Fwd: diplomacy

[Guest guest]

creative_energies , " Pat Burke " <esyoga@c...>

wrote:

I've been lurking in the background trying to figure out if I was a

dyslexic

black widow spider, and had a few thoughts to add...

 

I know I am working on the lesson of Harmony through Conflict right

now, and

according to the Danish teachers of Transformational Kinesiology,

that is

the Ray that man is needing to metabolize on the planet at this

moment....

 

I think that the internet has some significant draw-backs in

communication

for this goal, and that the intent and emotion that a person writes

with

could be misunderstood.

 

I have personally felt on guard, stung or slapped at different

times from

different posts, to me or to others, and am never quite sure if it

is the

intent of the writer or my own tenderness around being a " wanna-be " -

 

I wanna be welcomed, feel that I belong, and feel safe sharing my

contributions without fear of being minimized, ridiculed or

attacked, and

don't learn well listening to others if it feels too argumentative

and/or

threatening.

Even if the person is not arguing with me, my perception is that it

could

happen to me in the future. I am in too much of a state or fight or

flight

to even understand the email.

 

If different individuals have a way of sparring back and forth that

is a

personal mode of communication that is not understood by others in

the

group, adding in that some people are reading what is a second

language for

them etc., then there is a misunderstanding, which could be

rectified

easily by being more aware and mindful of the unintended impact that

it had.

Those who feel they are involved will be in full brain fucntion and

with

heart and be able to respond. and possibly even apoligize.

 

If it is deeper than that, and it was not unintended, its another

dynamic.

Those who feel they are involved will want to react, attack, or

defend.

 

Basically, I think the emails we send to each other are a form of

energy

medicine, and not everyone in the group needs the same medicine, in

fact, we

may be unwittingly causing harm, and I think some people in the

group,

including me, would ask that the communication to be at a higher

level of

diplomacy. It is not my intention for my preference to enrage

anyone, or to

be a demand, it is my offering.

 

I do not hold a black belt in verbal karate, but I like to learn

energy

medicine from those who do, if I am not being re-traumatized by

patterns

that are disruptive for my energy. . I hope the group will be a

place where

a person can express concern when needed. Sometimes hurt or fear

gets

pushed to the edge of anger, but underneath it all, I think we all

care

deeply, and wanna-be here. If I have inadvertently offended anyone,

I

apoligize.

 

Thank you, Patricia

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