how can someone win if someone else looses!

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, " sekwi " <sekwi

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> , " docspeed2001 "

<docspeed2001@> wrote:

 

> > hichorama@ Feb 26, 2009

> > how can someone win if someone else looses!

 

> Hello;

 

> First off, great question if you're a heavy left-brainer. To deal in one side

vs. the other is to deal in force. Everything has a point and counterpoint from

this view. Try switching to overall whole brain thinking, i.e. power. Power

has no counterpoint. It doesn't need it.

 

> Look, I like to play chess. It's fun. I play against stronger opponents in

order to get stronger myself. I take notes and talk to them to find out how to

get better. I really don't see me as loosing. I can play weak opponents, but

why? It's a waist of time.

>

> It's like learning from a good master. It helps to get bitch'd slapped around

a little to wake up, learn, and grow. Internal strength. To say it, one thing.

To be able to do it, that's power.

 

I did love your positive and intelligent 'reframe' to that question.

 

You redefined their very limited definition of what 'winning' meant for them.

 

For them winning is a negative.

 

For me, " they are NOT playing the game of life " .

 

Playing the game of life is about learning and growing.

 

Thank you Scott.

 

John La Tourrette, PhD

> Scott

>