Digest Number 153

[Guest guest]

I once read about a mom who was abducted by teenagers who stole her car and

planned to do her harm, but when she put aside her fear and began to address

them as she would her own teenagers (with forgiveness and love in her heart

-- which was VERY difficult, but she figured she had nothing to lose, since

she was sure they intended to kill her, and showing her fear had not HELPED

the situation) -- they eventually let her go.

 

I can't find my copy of " Fire in the Soul " by Joan Borysenko, to confirm

whether it was in this book. It might have been in " A Return to Love " by

Marianne Williamson. Unfortunately, I don't have a knack for remembering

EXACTLY where I've read something, so it may be neither. Sorry if this is

more confusing than helpful, but the message is in agreement with the

statement that it is more effective for the victim to recognize the humanity

of the one overpowering them, than vice versa.

 

Hope this two cents helps.

 

Sharon

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 99-11-14 04:51:13 EST, you write:

 

<< Hi Robert,

 

I think I know what you're getting at but what is it that you need to know

specifically?

 

Lucille >>

 

I am looking to find who wrote that such a strategy would be effective..

 

The origonal post.. " I have heard discussion of but, where is it written,

that if under duress, ie a hostage situation, a potential rapist or other

such scenarios, one should

try to distract the one with power over, by way of getting them to

acknowledge your humanity, thus making you more than just an object? Can you

help me here???

 

Robert

A Student of Life "

 

I don't think it would be hostage negotiating because that is between the

person holding the hostage and someone outside the situation.

 

Thanks for the memory button-pushing suggestion that it was 'Silence of the

Lambs'.

It was not that but, if ny memory serves me correctly, it was a news magazine

story involving a hostage situation in the Congo(Zaire)..

 

Any other suggestions??

 

Robert