Guest guest Posted August 15, 2001 Report Share Posted August 15, 2001 Hi all, I am wrestling with a persistant, underlying self-worth deficit. I don't have too much problem with self-confidence and, comparatively, my self-esteem isn't too bad. But, in my guts, I carry a belief that I am not valuable, not worth while, not good for much, and when I get down to the bottom; a terrible person. When I am not down in the bottom, I know that I am NOT a terrible person - I'm at least an OK person. People like me. I have some talents. But. I don't allow myself to desire anything or receive much contentment or joy or use or enjoy those talents, because of the very deep belief that I am not worth it and therefore won't (or shouldn't) get it. I searched on the internet for resources on building self-worth. Pthth! It comes from the position of parent helping child - If I could be a good parent to myself, I wouldn't need to build my self- worth! I could find no real direction for an adult trying to help themself up. Any direction coming from you; my e-friends, would be welcome. Audrey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2001 Report Share Posted August 16, 2001 Audrey, Get Lynn Grabhorn's " Playbook " !! It's the best thing out there for busting these beliefs. Linda " DrNature " audreylee wrote: > Hi all, > I am wrestling with a persistant, underlying self-worth deficit. I > don't have too much problem with self-confidence and, comparatively, > my self-esteem isn't too bad. But, in my guts, I carry a belief that > I am not valuable, not worth while, not good for much, and when I get > down to the bottom; a terrible person. When I am not down in the > bottom, I know that I am NOT a terrible person - I'm at least an OK > person. People like me. I have some talents. But. I don't allow > myself to desire anything or receive much contentment or joy or use > or enjoy those talents, because of the very deep belief that I am not > worth it and therefore won't (or shouldn't) get it. > > I searched on the internet for resources on building self-worth. > Pthth! It comes from the position of parent helping child - If I > could be a good parent to myself, I wouldn't need to build my self- > worth! I could find no real direction for an adult trying to help > themself up. > > Any direction coming from you; my e-friends, would be welcome. > > Audrey > > **************************************** > Visit the community page: > For administrative problems -owner > To , - > > All messages, files and archives of this forum are copyright of the group and the individual authors. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2001 Report Share Posted August 16, 2001 It is better to GIVE, than to receive. I suggest you find a non profit organization, and start helping those less fortunate. Feed the hungry. Work with kids who have abusive parents. Go to support groups and listen. You will find you are not bad off. To give, ONLY gives back to us. It's a LAW that does not change. Just be careful to give of yourself (Ididn't say money, that's another subject) That law is also a seed you plant) to those you do NOT know, but the therapists etc, --DO! You will feel like a million, just seeing the eyes of another in need, --smile at you! Rose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2001 Report Share Posted August 16, 2001 Hi Audrey, Here's one way to look at the whole issue of self-worth. What value would you place on something that was one in a million? How about something that was one of a kind, like a Rembrandt? How about an individual (yourself) who is not only one of a kind, but is the only one of her sort who has ever existed and who will ever exist? Your individuality is a unique gift, to yourself and to the world? And lest I forget, what is the worth of a surgeon who is one of only several that can perform a specific operation? How much is he paid for his services? Your ability to do those things only you can do, in the special way you do them, makes you every bit as valuable as that surgeon.....check that, it makes you more valuable because only you can touch the world the way you do...... Take care, Mani >I am wrestling with a persistant, underlying self-worth deficit. I >don't have too much problem with self-confidence and, comparatively, >my self-esteem isn't too bad. But, in my guts, I carry a belief that >I am not valuable, not worth while, not good for much, and when I get >down to the bottom; a terrible person. When I am not down in the >bottom, I know that I am NOT a terrible person - I'm at least an OK >person. People like me. I have some talents. But. I don't allow >myself to desire anything or receive much contentment or joy or use >or enjoy those talents, because of the very deep belief that I am not >worth it and therefore won't (or shouldn't) get it. > >I searched on the internet for resources on building self-worth. >Pthth! It comes from the position of parent helping child - If I >could be a good parent to myself, I wouldn't need to build my self- >worth! I could find no real direction for an adult trying to help >themself up. > >Any direction coming from you; my e-friends, would be welcome. > >Audrey > _______________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2001 Report Share Posted August 16, 2001 Hi Audrey, I think your not alone with your problem. Most of us have these same issues to some extent based on our childhood conditioning. I have been helped immeasurably by 'The Four Agreements' by Don Miguel Rriz. The book is so simple but so profound. It helped me to see what my agreements (programing I agreed to) were and thereby conciously make new ones. The forth agreement is 'always do your best', realizing that what our best is changes from day to day and maybe even hour to hour. If we accept our best in the moment then there isn't any need to self judge, have regrets or self abuse ourselves. I know that you are a wonderful loving creation of Spirit and worthy of the upmost love, especially your own. In love and light, Mary Anderson , audreylee@n... wrote: > Hi all, > I am wrestling with a persistant, underlying self-worth deficit. I > don't have too much problem with self-confidence and, comparatively, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2001 Report Share Posted August 17, 2001 Hi all, here is something to ponder about self worth: A well known speaker started off the seminar by holding up a $20 note In the room of 200, he asked, who would like this $20? and nearly all hands started to go up. He said, I am going to give this to one of you, but first let me do this. He proceeded to cruple the bill up. He then asked " who still wants it? Still the hands went in the air. Well, he replied, what if I do this? He dropped it on the floor from a great height, and then he started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty and asked " Who still wants it ? " Still hands went into the air. He said " My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what i did to the money, you still wanted it, because, the value of the note was never decreased. It is still worth 20 dollars. Many times in our lives we are dropped, crumpled and ground into the dirt by decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We can feel that we are worthless, but, no matter what has happened or what will happen, YOU will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, YOU are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do, or who we know. BUT by who we are. You are special, dont ever forget that! loads of love and great vibes Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2001 Report Share Posted August 17, 2001 Good value and enlightening. Thank for the posting max - " Carol + John " <caznjohn Friday, August 17, 2001 9:51 AM Re: self worth > Hi all, here is something to ponder about self worth: > > A well known speaker started off the seminar by holding up a $20 note > In the room of 200, he asked, who would like this $20? and nearly all hands > started to go up. > He said, I am going to give this to one of you, but first let me do this. > He proceeded to cruple the bill up. He then asked " who still wants it? > Still the hands went in the air. > Well, he replied, what if I do this? He dropped it on the floor from a great > height, and then he started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He > picked it up, now crumpled and dirty and asked " Who still wants it ? " > Still hands went into the air. > He said " My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. > No matter what i did to the money, you still wanted it, because, the value > of the note was never decreased. > It is still worth 20 dollars. > Many times in our lives we are dropped, crumpled and ground into the dirt by > decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We can feel that > we are worthless, but, no matter what has happened or what will happen, YOU > will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, YOU > are still priceless to those who love you. > The worth of our lives comes not in what we do, or who we know. BUT by who > we are. > You are special, dont ever forget that! > > loads of love and great vibes > Carol > > > > **************************************** > Visit the community page: > For administrative problems -owner > To , - > > All messages, files and archives of this forum are copyright of the group and the individual authors. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2001 Report Share Posted August 18, 2001 Mani i loved your post concerning self-worth. it is so true and very inspiring. thank you. Anat - MaxBlack <maxblack éåí ùéùé 17 àåâåñè 2001 19:21 Re: self worth > Good value and enlightening. > > Thank for the posting > > max > > - > " Carol + John " <caznjohn > > Friday, August 17, 2001 9:51 AM > Re: self worth > > > > Hi all, here is something to ponder about self worth: > > > > A well known speaker started off the seminar by holding up a $20 note > > In the room of 200, he asked, who would like this $20? and nearly all > hands > > started to go up. > > He said, I am going to give this to one of you, but first let me do this. > > He proceeded to cruple the bill up. He then asked " who still wants it? > > Still the hands went in the air. > > Well, he replied, what if I do this? He dropped it on the floor from a > great > > height, and then he started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He > > picked it up, now crumpled and dirty and asked " Who still wants it ? " > > Still hands went into the air. > > He said " My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. > > No matter what i did to the money, you still wanted it, because, the value > > of the note was never decreased. > > It is still worth 20 dollars. > > Many times in our lives we are dropped, crumpled and ground into the dirt > by > > decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We can feel > that > > we are worthless, but, no matter what has happened or what will happen, > YOU > > will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, > YOU > > are still priceless to those who love you. > > The worth of our lives comes not in what we do, or who we know. BUT by who > > we are. > > You are special, dont ever forget that! > > > > loads of love and great vibes > > Carol > > > > > > > > **************************************** > > Visit the community page: > > For administrative problems -owner > > To , - > > > > All messages, files and archives of this forum are copyright of the > group and the individual authors. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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