Guest guest Posted August 20, 2001 Report Share Posted August 20, 2001 Dear Anat: I was interested to read about your experience and while I am not surprised at it's outcome for several reasons I have a couple of things to say to you..... Unless you have a particular regional preference (i.e. the beach or the mountains or the prairie or the desert or the city or the country) or a specific area is better for you career-wise (i.e. Hollywood or New York for writers and actors, etc.) or you are in an oppressive situation (personal abuse or political unrest) moving is like playing chess. There is no advantage of one space over another. The true advantage of moving is to improve your circumstances, and all things being equal, there really isn't a better or a worse place to live. I have moved all my life. While it seems that people are friendlier in some places, or that things are more expensive some places, or that it is prettier or busier or more cultured or more folksy or more historical or more picturesque wherever I am, I have learned a few things about moving. The first is, that despite all good intentions, only the best of your friends move with you energetically. Most go on with their lives and your disappearance is as seemless as a transient ripple in a pond. While moving represents a chance to clean house and start over, both metaphorically and physically, you don't have to change your address to do that. There are always new friends and acquaintances, even in places that might seem at first lonely or hostile. There is always room in your life for a new friend, but it may mean cutting the rope that binds you to familiar but stagnant relationships. No matter where you go, there you are. In other words, look inside first for a new place to move, not outside. Bloom where you're planted. Take advantage of the place where you happen to be, instead of resisting and trying to control that. Find out why you are where you are, and do what you are supposed to do there. If you do, when it is time, the perfect place to move will appear. Trust in the process. There is a subtle thing here, about the difference between trusting your instincts and obeying your impulses. Double, triple and quadruple check yourself before doing something that is going to affect you long term, or involve other people. Be quiet with it and consider all the implications as far out as you can see. Don't be a slave to urges, but rather follow your heart. You can move and move and move, and your heart will be talking to you, but until you sit still and listen, you will never hear it. So feel blessed as you look to the mountains, feel the pervasive holiness of your surroundings and be. Don't rationalize right now, just be. Be quiet. Be aware. Be. --- Hojotoho!, Crow " Look for Rainbows in the Darkness " --- Caroline " Crow " Abreu _______________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2001 Report Share Posted August 20, 2001 Thank you Caroline . I needed these " rabbit " tranquilizing insights. the " tiger " is too much awaken inside. Anat - Caroline Abreu <nrgbalance éåí ùðé 20 àåâåñè 2001 14:14 Living and Chess > Dear Anat: > > I was interested to read about your experience and while I am not surprised > at it's outcome for several reasons I have a couple of things to say to > you..... > > Unless you have a particular regional preference (i.e. the beach or the > mountains or the prairie or the desert or the city or the country) or a > specific area is better for you career-wise (i.e. Hollywood or New York for > writers and actors, etc.) or you are in an oppressive situation (personal > abuse or political unrest) moving is like playing chess. There is no > advantage of one space over another. The true advantage of moving is to > improve your circumstances, and all things being equal, there really isn't a > better or a worse place to live. > > I have moved all my life. While it seems that people are friendlier in some > places, or that things are more expensive some places, or that it is > prettier or busier or more cultured or more folksy or more historical or > more picturesque wherever I am, I have learned a few things about moving. > > The first is, that despite all good intentions, only the best of your > friends move with you energetically. Most go on with their lives and your > disappearance is as seemless as a transient ripple in a pond. > > While moving represents a chance to clean house and start over, both > metaphorically and physically, you don't have to change your address to do > that. > > There are always new friends and acquaintances, even in places that might > seem at first lonely or hostile. There is always room in your life for a new > friend, but it may mean cutting the rope that binds you to familiar but > stagnant relationships. > > No matter where you go, there you are. In other words, look inside first for > a new place to move, not outside. > > Bloom where you're planted. Take advantage of the place where you happen to > be, instead of resisting and trying to control that. Find out why you are > where you are, and do what you are supposed to do there. If you do, when it > is time, the perfect place to move will appear. Trust in the process. > > There is a subtle thing here, about the difference between trusting your > instincts and obeying your impulses. Double, triple and quadruple check > yourself before doing something that is going to affect you long term, or > involve other people. Be quiet with it and consider all the implications as > far out as you can see. Don't be a slave to urges, but rather follow your > heart. You can move and move and move, and your heart will be talking to > you, but until you sit still and listen, you will never hear it. > > So feel blessed as you look to the mountains, feel the pervasive holiness of > your surroundings and be. Don't rationalize right now, just be. Be quiet. Be > aware. Be. > > --- > Hojotoho!, > Crow > " Look for Rainbows in the Darkness " > --- > Caroline " Crow " Abreu > > > > _______________ > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp > > > **************************************** > Visit the community page: > For administrative problems -owner > To , - > > All messages, files and archives of this forum are copyright of the group and the individual authors. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2001 Report Share Posted August 21, 2001 Crow wrote: << moving is like playing chess. There is no advantage of one space over another. >> Wouldn't life be boring if everybody agreed with everybody else? I disagree with your statement for a number of reasons. People who move to Minnesota from either coast routinely comment on how pleasant it is to experience " Minnesota nice " . Sure that doesn't mean that EVERYBODY is nice ... just a noticeably larger percentage of the population. It's common for Minnesota businesses to accept personal checks. It's my understanding that in California that is rare. Many people who live in New York City are proud of its fast paced lifestyle. This would include being FAST to judge other people if they're not behaving as you think they should be (e.g. in traffic). Minneapolis is slower-paced than NYC. Wells, Minnesota [a small community] is much slower-paced than Minneapolis. I'm not making a value judgement in this paragraph - rather I'm pointing out differences. New Ulm Minnesota has a strong German heritage. They also have a reputation for being cool to accepting new outsider residents - to a greater extent than I have heard about of any other Minnesota city. In various parts of rural Utah, if you want to marry more than one spouse, go ahead. Your neighbors won't think any less of you. That is surely not true in MANY other areas of the country. I could go on, but you get my point. I think it's great that different places offer choices that are different for different people. Rich in Minnesota A clear conscience may be the sign of a bad memory. <A HREF= " http://www.homestead.com/EarnSave/Gateway_Page.html " >Get paid for what you've been doing for free.</A> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2001 Report Share Posted August 21, 2001 See, this is what I hate about someone taking a single line out of context. If you read my statement in the paragraph where it belongs, I said just what you said. All things being equal, there is no advantage. Wherever you go, there you are. You may feel more or less comfortable in any given place, but there is nothing inherently superior or inferior in any of them except in a subjective sense. Go back and read my post again ;-) Crow _______________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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