Dissolving Abhorrence: an NLP/energy psych amalgam

[Guest guest]

, eljwc

<eljwc@o...> wrote:

 

> And of course, I future paced him continuing to do the drills each

>day.

 

> Thank you to Bandler and Grinder, Milton Erickson, Gary Craig,

>Silvia Hartmann, John La Tourrette, Donna Eden and Jose Silva.

 

> I love it when all the skills come together.

> Elroy

 

A nice piece of work Elroy.

 

Now group, who wants the dastardly task of outlining the

technologies that Elroy used?

 

Whoever does it will learn much beyond their wildest dreams...

 

....AND I'll even go over it with you...helping you a bit.

 

Sincerely,

Dr John M. La Tourrette

[Guest guest]

hi Elroy,

 

THANK YOU for sharing this. It has been great for me to see how you put the

skills into practice and has brought into my awareness how much i do without

it being conscious. Damn what a waste!!!!!

 

How long did you spend with this client in this session? I find that my

sessions can be quite long. This is part of the reason that I want to make

my processes conscious as this will enable me to hone the skills and be more

precise rather than working so intuitively.

 

thanks again

-

" eljwc " <eljwc

 

Wednesday, April 06, 2005 12:49 AM

Dissolving Abhorrence: an

NLP/energy psych amalgam

 

 

>

> Hey folks,

>

> Last night I had the opportunity to help a friend who was facing a bad

> work

> situation. For the past four months he has been having 'communication

> problems' with his manager, and has been increasingly stressed about it to

> the point where going to work was becoming very uncomfortable.

>

> Naturally, I gathered some information about his work situation. By

> 'communication problems', I found out that the communication between them

> was limited to 'hi' and 'goodbye' at the appropriate parts of the day. He

> also explained a whole lot about how his division is having work farmed

> out

> to other divisions, how everyone else sees that he and his manager do not

> get along, and how everyone is kind of edgy about job security at this

> time.

>

> So I started by asking him what he really wanted, and then made a few

> guesses of my own. I said, 'your immediate concern is to secure an

> enjoyable position at this company, right?' He agreed.

>

> By listening carefully and asking questions, I noticed that he was

> primarily focused on:

>

> - his feelings of being underutilized by his manager

> - his bad feelings towards his manager

> - trying to sort out his outside life but just 'reacting' to what was

> being

> 'done to him' at work

>

> This did not seem like an overly useful focus to me.

>

> Then I gave some content-based strategies that he might employ, using

> leading questions like, 'If you are waiting for the new finance guy to

> give

> you the figures before you can proceed with that part of your job, and you

> don't know if his plans are to improve his reporting process, then how

> might you approach him with the aim of working together to make life

> easier

> for the both of you?'

>

> Listening to his objections was good, because it told me more about his

> perceived limitations and the way he had observed the company working.

>

> =====================

>

> Then I sat next to him on the floor and said, 'Okay, let's just take all

> of

> this' (reached over right into where he had been staring for the past

> fifteen minutes) and ***put it all aside now*** (and 'dragged' that clump

> of thought right out his visual field and put it where I knew he put

> things

> in his past.

>

> " Now... let's consider something else. Think about your manager for a

> moment... " (observable shifts in breathing, facial and shoulder tension

> etc). " How would you describe how you feel about her? "

>

> " Discomfort. "

>

> " Well, on a scale of 0 to 10, with 0 being 'ehh, nothin' to 10 being 'Oh

> My

> God fucking BUGS are crawling up my ASS discomfort', where would you rate

> that feeling? "

>

> " About a 9.5. "

>

> " Really? Wow, 9.5. (validating his response). Okay. Now something I'd

> like you to understand is a bit about feelings and emotions

> themselves. " Then I gave him a summary of the energy psychology model of

> emotions, ie, emotions are caused by perturbances and blocks in the energy

> system, and that rebalancing and allowing the energies to flow freely will

> result in those emotions ... going away ... dissolving ... until you are

> left feeling good again.

>

> I then corrected for homolaterality (got this straight from the

> HealingEnergies archives) by getting him to do the Three

> Thumps. Immediately his body and face relaxed, and his voice became soft.

>

> " Now, how do you rate that feeling now? "

>

> " About a 4. "

>

> " Hm, " I smiled, " Isn't that interesting? "

>

> I then took him through the Basic EFT sequence, using one hand to tap down

> the left side of his body. I asked him the name of his manager, whom he

> consistently referred to as 'my manager', rather than her name. When he

> said her name, his face screwed up a bit (you cannot get this information

> unless you are OBSERVING carefully and mindfully).

>

> I got him to say, " Even though 'Susan' gets to me, I still deeply and

> profoundly love and appreciate myself. "

>

> Ran through the sequence and the 9Gamut sequence. Now the SUDS was at

> 7! It seemed that just saying her NAME was a bad trigger. In EFT this is

> known as an 'aspect'.

>

> So we ran through a modified EFT sequence, this time skipping the 9Gamut,

> but using both hands to tap on the following points while just saying his

> manager's name:

>

> - crown chakra

> - eyebrow start

> - eyebrow finish

> - under eye

> - upper and lower lip together

> - K27

> - Thymus gland

> - neurolymphatic points on ribcage (like the Three Thumps)

> - under arm

> - bang Karate Chop points together

> - bang inside of wrists together

>

> This took it right down to a 3.

>

> Then I asked him to pay attention to where he felt that feeling in his

> body. It was a tightness lodged in his throat, entering from the front

> and

> coming out the back. I invited him to be aware of that tightness ...

>

> and let that awareness soften the edges of that tightness ...

> letting it become a looseness ...

> as and this happens ...

> now...

> notice *where* that energy wants to flow...

> because I don't know just which way...

> this energy will flow from you...

> up or down, or the left or the right

>

> (watching carefully as I made these suggestions for 'yes/no'

> signals. Erickson used this kind of 'fishing technique' quite often.)

>

> or downwards and out... flowing out of your aura altogether

>

> (this brought a smile, and I knew I had it)

>

> Letting your energy return to the natural state of flow...

> Like a dam in a river...

> Once you *remove that block*... let it go...

> The river runs free...

>

> He dropped into a very relaxed, inward state, and he found it hard to

> answer my questions, but it seemed like he was still having a bit of

> trouble letting it go.

>

> =========================

>

> EmoTrance and Ericksonian suggestion having been seeded, I then reached

> over to his throat area and passed my hand over it, hovering my palm about

> two or three inches away from it.

>

> " Wow, I can feel you doing that, " he said. Natch.

>

> I moved my hand from side to side, and could actually 'feel' a kind of

> 'lump' of something in his throat chakra area. As I moved it from side to

> side, he involuntarily shivered, especially when I moved it in a certain

> direction.

>

> Using a kind of spatial anchoring and energy manipulation, I asked him if

> his feelings changed at all when I did this... and moved my hand towards

> and away from his throat. He found that the closer my hand got, the more

> he felt, and the further, the less.

>

> It was at a two with my hand a couple of inches away. I then borrowed

> from

> Donna Eden and Doc and 'unscrewed' his throat chakra, circling my palm

> anticlockwise and moving my hand away at the same time, with the

> *intention* of drawing the energy out. He noticeably relaxed even

> more. As I did so, I asked him to notice how much less the feeling was,

> how it was moving out, going away, flowing freely like it should.

>

> I asked him, 'how far away does it need to be before it reaches

> zero?' This presupposed that if my hand got far away enough, it WOULD

> reach zero.

>

> When my hand reached a point about three feet away from his body, at the

> angle he said the energy was leaving, he signalled that it was zero. I

> then clapped my hands together at that point in space, like popping a

> paper

> bag, then cut in front of his body with the blade of my hand to sever any

> connection. " There, you don't need that any more. " I said decisively.

> He

> agreed.

>

> I then went on to elicit feelings of rapport that he experienced with

> other

> co-workers, anchored it with a touch on the shoulder and held it while

> amplifying the submods of 'rapport'. I then got him to slide that energy

> into his manager.

>

> He wasn't quite comfortable with that (feedback, feedback!) and so I got

> him to stand in one place, feel any residual negativity, then step out of

> that place and leave that negativity behind. I reinforced this by

> pointing

> and using the usual tonal and visual anchors.

>

> Then I got him to build an image of his manager and step into it, to be

> able to see things through her eyes. I got him, thinking as if he was

> her,

> to think of how he looked to her. I got him to change that picture and

> feeling to that of someone she actually liked and got along with (nothing

> like a bit of Putting On Heads and remote influence from the inside,

> huh?).

>

> He then felt much, much better about the whole thing. I taught him the

> Three Thumps and Care Bears Drill, to be done before work and during the

> day, each day.

>

> Today he was to have a meeting with her and their level manager acting as

> mediator, but for some reason it was cancelled. And there was no

> hostility

> in his feelings, everything was much more relaxed. They spoke more today

> than in the past three weeks combined.

>

> And of course, I future paced him continuing to do the drills each day.

>

> Thank you to Bandler and Grinder, Milton Erickson, Gary Craig, Silvia

> Hartmann, John La Tourrette, Donna Eden and Jose Silva.

>

> I love it when all the skills come together.

>

>

> Elroy

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