crossing to a more evolved level leaves old friends behind

[Guest guest]

Mike,For whom and/or why did you do this good deed? The person in trouble? The praise of your firends? Your own ego?From the gist of your post, my impression is that you did it in service of someone in trouble. If that is the case (and you need to ask yourself that question), bugger the rest of the crowd. Mark"mike2velli" <Mike2velli wrote: Hi Doc, all, I recently experienced some things that I am still digesting and would appreciate some insight, feedback, suggestions, etc. either in private or on

list, if you think it could help others or start and interesting thread... Due to the personal nature of these experiences I will be artfully vague------enough detail to get some good advice, etc. This is related to TRAPS and ROLES, which is ironic because I have been enjoying re-reading HARRY BROWNE's "How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World" ( Awesome book !!!! I probably have to re-read it even more clearly and take

better notes. It seems that there have been quite a few people over the last year or so that have been treating me like a "guru" while others more recently have been treating me like a leper. And as far as I know I am still being Me. Most recently because I simply did what I felt was right in a Potentially Disastrous situation and responded faster and more efficiently than others and "saved the day" I am now a "hero" to the 20 people who witnessed various stages of this event.

However, at least a few people that are close to me or SHOULD be ? reacted strangely to this, even to the point of dis-respect ( "showing off" "bragging" ) Also, I helped someone close to me out of THEIR Mess and rather than appreciation I get snide remarks relating to one of my jobs, which deals with people. Sort of ( 'oh, thanks a lot for reminding me why you were able to do this so smoothly-----because of your job which I hate and which makes me think you are doing Z when you should be doing Y and I can't trust you, etc. ' )

Meanwhile, most who witnessed this event agreed with me NOT to tell a certain person what happened because : 1. She is older, questionable health ? and it would upset her tremendously, even though I did X and there was a happy ending. 2. Someone else's negligence ? sloppiness ? almost cost a life ( or at least a limb ) 3. Her own extreme lateness and ( water ? element ? ) flakiness concerning time was a direct cause of the Potential Disaster. 4. And

somewhat disturbing to me, I did not feel comfortable in this "hero role" ( nor the "guru" role, etc. ) even though it felt totally natural for me to do what I did and I would do it again. I was glad it worked out well yet didn't need or even want praise ( and at the same time I certainly did not want or expect dis-respect ! ) Thanks for reading and I'm looking forward to some insight, Michael Twomey P.s. Within the last few months I have also been cast as the "asshole" role quite often and even though innocent of "false attacks" "slander" and

"accusations" these Traps and Roles can be bothersome. I almost feel as if my "good deeds" are biting me in the ass and I might as well have some fun.

[Guest guest]

healingenergies-

essentialskills , " mike2velli " <Mike2velli

wrote:

> This is related to TRAPS and ROLES, which is ironic because I have

been

> enjoying re-reading HARRY BROWNE's

> " How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World " ( Awesome

book !!!!

>

>

> I probably have to re-read it even more clearly and take better

notes.

>

>

> It seems that there have been quite a few people over the last

year or so that have been

> treating me like a " guru " while others more recently

> have been treating me like a leper. And as far as I know I am

still being Me.

 

i've been doing Donna and Doc healing drills with my friends.

Theylove me and treat me with respect.

But my mother thought i was crazy.

I told Doc and he had me cut my aka connections with everyone in my

life. He told me that those who were supposed to reconnect would

either contact me, or i'd contact with them.

My mother quit bothering me and calling me crazy. about 2 weeks

after i cut the cords she did call and asked why i was not talking

with her. I told her. Now she even seems curious about what i'm

teaching my friends.

It's funny but many of the friends i used to hang around with are on

a different path and we never meet. i do have many new friends that

are on the same path. many of there are on groups like this one.

Barb

[Guest guest]

Hi Mark, all,

 

 

Yes, I did it to help the person in trouble and the other thing I

just automatically responded with what felt right and so things turned out well.

 

 

And yes, at least some of the people who responded so strangely have

quite a lot of issues of their own.

 

 

And sure I have asked myself all of those questions and more and have

been doing some Self Hypnosis, NLP, EFT, Energy Medicine and Energy Psychology.

 

 

Also, LOTS of reading relating to this subject ( also Lucid Dreams since both experiences )

 

 

I'll probably post more eventually.

 

 

I'm looking at this as a great opportunity to learn more about myself and to better

deal with others. So what are some of my lessons... ?

 

 

Thanks for helpful input,

 

Michael Twomey

 

P.s. Thanks again Doc

 

 

 

 

-

Mark Perkins

 

8/29/2006 6:35:38 PM

Re: crossing to a more evolved level leaves old friends behind

 

 

Mike,For whom and/or why did you do this good deed? The person in trouble? The praise of your firends? Your own ego?From the gist of your post, my impression is that you did it in service of someone in trouble. If that is the case (and you need to ask yourself that question), bugger the rest of the crowd. Mark"mike2velli (AT) earthlink (DOT) net" <Mike2velli (AT) earthlink (DOT) net> wrote:

 

 

Hi Doc, all,

 

 

I recently experienced some things that I am still digesting and

would appreciate some insight, feedback, suggestions, etc. either in private

or on list, if you think it could help others or start and interesting thread...

 

 

Due to the personal nature of these experiences I will be

artfully vague------enough detail to get some

good advice, etc.

 

 

This is related to TRAPS and ROLES, which is ironic because I have been

enjoying re-reading HARRY BROWNE's

"How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World" ( Awesome book !!!!

 

 

I probably have to re-read it even more clearly and take better notes.

 

 

It seems that there have been quite a few people over the last year or so that have been

treating me like a "guru" while others more recently

have been treating me like a leper. And as far as I know I am still being Me.

 

 

Most recently because I simply did what I felt was right in a Potentially Disastrous situation

and responded

faster and more efficiently than others and "saved the day" I

am now a "hero" to the 20 people who witnessed various stages of this event.

 

 

However, at least a few people that are close to me or SHOULD be ? reacted

strangely to this, even to the point of dis-respect ( "showing off" "bragging" )

 

 

Also, I helped someone close to me out of THEIR Mess and rather than appreciation

I get snide remarks relating to one of my jobs, which deals with people.

Sort of

( 'oh, thanks a lot for reminding me why you were able to do this so smoothly-----because of your job which I hate

and which makes me

think you are doing Z when you should be doing Y and I can't trust you, etc. ' )

 

 

Meanwhile, most who witnessed this event agreed with me NOT to tell

a certain person what happened because :

 

 

1. She is older, questionable health ? and it would upset her tremendously, even though I did X and there was a happy ending.

 

2. Someone else's negligence ? sloppiness ? almost cost a life ( or at least a limb )

 

3. Her own extreme lateness and ( water ? element ? ) flakiness concerning time was a

direct cause of the Potential Disaster.

 

4. And somewhat disturbing to me, I did not feel comfortable in this "hero role" ( nor the "guru" role, etc. )

even though it felt

totally natural for me to do what I did and I would do it again. I was glad it worked out well

yet didn't need or even want praise ( and at the same time I certainly did not want or expect dis-respect ! )

 

 

Thanks for reading and I'm looking forward to some insight,

Michael Twomey

 

 

P.s. Within the last few months I have also been cast as the "asshole" role quite often and

even though innocent of "false attacks" "slander" and "accusations"

these Traps and Roles can be bothersome.

I almost feel as if my "good deeds" are biting me in the ass and I might as well have some fun.

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Mike,The nice part about lessons, is that it is a personal experience. Each person decides what instances/aspects of their lives are lessons and what those lessons mean.A teacher once told me that you see in others a part of you that you may not recognize or admit to. I don't know if this is the case.I like the suggestion offered earlier about cutting the cords. This does open the door to learning on all fronts. I've also found that, sometimes, a person returns after a cord cutting offering the same doubts/fears/comments that caused you to cut the cord to begin with. I see this as a good indicator that they are mirroring you and you need to pay attention.Mostly, we are all on our own paths...individually....alone. People will come and go in our lives offering whatever learnings they can to further our or their path (some of the learnings are "never do this"...but they are still learning opportunities).Taking a selfless action then

expecting others to fully understand why you did it probably doesn't serve you. They are learning also. You also reflect back to them what they may not be ready to accept.What did you learn from the situation?Shine!Mark"mike2velli" <Mike2velli wrote: Hi Mark, all, Yes, I did it to help the person in trouble and the other thing I just automatically responded with what felt right and so things turned out well. And yes, at least some of the people who responded so strangely have quite a lot of issues of their own. And sure I have asked myself all of those questions and more and have been doing some Self Hypnosis, NLP, EFT, Energy Medicine and Energy Psychology. Also, LOTS of reading relating to this subject ( also Lucid Dreams since both experiences ) I'll probably post more eventually. I'm looking at this as a great opportunity to learn more

about myself and to better deal with others. So what are some of my lessons... ? Thanks for helpful input, Michael Twomey P.s. Thanks again Doc - Mark Perkins 8/29/2006 6:35:38 PM Re: crossing to a more evolved level leaves old friends behind Mike,For whom and/or why did you do this good deed? The person in trouble? The praise of your firends? Your own ego?From the gist of your post, my impression is that you did it in service of someone in trouble. If that is the case (and you need to ask yourself that question), bugger the rest of the crowd. Mark"mike2velli (AT) earthlink (DOT) net" <Mike2velli (AT) earthlink (DOT) net> wrote: Hi Doc, all, I recently experienced some things that I am still digesting and would appreciate some insight, feedback, suggestions, etc. either in private or on list, if you think it could help others or start and interesting thread... Due to the personal nature of these experiences I will be artfully vague------enough detail to get some good advice, etc.

This is related to TRAPS and ROLES, which is ironic because I have been enjoying re-reading HARRY BROWNE's "How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World" ( Awesome book !!!! I probably have to re-read it even more clearly and take better notes. It seems that there have been quite a few people over the last year or so that have been

treating me like a "guru" while others more recently have been treating me like a leper. And as far as I know I am still being Me. Most recently because I simply did what I felt was right in a Potentially Disastrous situation and responded faster and more efficiently than others and "saved the day" I am now a "hero" to the 20 people who witnessed various stages of this event. However, at least a few people that are close to me or SHOULD be ? reacted strangely to this, even to the point of dis-respect ( "showing off" "bragging" ) Also, I helped someone close to me out of THEIR Mess and rather than appreciation I get snide remarks relating to one of my jobs, which deals with people. Sort of ( 'oh, thanks a lot for reminding me why you were able to do this so smoothly-----because of your job

which I hate and which makes me think you are doing Z when you should be doing Y and I can't trust you, etc. ' ) Meanwhile, most who witnessed this event agreed with me NOT to tell a certain person what happened because : 1. She is older, questionable health ? and it would upset her tremendously, even though I did X and there was a happy ending.

2. Someone else's negligence ? sloppiness ? almost cost a life ( or at least a limb ) 3. Her own extreme lateness and ( water ? element ? ) flakiness concerning time was a direct cause of the Potential Disaster. 4. And somewhat disturbing to me, I did not feel comfortable in this "hero role" ( nor the "guru" role, etc. ) even though it felt totally natural for me to do what I did and I would do it again. I was glad it worked out well yet didn't need or even want

praise ( and at the same time I certainly did not want or expect dis-respect ! ) Thanks for reading and I'm looking forward to some insight, Michael Twomey P.s. Within the last few months I have also been cast as the "asshole" role quite often and even though innocent of "false attacks" "slander" and "accusations" these Traps and Roles can be bothersome. I almost feel as if my

"good deeds" are biting me in the ass and I might as well have some fun.

[Guest guest]

Hey, Mike!

 

This is funny, since about a year and a half ago, you gave me some

advice about a personal situation, that may be quite applicable here.

I was having a difficulty with a group of people, and you pointed out

to me that I was, without any intentional effort on my part, the

alpha-male of the group. " Me, the top dawg? " I said, " Pshaw! "

 

You pointed out that, in that position, certain people might look up

to me, others might treat me as a friend, but to certain folks, the

" little dawgs " (my terminology, not Mike's), any appearance of

" alpha-ness " will make them aware of thier own feelings inadeqacy.

These little dawgs attack you for making them feel & become aware of

their shortcomings, since it's easier than working on themselves.

 

Sure enough, that was precisely what my situation was! People who were

complacent about being an 'also-ran' in their own lives were angry

that I was not willing to accept that for myself, and worked really

hard to tear me down. My treating them like friends just made them

feel they had a better chance of succeeding against me. I just wish I

heeded your advice more closely.

 

The situation sucks, but those people who act out innapropriately

against you are not functioning on the same level of energy or

emotional evolution that you are. They have the minds of dogs, and are

proving it.

 

Five hundred years ago, someone asked a famous Italian fencing master

what to do if you find you have to fight with someone who is your

friend. He replied that if you have to fight him, he is not your friend.

 

Rock on, dude,

--Jeff

[Guest guest]

Hi Jeff,

 

 

And thanks again for your call

 

 

Yes, I remember your posts and how we talked about your situation back and

glad it was of help.

 

 

As I explore my own situation more and more I

am finding there is more and more to learn and so I am looking for the lessons

with the right attitude.

 

 

Different from your situation, although some of my advice to you carries over to

this and I am walking my talk LOL

 

 

I might post further on these situations as I continue to learn more and apply

the learnings...

 

 

Michael Twomey

 

 

 

 

-

stuydaze

 

9/1/2006 3:21:07 AM

Re: crossing to a more evolved level leaves old friends behind

 

 

Hey, Mike!This is funny, since about a year and a half ago, you gave me someadvice about a personal situation, that may be quite applicable here. I was having a difficulty with a group of people, and you pointed outto me that I was, without any intentional effort on my part, thealpha-male of the group. "Me, the top dawg?" I said, "Pshaw!"You pointed out that, in that position, certain people might look upto me, others might treat me as a friend, but to certain folks, the"little dawgs" (my terminology, not Mike's), any appearance of"alpha-ness" will make them aware of thier own feelings inadeqacy.These little dawgs attack you for making them feel & become aware oftheir shortcomings, since it's easier than working on themselves. Sure enough, that was precisely what my situation was! People who werecomplacent about being an 'also-ran' in their own lives were angrythat I was not willing to accept that for myself, and worked reallyhard to tear me down. My treating them like friends just made themfeel they had a better chance of succeeding against me. I just wish Iheeded your advice more closely.The situation sucks, but those people who act out innapropriatelyagainst you are not functioning on the same level of energy oremotional evolution that you are. They have the minds of dogs, and areproving it. Five hundred years ago, someone asked a famous Italian fencing masterwhat to do if you find you have to fight with someone who is yourfriend. He replied that if you have to fight him, he is not your friend.Rock on, dude, --Jeff

[Guest guest]

Hi Barbara,

 

 

Thank you for your advice and encouragement. And of course I have cut the Aka Cords and

I actually do various drills to be more Centered and Grounded

and to Free

 

 

I have also distanced myself from these people for the time being and

will ONLY reward positive behavior, energy, etc.

 

 

Michael Twomey

 

 

 

 

 

-

 

barbara101ann

 

8/30/2006 3:58:20 AM

Re: crossing to a more evolved level leaves old friends behind

 

 

, "mike2velli" <Mike2velli wrote:> This is related to TRAPS and ROLES, which is ironic because I have been> enjoying re-reading HARRY BROWNE's > "How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World" ( Awesome book !!!! > > > I probably have to re-read it even more clearly and take better notes. > > > It seems that there have been quite a few people over the last year or so that have been > treating me like a "guru" while others more recently > have been treating me like a leper. And as far as I know I am still being Me. i've been doing Donna and Doc healing drills with my friends. Theylove me and treat me with respect.But my mother thought i was crazy.I told Doc and he had me cut my aka connections with everyone in my life. He told me that those who were supposed to reconnect would either contact me, or i'd contact with them.My mother quit bothering me and calling me crazy. about 2 weeks after i cut the cords she did call and asked why i was not talking with her. I told her. Now she even seems curious about what i'm teaching my friends.It's funny but many of the friends i used to hang around with are on a different path and we never meet. i do have many new friends that are on the same path. many of there are on groups like this one.Barb

[Guest guest]

Hello Mike,

 

Great thread.

 

What are your lessons?

 

IMO when one evolves...it is a different level and ones perspective

from the top of the mountain is differetn from everyon who just lived

in the valley.

 

And that mountain top view is also different from the mountatin top

of another higher or just differnt mountain altogeher...I guess

metaframing in NLP terms. Forgive me is I am messing up the

terminologies as I am just learning about NLP.

 

In my martial arts oddessy, I hve had people come and go. They come

and go as they please. It is like a dance... The song plays you both

want to dance...the music change you want to dance but they dont

know/want/willing to. So you dance with someone else. Sometimes the

dance is cha-cha...sometimes the Communal Bird Dance.

 

So it is all OK. Are you OK? OK with not getting along well with

everyone? OK with the fact tha some people will shoot you down? If

the going away of certain people in your life creates voids, then I

am sure there will be something to fill that VOID.

 

You just gotta keep truckin.

 

> Also, LOTS of reading relating to this subject ( also Lucid Dreams

since both experiences )

 

 

> I'm looking at this as a great opportunity to learn more about

myself and to better

> deal with others. So what are some of my lessons... ?

 

I have to agree with the other person who posted that lessons ar

TRULY unique to you. It is whatever lesson you want it to be. My

previous notes saying that it is all OK was from my experience when I

had a similar experience. Your may actually come from the fact that

you are doing LOTS OF READINGS.

 

 

>

> Thanks for helpful input,

>

> Michael Twomey

>

> P.s. Thanks again Doc

>

>

> -

> Mark Perkins

>

> 8/29/2006 6:35:38 PM

> Re: crossing to a more

evolved level leaves old friends behind

>

>

> Mike,

> For whom and/or why did you do this good deed? The person in

trouble? The praise of your firends? Your own ego?

>

> From the gist of your post, my impression is that you did it in

service of someone in trouble. If that is the case (and you need to

ask yourself that question), bugger the rest of the crowd.

>

> Mark

>

> " mike2velli " <Mike2velli wrote:

> Hi Doc, all,

>

>

> I recently experienced some things that I am still digesting and

> would appreciate some insight, feedback, suggestions, etc. either

in private

> or on list, if you think it could help others or start and

interesting thread...

>

>

> Due to the personal nature of these experiences I will be

> artfully vague------enough detail to get some

> good advice, etc.

>

>

> This is related to TRAPS and ROLES, which is ironic because I have

been

> enjoying re-reading HARRY BROWNE's

> " How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World " ( Awesome

book !!!!

>

>

> I probably have to re-read it even more clearly and take better

notes.

>

>

> It seems that there have been quite a few people over the last year

or so that have been

> treating me like a " guru " while others more recently

> have been treating me like a leper. And as far as I know I am

still being Me.

>

>

> Most recently because I simply did what I felt was right in a

Potentially Disastrous situation

> and responded

> faster and more efficiently than others and " saved the day " I

> am now a " hero " to the 20 people who witnessed various stages of

this event.

>

>

> However, at least a few people that are close to me or SHOULD be ?

reacted

> strangely to this, even to the point of dis-respect ( " showing

off " " bragging " )

>

>

> Also, I helped someone close to me out of THEIR Mess and rather

than appreciation

> I get snide remarks relating to one of my jobs, which deals with

people.

> Sort of

> ( 'oh, thanks a lot for reminding me why you were able to do this

so smoothly-----because of your job which I hate

> and which makes me

> think you are doing Z when you should be doing Y and I can't trust

you, etc. ' )

>

>

> Meanwhile, most who witnessed this event agreed with me NOT to tell

> a certain person what happened because :

>

>

> 1. She is older, questionable health ? and it would upset her

tremendously, even though I did X and there was a happy ending.

>

> 2. Someone else's negligence ? sloppiness ? almost cost a life ( or

at least a limb )

>

> 3. Her own extreme lateness and ( water ? element ? ) flakiness

concerning time was a

> direct cause of the Potential Disaster.

>

> 4. And somewhat disturbing to me, I did not feel comfortable in

this " hero role " ( nor the " guru " role, etc. )

> even though it felt

> totally natural for me to do what I did and I would do it again. I

was glad it worked out well

> yet didn't need or even want praise ( and at the same time I

certainly did not want or expect dis-respect ! )

>

>

> Thanks for reading and I'm looking forward to some insight,

> Michael Twomey

>

>

> P.s. Within the last few months I have also been cast as

the " asshole " role quite often and

> even though innocent of " false attacks " " slander "

and " accusations "

> these Traps and Roles can be bothersome.

> I almost feel as if my " good deeds " are biting me in the ass and I

might as well have some fun.

>

[Guest guest]

> Hi Barbara,

> > Thank you for your advice and encouragement. And of course I have

cut the Aka Cords and

> I actually do various drills to be more Centered and Grounded

> and to Free

 

> Michael Twomey

 

Funny about those AKA cords. I've been away from this list, & most of

my email & social life, due to work. A few days before I checked this

list and read Mike's posts, It suddenly occured to me that I hadn't

heard from him in a long time, & wondered what he was up to.

 

Hm.

 

Say, Mike, might a little RV or dream invader experimentation help?

 

Cheers,

Jeff

[Guest guest]

Hi Jia,

 

 

Thanks and glad you also are getting benefits from this thread and

that's another good reason to post.

 

 

And as I wrote I am continuously looking for more and more lessons----that

question ( what are my lessons ? )

was partially for me and also partially for everyone else...

 

 

I have been doing EFT and Energy Psychology, Energy Medicine for this and a lot of

Self Hypnosis, etc. ( including some Time Line variations and some of

Mark's stuff, too )

 

 

As I discover more and more I will probably post. I realize that a GIFT to someone

who does not want or appreciate it is NOT a gift. One person's GOLD is

another person's pan of mud with some shiny stuff in it. And that is fine because

there are people who actually WANT more Gold.

 

 

Michael Twomey

 

 

 

 

-

going2evolve

 

9/4/2006 12:58:42 AM

Re: crossing to a more evolved level leaves old friends behind

 

 

Hello Mike,Great thread.What are your lessons?IMO when one evolves...it is a different level and ones perspective from the top of the mountain is differetn from everyon who just lived in the valley. And that mountain top view is also different from the mountatin top of another higher or just differnt mountain altogeher...I guess metaframing in NLP terms. Forgive me is I am messing up the terminologies as I am just learning about NLP.In my martial arts oddessy, I hve had people come and go. They come and go as they please. It is like a dance... The song plays you both want to dance...the music change you want to dance but they dont know/want/willing to. So you dance with someone else. Sometimes the dance is cha-cha...sometimes the Communal Bird Dance. So it is all OK. Are you OK? OK with not getting along well with everyone? OK with the fact tha some people will shoot you down? If the going away of certain people in your life creates voids, then I am sure there will be something to fill that VOID.You just gotta keep truckin.> Also, LOTS of reading relating to this subject ( also Lucid Dreams since both experiences ) > I'm looking at this as a great opportunity to learn more about myself and to better> deal with others. So what are some of my lessons... ? I have to agree with the other person who posted that lessons ar TRULY unique to you. It is whatever lesson you want it to be. My previous notes saying that it is all OK was from my experience when I had a similar experience. Your may actually come from the fact that you are doing LOTS OF READINGS.> > Thanks for helpful input, > > Michael Twomey > > P.s. Thanks again Doc > > > - > Mark Perkins > > 8/29/2006 6:35:38 PM > Re: crossing to a more evolved level leaves old friends behind> > > Mike,> For whom and/or why did you do this good deed? The person in trouble? The praise of your firends? Your own ego?> > From the gist of your post, my impression is that you did it in service of someone in trouble. If that is the case (and you need to ask yourself that question), bugger the rest of the crowd. > > Mark> > "mike2velli" <Mike2velli wrote:> Hi Doc, all, > > > I recently experienced some things that I am still digesting and > would appreciate some insight, feedback, suggestions, etc. either in private> or on list, if you think it could help others or start and interesting thread... > > > Due to the personal nature of these experiences I will be > artfully vague------enough detail to get some > good advice, etc.> > > This is related to TRAPS and ROLES, which is ironic because I have been> enjoying re-reading HARRY BROWNE's > "How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World" ( Awesome book !!!! > > > I probably have to re-read it even more clearly and take better notes. > > > It seems that there have been quite a few people over the last year or so that have been > treating me like a "guru" while others more recently > have been treating me like a leper. And as far as I know I am still being Me. > > > Most recently because I simply did what I felt was right in a Potentially Disastrous situation > and responded > faster and more efficiently than others and "saved the day" I > am now a "hero" to the 20 people who witnessed various stages of this event.> > > However, at least a few people that are close to me or SHOULD be ? reacted > strangely to this, even to the point of dis-respect ( "showing offbragging" ) > > > Also, I helped someone close to me out of THEIR Mess and rather than appreciation> I get snide remarks relating to one of my jobs, which deals with people. > Sort of > ( 'oh, thanks a lot for reminding me why you were able to do this so smoothly-----because of your job which I hate > and which makes me > think you are doing Z when you should be doing Y and I can't trust you, etc. ' ) > > > Meanwhile, most who witnessed this event agreed with me NOT to tell > a certain person what happened because :> > > 1. She is older, questionable health ? and it would upset her tremendously, even though I did X and there was a happy ending.> > 2. Someone else's negligence ? sloppiness ? almost cost a life ( or at least a limb ) > > 3. Her own extreme lateness and ( water ? element ? ) flakiness concerning time was a > direct cause of the Potential Disaster. > > 4. And somewhat disturbing to me, I did not feel comfortable in this "hero role" ( nor the "guru" role, etc. ) > even though it felt > totally natural for me to do what I did and I would do it again. I was glad it worked out well > yet didn't need or even want praise ( and at the same time I certainly did not want or expect dis-respect ! ) > > > Thanks for reading and I'm looking forward to some insight, > Michael Twomey > > > P.s. Within the last few months I have also been cast as the "asshole" role quite often and > even though innocent of "false attacksslander" and "accusations" > these Traps and Roles can be bothersome. > I almost feel as if my "good deeds" are biting me in the ass and I might as well have some fun.>