Seeking Help on Dealing with Past Issues

December 29, 2002

You can go through all of the counseling and the books and still learn that the real key to recovery of any kind is within yourself. I believe that we are meant to learn something from everything that happens to us, good and bad. Memories are memories whether they are good or bad, we respond and it is the response that is actually what we have to change. I have been through some really bad crap and yes, I, too have memories that still haunt me. But I try to separate what is going on today from those incidents. Don't get me wrong, I have those days when all those memories stir feelings up inside me but I have learned from each and every situation I have been through and I let those feelings go away. I honestly don't know that you are going to find an easy answer to letting those memories go, but that is what you will need to do is let those feelings and memories go to your higher power and just let go. I have heard that bach flower treatments can help with some of it, you would need to find someone who works with them. I have used meditation and self hypnosis to help me, but the biggest help was realizing that I would not be where I am today, I would not be the person I am today without having gone through every single day of my life, good and/or bad. I like the person I am today and I know I couldn't have said that back then. But each person is different and we all have different ways of healing, I only wish you freedom from your pain... Susan

"Princess of ROOSA <pixiegirl_76001" <pixiegirl_76001 wrote:

I'm in the counseling thing, done the recovery books.. still have those haunting past memories that I'd rather learn how to address and let them go .. once and for all. Any suggestions???**************************************************WWW.PEACEFULMIND.COM Sponsors Alternative Answers-HEALING NATURALLY- this is the premise of HOLISTIC HEALTH. Preventative and Curative measure to take for many ailments at:http://www.peacefulmind.com/ailments_frame.htm__________-To INVITE A FRIEND to our healing community, copy and paste this address in an email to them:http://www./members_add _________To ADD A LINK, RESOURCE, OR WEBSITE to Alternative Answers please Go to: http://www./links___________Community email addresses: Post message: Subscribe: - Un: - List owner: -owner _______Shortcut URL to this page: http://www.

December 29, 2002

Have you fully committed to your counselling therapy? Have you determined that you can make it work for you? If you have, and still haven't received any degree of healing, perhaps the fault is with the counsellors/treatment providers. If you suspect that this is the case, I would advise you to seek a different counselling environment or treatment provider. These clinics vary greatly in their approaches to the same set of dysfunctions.

"Princess of ROOSA <pixiegirl_76001" <pixiegirl_76001 wrote: I'm in the counseling thing, done the recovery books.. still have those haunting past memories that I'd rather learn how to address and let them go .. once and for all. Any suggestions???

December 29, 2002

You seem to have a good testimony there. I do agree with you on every point. I will say that some people have more difficulty realizing the way through the storm than other people do. There could be many reasons why Princess of ROOSA is having a difficult passage. Perhaps a book on letting go of our lives (such as in Zen...not as in suicide) could be of some help, as well. The real concern is to find out why is it more expedient to her to keep the memories and reexperience them, than it is to let them go. My old sales manager used to have this saying...kinda like a secular parable: If you take a cylinder, of any size, which is full of excreta, all you have to do is start scooping ice cream into the cylinder. Sooner or later, if you keep shoveling in the ice cream, all of the excreta will eventually be displaced and you will have a cylinder which is full of ice cream and is excreta-free. Perhaps there is a reason why there is no "ice cream" going into her "cylinder". Perhaps there is no want on her part to fill the cylinder with something other than excreta. It may be biochemical. It may be purely emotional. It may be an undiagnosed physical malady. It may be an allergy or a hormone imbalance. There may be no telling until the gamut of trial and error has been run. The important thing is to realize that anything can be overcome, and that if anyone else can do it, she can, too. The only time that the malady truly wins is when she gives up. My advice is for her to make an effort to get her scoop into some ice cream as soon a possible. Just make sure that it is truly ice cream and not more excreta.

On Sat, 28 Dec 2002 16:28:33 -0800 (PST) Susan Porter <porterwk2001 writes:

You can go through all of the counseling and the books and still learn that the real key to recovery of any kind is within yourself. I believe that we are meant to learn something from everything that happens to us, good and bad. Memories are memories whether they are good or bad, we respond and it is the response that is actually what we have to change. I have been through some really bad crap and yes, I, too have memories that still haunt me. But I try to separate what is going on today from those incidents. Don't get me wrong, I have those days when all those memories stir feelings up inside me but I have learned from each and every situation I have been through and I let those feelings go away. I honestly don't know that you are going to find an easy answer to letting those memories go, but that is what you will need to do is let those feelings and memories go to your higher power and just let go. I have heard that bach flower treatments can help with some of it, you would need to find someone who works with them. I have used meditation and self hypnosis to help me, but the biggest help was realizing that I would not be where I am today, I would not be the person I am today without having gone through every single day of my life, good and/or bad. I like the person I am today and I know I couldn't have said that back then. But each person is different and we all have different ways of healing, I only wish you freedom from your pain... Susan "Princess of ROOSA <pixiegirl_76001" <pixiegirl_76001 wrote: I'm in the counseling thing, done the recovery books.. still have those haunting past memories that I'd rather learn how to address and let them go .. once and for all. Any suggestions???