How to have emotional control over events that have not yet happened

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, kgould wrote:

>

> Hi Daniel,

> There is a method I know that uses alternating hands, alternating sides of

> face and the eyepoints 1, 2, 3 (EFTs inner, outer, under).

> Begin by doing a SUD check to get a baseline. Scale of 0-10- how upset?

>

> Then begin touching (no tapping) with the left hand the inner eyepoint and

> being with what is, " I'm angry " , then change to the opposite hand, and the

> inner eyepoint on the right side and again " I'm angry " . It continues back

> and forth, stimulating alternating hemispheres till all 3 eyepoints on

> both sides have been touched.

 

Hi Karen,

 

Thank you for the drill.

 

I am curious to how you take that drill and get to where he wanted to go.

 

Here is where he wanted to go; " help some of my clients with reacting

instantaneously to ideas or interactions perceived as hostile... "

 

So to take what you did and to install it into the client's nervous/energy

system so that he would future-pace in ADVANCE any situation that has not yet

happened.

 

This is always done with a method of 'anchoring' state change, so that the

situational negative emotion is tied to, connected to a break state, and the new

better emotion/energy through practice before the situation occurs.

 

How do you do that?

 

John La Tourrette, PhD

[Guest guest]

> , kgould wrote:

>>

>> Hi Daniel,

>> There is a method I know that uses alternating hands, alternating sides

>> of

>> face and the eyepoints 1, 2, 3 (EFTs inner, outer, under).

>> Begin by doing a SUD check to get a baseline. Scale of 0-10- how upset?

>>

>> Then begin touching (no tapping) with the left hand the inner eyepoint

>> and

>> being with what is, " I'm angry " , then change to the opposite hand, and

>> the

>> inner eyepoint on the right side and again " I'm angry " . It continues

>> back

>> and forth, stimulating alternating hemispheres till all 3 eyepoints on

>> both sides have been touched.

>

> Hi Karen,

>

> Thank you for the drill.

>

> I am curious to how you take that drill and get to where he wanted to go.

>

> Here is where he wanted to go; " help some of my clients with reacting

> instantaneously to ideas or interactions perceived as hostile... "

>

> So to take what you did and to install it into the client's nervous/energy

> system so that he would future-pace in ADVANCE any situation that has not

> yet happened.

>

> This is always done with a method of 'anchoring' state change, so that the

> situational negative emotion is tied to, connected to a break state, and

> the new better emotion/energy through practice before the situation

> occurs.

>

> How do you do that?

>

> John La Tourrette, PhD

>

 

What we resist persists. He can teach the client the method, it takes

moments to do when the client is triggered. Most reactions are not

instantaneous, there is a clue first. At the first awareness of upset, be

with what is. Be with the awareness and the reaction (physical or verbal)

can be averted.

 

Perhaps this will work for you, give it a try and see.

To install the resource state, it is still balancing energies in both

hemispheres.

Begin by stating what you want and then touch the alternating eyepoints.

 

Application Example: my son comes home late, I worry, fret over his

safety, he comes in the door and I'm upset. I realized I was getting

anquored to an upset state when I heard his truck drive up late.

 

When I examined " what is " I also got that the core of it was I love him

and just want him safe. So the next time I heard his truck drive up a few

minutes late, I decided to focus on what I wanted- " to love him " .

 

Using the same method described above, when I heard the truck, I quickly

ran the 2 sets of eyepoints. By the time he got in the door, I was calm,

loving, grateful he was safe and the whole interaction changed. Not only

did he come talk to me instead of just retreating to his room, he then

emptied the dishwasher, unasked. It was a noticeable, significant change

from previous similiar events and outcomes. I saw how counterproductive my

previous reactions were, for both of us.

 

I only installed it that one time and am still able to draw from that

resource state. And this applies to other situations with him where my

first response would have been reaction without consideration first.

 

The challenge is the challenge because of energetically opposite states,

when you balance the energy you enter a more neutral state, from which you

can make choices from chosen states. The more you cut neural pathways to

consciously chosen states, the easier it is to make them automatically

accessible.

 

 

Karen Gould