How does one fix an internal conflict about Sales & money?

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don't think i am earth but I get really pissed off having to

bargain.....it's like for pity's sake just tell me your bottom line and take

it from there. I hate paying more than I think something is worth - so I

don't...I don't think....at least i hope I don't.....then agin if i want it

that bad - i will pay - excctly as you say per the ad copies we have

talked about on the list.

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" docspeed2001 " <docspeed2001

 

Thursday, June 02, 2005 6:54 AM

How does one fix an internal

conflict about Sales & money?

 

 

> ,

> Pandora51@a... wrote:

>> > ...many whom are Earth Elements, and are Earth Elements because

> they > > were spoon-fed those types of beliefs BEFORE they had any

>> >conscious awarenesses or choices about where to go in their own

>> >lives. So, MANY A TIME I post pure gold, out of MY OWN CURIOSITY,

>> >to see if anyone will even notice the PILE OF PURE GOLD!

>> > Usually they don't.

>> > Oh well.

>> > So is life.

>> >

>

>> I guess I'm wondering why I am so uncomfortable in asking for more

>>money, going out to get more clients, or attracting more of sports

>>clientelle. I can't seem to get my self off my tush to go after

> what >I say I want to have.

>> Paulina

>

> Several things here.

>

> You were taught early on, probably just because of the way your

> peers were, parents were, that selling anything is not a " positive

> thing " . In fact, even mentioning that you understand " sales

> strategies " and that you " use them " , makes you, in many people's

> minds, a lower class person.

>

> A negative, low-class belief about sales people tends to stop you

> from doing that behavior.

>

> So, with my boy, when I was signing people up on thousand $$

> contracts, doing upsales, producing books, videos and marketing

> packages, I had him with me. He was in the same room, sitting in the

> back of the room, listening, as he read a book, played a gameboy,

> etc.

>

> So, later on in his life when he was in a position of being a buyer

> or a sellor, he knew the ropes and FELT COMFORTABLE doing both sides.

>

> Now, on the other hand, my wife will still pay the " asking price "

> for about anything, and even on our honeymoon in Mazatlan 32 years

> ago, she thought I was bullying the poor kid I was " negotiating "

> with for a trinket for the house.

>

> My wife is Fire/Earth.

>

> But she does understand the logic of negotiations, now.

>

> And she does buy much wiser.

>

> And she still gets pissed at me when I go to a High Class Hotel, and

> when I register, I mention that " I want the additional MANAGER

> DISCOUNT, like I got the last time! " ...

>

> So she has an INTERNAL CONFLICT, a conflict that she will not admit

> to, nor clear up with any of the really neat, good working tools we

> have.

>

> It's funny.

>

>

 

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In a message dated 6/2/05 10:11:04 AM, hunter.cris writes:

 

 

My wife is Fire/Earth.

>

> But she does understand the logic of negotiations, now.

>

> And she does buy much wiser.

>

> And she still gets pissed at me when I go to a High Class Hotel, and

> when I register, I mention that "I want the additional MANAGER

> DISCOUNT, like I got the last time!"...

>

> So she has an INTERNAL CONFLICT, a conflict that she will not admit

> to, nor clear up with any of the really neat, good working tools we

> have.

>

> It's funny.

 

 

Now, I ask for the discount, but I wouldn't have said the MANAGER'S discount

until I noticed that you never said you WERE are manager....Maybe next time;)

 

A friend and I once got the last condo at an expensive FL beach/golf resort

for half price just by hanging out and intending. 2 bedrooms. Sweet.

If I'm fire/earth, what element might have helped me do that?

 

 

 

www.coachdrgridley.com

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,

coachdrgridley@a... wrote:

 

> A friend and I once got the last condo at an expensive FL beach/golf

resort

> for half price just by hanging out and intending. 2 bedrooms.

Sweet.

> If I'm fire/earth, what element might have helped me do that?

 

Wood Element, but you need more specifics than that.

 

Proactiveness, as in the bio-data profiling system put out by Rodger

Bailey back in the early 80's.

 

The CONVINCER strategies need to be noted of those that you are

talking to, then used in a story...