how to get a client to believe there is help for them

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<leetu wrote:

>

> You could be telling my story as it was some time ago. I have

healed,

> and from my experience, it has to come from healing at the core.

It

> is the core issues that are generating the problems, the limited

> life, in the first place. I had to heal in my Selfhood, find my

> Voice, and understand the difference between giving out of

generosity

> of the self, and giving from martyrdom and the terror of a need to

> please to be accepted. Help her bring her focus back to herself

and

> off the red herrings of all these other issues. Just like being a

> workaholic will let people get by with avoiding handling their own

> lives in a way that gets permission... " You can't blame him for his

> temper...after all, he is so exhausted from working so much

overtime

> and that is so noble " So does the devoted mother get that same

kind

> of permission to avoid her own needs...after all, I was so noble.

I

> was this way and I quit and my life quality accelerated

> exponentially. I did months of EFT on core issues about being

worthy,

> and mostly about quitting apologizing for being me and just

letting

> others sort me out, or not. Once I fell in love with my own life,

I

> was able to put my children in a healthy position for me, and I

> automatically found ways to feel better, because my life is

precious

> to me now, for me, and I want to be able to enjoy it to the

fullest

> and accomplish my goals. I stopped living for others. By doing so,

I

> actually became more available for others. I know there is a very

> good Bach flower remedy for feeling fearful over the well being of

> your children...can't recall which one. I used flower remedies and

> essential oils in my EFT work...still do.

> lyn

 

Nice lyn,

 

What you did was actually change from one Element to the control

cycle of that Element. So you, by your actions, added more Wood

Element to your unbalanced Earth element.

 

It's a common problem with Earths, and if they don't learn how to

balance, like you did, it really can lead to severe depression.

 

In NLP we call it a belief change drill, along with reframing,

preframing and postframing.

 

First a story that is similar to the other person and that person's

problems...

 

....then in the story the imbedded processes of reframing about how

you did X, Y and Z, so that her unconscious mind with absorb the

process without the conscious filter of, " that won't work for me

because... "

 

A fantastic job.

 

Jacob could follow that same process in helping his client.