Those NASTY people out there are REFLEC...

[Guest guest]

Hi,

 

I can relate to your points and I felt moved to respond from my personal experience. There are a number of events in my life including abuse and near death which people have variously described as "going to hell and back", "horrific", "soul destroying" etc.

 

For some time I agreed with them. Then I realised that without these experiences I would not be who I am today. It is not, for me, about saying "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger" - it is about recognising the growth and evolution that has come about through my life experience.

 

Part of that growth and experience is enabling me to recognise how I may have attracted some unpleasant situations. It doesn't matter that at the time I felt powerless - what matters is that now I don't.....and that if it happened again I wouldn't......

 

Accepting who I am now is a part of accepting my path and how I got here. I am now more able to put things in place for the future....

 

I am not the best at being succinct and this is not the easiest of things to put into writing as it touches the core of who I am - please accept my apologies if this touches more cords with you - that is not my intention.

 

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Thursday, April 14, 2005 9:32 AM

Re: Those NASTY people out there are REFLEC...

 

I have been reading all these posts with a lot of interest-I came over on the invite from the huna group-I am new to all this stuff-it is very fascinating for sure-

but I must say-as I feel strongly about crime victims advocacy-as a survivor of ritualized abuse-

Is a child who is kidnapped and murdered responsible for that??

did the victims in the Holocaust bring that upon themselves??

 

At what point do we stop blaming the victim and say

THE CRIME BELONGS TO THE CRIMINAL????

M

[Guest guest]

i would like to respond briefly to these two comments.

 

BOTH are correct, it just depends on the perspective you are looking at it from.

i have my own personal experience with abuse. i feel pretty confident in

assuming that no one is saying here, from a *legalistic* and *social*

perspective, that the crime does *not* belong to the criminal.

 

at the same time, cris is absolutely right on, that from a *spiritual*

perspective (if you don't like that word, find another one and insert it here)

we ultimately have to realize the meaning or relevance of our own role in such

events, because that's the only way you're ever going to move beyond it. it's

something that comes out of the depth of your own being. it is NOT " passing the

buck " .

 

yeah i was an abused wife once, with 2 abused kids and an abused dog too.

nothing like it has never happened since, because i have moved on... literally

as well as figuratively. those attractor patterns have been completely revised.

 

- lyn