How NOT to mind-read a post

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, " Wade Smart " <wade

wrote:

 

> > > > mgd321@ Mar 9, 2009

> > > > I would like to know more on breathing excerises to clean your aura

 

 

> > > Im not entirely sure what you mean by clean but...

 

> > Which is probably 'why' others on this list that actually have great skills,

massive amounts of experiences and have the specific how-to's have NOT yet

answered mgd321's question.

 

> > His question is so non-specific that it violates every facit of the

meta-model for clear thinking (Bandler and Grinder 1975).

 

> > I can think of a thousand (or more) good clean ways to answer his

question...but I do not yet know what he's really asking.

 

> > It could be so many things, from smoking pot, to burning sage, to doing the

breath sequence for Jesus's Prayer he gave his disciples, to Quantum Touch, to

the Ha Rite, to Kahuna Mana Blasting, blab, blab, blab...

 

> > Or it could even be the 'claming breath' variation that Wade gave him.

 

> > John La Tourrette, PhD

 

 

> That should mean people shouldnt try to respond?

 

Wade,

 

That is YOUR mind-read and NOT what I said or implied.

 

And YOU did respond, which I do think is neat.

 

My question is, " Did he get the answer that will get him to where he wants to

go? "

 

And we have no way of knowing that, do we?

 

He has NOT replied to your 'calming breath' answer yet, has he?

 

Or did he reply to you privately?

 

>Just because someone doenst make a clear statement should not mean >we do not

respond.

 

I think it means that some people have much more time on their hands than do

others.

 

Which is fine and dandy.

 

>Sometimes people are sure " what " they are asking. They just know >they are

asking some question about some idea/thought/emotion/belief >they have and they

do the best they can with that.

 

Now we are getting into what you would seem to perceive as an 'attack' when

their was no such thing.

 

What there was was an explanation about certain non-actions.

 

There was also a bit of talk about a 'Clarity Model' (which I think you can find

in the files section here, or on my other mindmastery-essentialskills group)...

 

....and the learning of the Meta-Model.

 

Hopefully some people were at least propelled to go and google the " meta-model "

and now are learning to use it a little bit in their own lives.

 

It is a very good tool of living life better and living life with

self-responsibility.

 

> Not specific to this question, but I have seen many many posts on >many groups

go unanswered. By not answering, this continues the >question. The poster doesnt

realize they have done anything wrong.

 

It is NOT wrong. It is just unclear.

 

And many times such posts HAVE ALREADY BEEN answered many times in back posts

that the person asking the question has just NOT had the persistence to search

for.

 

> This doesnt mean they shouldnt clarify their response when asked >however.

 

Then ask them Wade.

 

Just don't use the 'why' word, but do use 'what', 'how', 'how-else', etc, for

clean elicitation so they can give clearer answers.

 

Possibility questions are also great, ie, " If you did know, what would you

know? "

 

Thank you.

 

John La Tourrette, PhD