Secrets of Clarity For Powerful Catalytic Effects

[Guest guest]

Well, I guess you would say that the study of NLP is mandatory for

healing therapists because you say that the study of NLP is mandatory

for just about anything. ;-)

 

And that would be because clear thinking skills will make you more

effective in learning, applying and profiting from any kind of energy

work.

 

The particular clear thinking skill I have in mind is a drill called

the clarity model.

 

A lady came to see me recently for therapy. I asked her what she

wanted to achieve. She said, 'well, I don't want to be fat anymore'.

Now the problem is that although she knows exactly what she means, I

don't.

 

It's like the fact that I was walking along the riverbank with my

father the other day. I said 'When you hear the word " happiness " , what

picture comes to mind?' For him it was a conversation like the one we

were having, for me, it was a picture of my three year old goddaughter.

 

Now her father works in the construction industry and when you work in

construction, you do not just go 'I'm going to build a house' and then

start hammering things together, because you won't get very far.

Instead, what you do is you draw up a detailed set of plans. And you

do it by answering these questions. Use them whenever you are setting

a goal/outcome for yourself or anyone else. Make sure your outcome

meets each of the criteria below.

 

1. What is your desired outcome, stated in positive terms?

 

- Talk about what you do want, not what you don't want.

- e.g. I want to be slim and attractive, I want to weigh 140lbs.

 

2. How do you know when you have reached your desired outcome?

 

2.a. Is the outcome testable and sensory perceivable?

 

- 'I want to be rich' isn't testable or perceivable, there's no measure.

- 'I want $1,000,000 cash' is testable (you have it or you don't) and

you can perceive it with your senses.

 

2.b. Can the outcome be initiated and controlled by you?

 

- 'I want my husband to be more cheerful' isn't under your control.

- 'I want to feel cheerful no matter how my husband behaves' is.

 

3. In what context do you want it?

 

3.a. What triggers the behaviour?

 

- You probably want 'I want to feel confident' to trigger when you

stand up to speak to a group. Probably not when you're at the top of a

black run and you can't ski.

 

3.b. In what context? When, where, with whom?

 

- I want to be confident at work with my boss when negotiating my salary.

 

4. How will the desired outcome affect your life?

 

4.a. Does any part object?

 

= Go inside and ask yourself 'Does any part of me object to the

outcome I've established so far?' Notice any picture, sound or feeling

you get in response and build that information into your outcome.

 

4.b. What will be added?

 

- For example, if your outcome is to make $1,000,000 that may add

more freedom to your life, it may also add more sponging relatives.

 

4.c. What is worth saving?

 

- If you want to be more confident but are currently shy and

retiring, it might be worth saving the ability to pay attention to

others and notice how they are reacting.

 

4.d. What will be removed?

 

- What will be removed from your life if you're more confident? Are

you happy losing fear and hesitation? Are you happy losing any friends

who can't handle the more assertive you?

 

5. What stop you from having your desired outcme already?

 

- Make a list.

 

6. What resources do you...

 

6.a.Have already?

 

- List them out. Resources can be people, objects, feelings, skills,

anything you can use to help you get what you want.

 

6.b.Need?

 

- List them out.

 

7. Now use change technologies.

 

- For example, get rid of your fear of your boss with EFT or chakra

clearing.

 

8. Test the change

 

- Think about negotiating with your boss. Does it feel scary or does

it feel good?

 

9. Future pace the change

 

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath and vividly imagine doing

things in this new way in several different, appropriate situations in

the future. See, hear and feel exactly what you would see hear and feel.

 

10. Does any part of you object to that new and different you?

 

- Go inside, ask yourself, and tweak the change to accommodate any

objections.

 

Easy.

 

Because if you fail to plan, you plan to fail, as my friend in the

construction industry knows only too well. He does all kind of

remedial and preservation work you see, and he loves it, it makes him

very happy.

 

He and I have pretty different ideas about happiness really, and

that's okay, because he gets what he wants and I get a lot more of

exactly what I want since I started using that model.

 

Which includes good quality changes for my clients, because that lady

decided she didn't want to be fat after all, she wanted to lose 30lbs

down to 140lbs in three months time, keeping her enjoyment of her

favourite foods and with the confidence to deal with all the increased

attention she was going to get from men. Which was fine, because we

can do all that.

 

Simple but effective, feel free to ask questions.

 

Cheers,

 

Phil