Guest guest Posted September 19, 2000 Report Share Posted September 19, 2000 I'm actually surprised no one " bit " on this one <LOL> No, I do not think that men require more than one woman for variety in the boudoir, any more than women require more than one man. It is a matter of mind, imagination, and work to maintain a healthy relationship, just like everything else in life. It is a two way street, however. If you want to keep the fox at home, you have to act like a chicken sometimes ;-) We all have to compromise and communicate, and then do it all over again the next day. I find there are very few problems that people cannot truly work through if they are determined; the real problem is that they are determined to indulge themselves and their weaknesses rather than maintain a relationship. Priorities. So I say, that anyone who can say that, must not be much of a man, because he is not working to bring out the most in his woman; he is lazy, and prefers quantity to quality, in himself and others. That is an issue in a lot of addictive behavior; which is better, a single taste of the perfect thing, or a basket full of mediocrity? MidwifeST wrote: > Thanks to everyone for the advice and suggestions for my friend and his lack > of sexual control. I will pass these on to him and hope they will help. > > Another friend made a comment about things like this not happening in cultures > where men were aloud to have more than one wife, any comments? > > In love and light > Norma > > **************************************** -- Blessings, Crow " Look for Rainbows in the Darkness " -- --- Rev. Caroline Gutierrez Abreu, BS, RN, CHTP/I, CRMT, CH AIM: CaroCrow http://www.geocities.com/nrgbalance " We see things not as they are but as we are. " The Talmud " We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. " Albert Einstein A wise person learns by the experience of others. An ordinary person learns by his or her own experience. A fool learns by nobody's experience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2000 Report Share Posted September 19, 2000 I Often wondered why some men wondered, while some men had no problem being faithful even in a very difficult relationship. I've talked to men who would be distraught about being pulled into extramarital affairs and would describe the situation in the same way I've heard people describe the addictive nature, of substance abuse, or obsessive/compulsive disorders. I might add, the man's condition does not obligate his wife and children to stick it out with him, if it drags them down too. A couple of years ago, they had a program on the Discovery channel. It was testing male, white mice. One group was faithful and the other group sniffed out all the girl mouse's they could reach. Sum of this is that, the unfaithful mouse's lacked an important brain chemical, (the name of which escapes me now) that the faithful mouse's produced. They even did deliberate tests, by giving the faithful mice a drug that would deplete the specific, " faithful " chemical. Again the result was the original faithful mouse's, started carousing with the other girl mouse's. Now granted, family genetics have a large influence in this, but it is not the whole picture. IMO, it's chemistry again, which brings us back to nutrition, and finding out the right combination of things for the individual. We may not know all there is about nutrition to cure infidelity, but the condition suggests the body is out of balance, and not just on a behavioral level. On the other side of it, this is not an excuse for a carouser to " cop out " , with an excuse, " it's genetic, and nothing can be done about it " . Even though we don't know in terms exactly the nutritional connection, at this time, it would seem a full medical workup and hair analysis would help, along with a healthy diet and alternative methods of healing, including acupuncture, Reiki, etc. I'd also suggest a big detour away from tranquilizers or most pharmaceuticals. The man's condition should be considered within the structure of an addiction, or a sever obsessive/compulsive disorder. Viv* > MidwifeST wrote: > > > Thanks to everyone for the advice and suggestions for my friend and his lack > > of sexual control. I will pass these on to him and hope they will help. > > > > Another friend made a comment about things like this not happening in cultures > > where men were aloud to have more than one wife, any comments? > > > > In love and light > > Norma > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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