should have extra probiotics if possible, baby too in my opinion,

tho on a really low budget Nature gradually can build back under right

conditions. I would in this case think of 1-2X daily (not at night)

for 2-3 days anyway (just a guess) wiping some plain kefir or fresh

yoghurt in baby's mouth, certainly at first sign of possible thrush.

 

Because she is in this tremendously open time, tho she has tightened

her belt a lot and probably squeezed off much of her own " below the

belt " type needs, she and Baby do have the opportunity to more easily

heal the traumas from the birth and immediate postpartum. This is if

she can see the need and is willing to take good care of themselves,

allow for the deepening and extended bonding time including daily

infant massage at least once daily (standard in India/Nepal is 2-3

times daily). This necessitates to be reclusive with the sattvic

ayurvedic umbrella as much as possible for the next 4-6 weeks.

 

Essential oils with baby such as geranium, or that Gentle Baby blend

will help much release some of those traumas combined with lots of

TLC. As you know, Baby will mirror and model the vibrational levels

of Mom, including feeling open or not to heal already sometimes

closing up scars from aloneness and other traumas. And as you know,

the experience of transcendING thru the subtler layers gives us

appreciation for the need otherwise we may cover up doing the

will-power in all the best intents thing.

 

The opportunity you have this day with her is to reopen that door, and

encourage her to somehow arrange for at least a few more days like

that in a row to begin to hold the value of those changes in such vata

aggravated state.

 

Any additional advice from others is still of course welcomed, these

are the things I would know to give attentions to.

 

Let us know what you are able to fit in? You can possibly be a wealth

of lifechanging experience as well as guidance for her if she wants

it, in a few hours' time. Looks like a good 6 hours to me if you are

hustling your hiney. Remember also, she may seem clear as a bell and

understanding everything you say even, but she will probably forget

most of it by tomorrow, nature of this vata.

 

Namaste, Dear Heart!

Ysha

[Guest guest]

One other thought. There is a good chance they have family support

happening. There is by my experience, a good chance they will be

manifesting money from somewhere to do what they feel they have to do.

Keep eyes open and if they can pay for another session, or 3 even

discounted, with you, stay open to the possibility. Ma Nature likes

her dear ones to be loved and cared for!

Love,

Ysha

[Guest guest]

ayurveda , " Martha Oakes "

<AyurDoulas wrote:

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> Dear Saroj;

> To maximize your time with her ... sounds like you will be giving her

> more than she has paid for of course, something many of us would

> do...So my suggestions re ayurvedic care are based on spending the

> time if you can to not only appropriately cook for her and do the

> mother's home spa abhyianga for her, but make sure a few extras are

> included for self-care education/process.

 

 

Dear Ysha...

Phew! You are so thorough. Thanks! I'm going to be hustling my

heinie for sure, as you put it. Don't forget that I've been out of

the saddle for almost two years with my side venture, so a lot of this

will be a relearning process!

 

When I spoke with Suzanne, she was happy to receive the home spa

abhiyanga (thanks for the reminder that " massage " is not the correct

language!) and for me to teach her the baby massage (with her doing

while I instruct). These will take time in the next couple days for

me to review and prepare for myself - so I don't know how much time I

will have for other previsit preparations. I'll do my best. I will

bring ingredients from home for one day's food prep. I'll email you

separately, Ysha, to ask questions and make comment about the other

suggestions you offered, but probably tomorrow rather than tonight.

 

Even though I'm feeling like my plate is full, I am still open to

others' suggestions/advice. And, Ysha, I am so grateful for the

thought you put into your reply to my request for advice. You have

taught me so much.

 

Love... Saroj