Guest guest Posted October 5, 2000 Report Share Posted October 5, 2000 Jo: I have to respond to this remark, since I find that in my current situation I am fairly socially isolated. I moved from the South, where my family and a large supportive group of friends and aquaintances are, to New England to marry my husband, who is, IMO, the best husband in the world. New England is nothing like the South in climate or temperment. People are generally slow to warm up, somewhat distant, and don't quite know how to take my somewhat overwhelmingly assertive, earth mother, larger than life being. I imagine I can actually see people squint when they look at me <LOL> Now, I have met several wonderful people here who I have been blessed to have sporadic contact with, but the concept of distance, the crowded highways, and the absolute busy-ness of NE is so different from the less driven and more sociable environment I was used to that it has been a major adjustment, and I have had heavy bouts of loneliness and homesickness here in spite of my new family. Community is very important. I am fairly high maintenance in the social department, being a Libra ;-) I do not know or do I intend to meddle in your spiritual life, but if you have a religious practice, the community of a group can be valuable, whether it is a church, a synagogue, a temple, an ashram, a prayer or meditation group, or a drumming circle. One of my friends in Louisiana is an art therapist who has arthritis, and is limited in her activities away from home, but developed a unique way to get around that by inviting her friends over for tea and play on a regular basis. Some of the best times I can remember are sitting on Betsy's floor, trying to glue feathers to something, surrounded by other laughing, talkative women <G> Not a big thing, but certainly a grand thing. I am in a tiny apartment by the sea, and I dream of having a larger space so that I can open up my living room floor to a similar circle. Hope this helps. Crow " Look for Rainbows in the Darkness " ----Original Message Follows---- " Jo Rudd " <jorudd I know what you mean about being 'people-centred' and I could certainly do with a bit more of that. But my attempts to make friends over the last 10 years have been singularly unrewarding. I think I have a defective gene - inability to keep friends!! _______________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2000 Report Share Posted October 5, 2000 I seem to be hogging the list at the moment! Sorry, folks! But I must reply to all your friendly posts. Thanks, Patricia, for your suggestions about volunteering , and the reference to your website. I'll check that out. You'll see in other posts that I've commented on panic attacks and self-hypnosis, so won't repeat here. I don't seem to have black/blue patches under the eyes, but thanks for the tip. The skin below my eyes has that 'bruised' look but that isn't unusual. I don't sleep too well. I know what you mean about being 'people-centred' and I could certainly do with a bit more of that. But my attempts to make friends over the last 10 years have been singularly unrewarding. I think I have a defective gene - inability to keep friends!! Thanks again. Love, Jo, in Sydney Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 8, 2000 Report Share Posted October 8, 2000 Crow, Sorry to be so late answering your message - I've had so many kind posts since I requested help - this list seems full of helpful caring people. Jo - Caroline Abreu <nrgbalance Thursday, October 05, 2000 12:50 PM Re: Pat's reply to Recluse > Jo: > > I have to respond to this remark, since I find that in my current situation > I am fairly socially isolated. I moved from the South, where my family and a > large supportive group of friends and aquaintances are, to New England to > marry my husband, who is, IMO, the best husband in the world. > > New England is nothing like the South in climate or temperment. People are > generally slow to warm up, somewhat distant, Crow, you could drop the 'New' from 'New England' and your comments would be just as valid! I'm English but have been in australia long enough for some of the casualness and informality to rub off. >and don't quite know how to > take my somewhat overwhelmingly assertive, earth mother, larger than life > being. I imagine I can actually see people squint when they look at me <LOL> How wonderful! Do you squint back?? > Community is very important. I do not know or do I intend to meddle in your > spiritual life, but if you have a religious practice, the community of a > group can be valuable, whether it is a church, a synagogue, a temple, an > ashram, a prayer or meditation group, or a drumming circle. One of my > friends in Louisiana is an art therapist who has arthritis, and is limited > in her activities away from home, but developed a unique way to get around > that by inviting her friends over for tea and play on a regular basis. Some > of the best times I can remember are sitting on Betsy's floor, trying to > glue feathers to something, surrounded by other laughing, talkative women . Your friend has the right idea. I'm not that outgoing, but I have thought of getting a few people together and starting a book group. I belonged to one for a while but couldn't get myself to go regularly. I thought if I started my own, held at my house, I would *have* to turn up! I'm not attached to a religious group, but I envy those who are. I know it can be the basis of a very strong community bond. And it can solve the problem of what to do at Christmas.... > I am in a tiny apartment by the sea, and I dream of having a larger space so > that I can open up my living room floor to a similar circle. Hope you achieve this soon. Thank you for posting. Love, Jo > ----Original Message Follows---- > " Jo Rudd " <jorudd > > I know what you mean about being 'people-centred' and I could certainly do > with a bit more of that. But my attempts to make friends over the last 10 > years have been singularly unrewarding. I think I have a defective gene - > inability to keep friends!! > > > > _______________________ > Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. > > Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at > http://profiles.msn.com. > > > > **************************************** > Visit the community page: > For administrative problems -owner > To , - > > All messages, files and archives of this forum are copyright of the group and the individual authors. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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