Thoughts

[Guest guest]

Hi,

 

I have also experienced these 'coincidences', although I think the

concept of 'synchronicity'

explains it better. I believe the term was coined by Carl Jung and jean

Shimoda Bolan wrote a good book explaining it well called,

" Synchronicity " . I tend to have fantastic 'luck' with little things like

sales when I identify what I want because I can believe it can happen. I

did find my way through a master's degree this way as I didn't have a

bachelor degree. I ended up with a creative program that I could never

have designed for myself. I, too, wish I could harness this energy

better. It has been a learning process for me. it seems that you must

want something bad enough with no conflicts about it and, then, I suspect

that it must be something that 'universe' knows will be for your best

good. This is only a guess, though. I suspect this incident might have

been to

[Guest guest]

Hi Cathy,

 

I think that is an important point to bring out about the fact it won't

work if it is ego-driven.

 

Thanks.

 

Celeste

[Guest guest]

Hi all,

 

I am enjoying all the words of wisdom that are coming across! What a

group! So glad to be a part of it.

 

Celeste

[Guest guest]

Love it! The old saying, " Be careful what you ask for, you might get

it! " , applies, doesn't it? ---or " every rose has a thorn! "

 

I had five sons in six years so I guess I should have alot of patience by

now. (You do need it just in order to survive.) However, I did love

it---13 wonderful grandchildren now. I wouldn't have changed it for the

world---even in the crazy-making moments.

 

Peace,

 

Celeste

[Guest guest]

Bridget

I have had many eexperiences as yours. Our thoughts have a lot to do with

what is going on in our lifes. The energy goes right along with our

thoughts. The thing I have notices is that our unconscious will not let us do

anything that will be detrimental in the whole . When we are working for the

whole ourselves and others

it seems to work .

When it is ego driven it does not seem to work. this has been my experience

Cathy

Mcv1052

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

i like your story.

it happened to me many times in the past.

I do not understand how this works but i know that such powers do exist,

what i noticed is that if the thought has a desire - somethink that you want

very much - then somehow in a mysterius way it happens,

 

I wish i knew how to master and control and fine-tune this power.

but it does exist. it's like you are painting the future with your thoughts.

 

sometimes this happens with trivial things.

 

i think these are hints sent to anyone who is open to listen...

 

i'd like to hear more about this phenomenon

Anat

 

 

 

 

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<lbjeparker

 

éåí øàùåï 25 îøõ 2001 18:11

Thoughts

 

 

> I have a question for the group.....How important are 'thoughts' to

success?

> And, more to the point, how does what we 'think' turn into the energy that

> translates into manifest?

>

> I ask because I am in business for myself, but no matter how hard I try,

no

> matter how much positive thinking I do, it seems that my business remains

at

> square-1. Yet, the other day, I passed a shoe store that gives dollars off

> for purchases.

>

> As I was driving by this store, I remembered that the last time that I had

> been in there was in June of 2000, and at that time I filled out the

> paperwork for my discounts after purchasing several pairs of shoes for my

> kids back to school attire. Well, now I remember that I have not received

my

> discount coupon for further purchases, and it's been 9 months!

>

> Immediately, I thought that I need to go in and talk to the Manager. That

> thought was promptly followed by a defeatist thought that my paperwork was

> probably lost, or there was a new policy, or the coupons no longer are

being

> given out, or the coupons were only good for the year 2000. Something

along

> those lines.

>

> Anyway, the bottom line is this: I decided to just forget about it, not

worth

> the hassle, and I am far too busy anyway. So, I never went in, just drove

on

> by.

>

> Well, guess what? Two days later I get a letter from the company in the

mail

> with a 'gold' card inside for 'preferred' customers, and a scratch off for

a

> vacation since I had spent so much there in the year 2000, AND my coveted

> coupon for $15.00 off my next purchase!

>

> Did I do this with my mind? Were my thoughts THAT powerful, even though

they

> were primarily defeatist thinking? And if I did this with thoughts alone,

how

> can I channel that energy into my fledgling business endeavor?

>

> Thanks for all the advice...........Have a blessed day,

>

> Bridget Parker

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

 

[Guest guest]

Greetings everyone,

What a wonderful message!!!

 

Many years ago, when I first participated in a series of intensive workshops

called Silva Mind Development, one of the " tests " as to how well we had

learned to improve our " mind " was to do " cases " at the end of the workshop.

 

These " cases " involved someone providing us with simply the name, age and

location of someone with a physical health challenge and we were to go into

our meditative level and " scan " the person's body, offering any insights

that came to our mental imagery.

 

 

After " scanning " we would then send the person thoughts of healing energy,

etc.

 

To be honest with you, when I first attempted this, I got NOTHING - ZILCH -

NADA... Boy was I disappointed. :-(

 

Some of the " stories " related by other graduates of this course were simply

amazing - how the person that they were presenting as a " case " would

sometimes experience drmatic shifts in their health challenges.

 

Each time I would re-attend the workshop sometimes just to hear the

" success " stories, even though I did not see any " progress " in my own

attempts at doing " cases " .

 

Over the years, however, I came to realize that I was putting too much

pressure on myself because I did not think this was working.

 

Well, a couple of years later, when I owned a restaurant on a resort island

off of New Jersey, business was not going so well. In a conversation with

my original instructor, I asked for advice.

 

She told me to visualize seeing people lined up out the door waiting to be

served.

 

Well, I kind of " ho-hummed " the idea but tried it anyway.

 

A week later, the weekend of July 4th (the biggest week for tourism on the

island), while all the other restaurants in the building (a mini-mall) shut

down at their normal time of about 9 to 10 PM, I decided to stay open a

little later to catch some of the " bar " traffic in the area.

 

Because the area where my restaurant was located usually " rolls up the

sidewalks " shortly after the sun sets, there is very little traffic on that

section of the island.

 

About 11:00, people started coming in the door and asking if we were still

open. By 11:30, the line was (literally) " out the door " !

 

I wound up staying open until almost 3:00 AM and did 30 times the amount of

business I had ever done in any one day before! We actually only shut down

because we ran out of almost everything on the menu!

 

Well, I started using this " visualization " technique much more frequently in

my life (in many areas), and it literally changed my life.

 

Now - if you're sitting down for this one....

Later that season, Hurricane Gloria was heading up the East Coast of America

and was spewing devastation all along her path. Sure enough, predictions

indicated that she would actually pass right along side of Long Beach

Island.

 

Well, I and a couple of all my employees retreated far inland (as did the

majority of the inhabitants in Gloria's path), and that evening we were

watching the weather reports of Gloria's progress up the coast.

 

One of my managers suggested that we all " visualize " Gloria heading out to

sea and dissipating. As much as my employees had seen the success of that

4th of July weekend (and of course learned about my little " secret " ),

several of them (and I must admit - myself included) were skeptical. But we

did it - we all " saw " Gloria ending her path of destruction and heading out

to sea.

 

Guess what happened? Just as Gloria got to Atlantic City (about 30 miles

south of Long Beach Island), she suddenly took an unexpected turn seaward

and within about 6 hours had almost totally dimished into just another

storm.

 

I have re-told this event time and again in my workshops, and while there

might be others who say " yeah, right - she would have headed out to sea

anyway " , the sudden shift of the storm totally surprised all the

meterologists. Take it for what it's worth!

 

In later years, as I began to study some of the teachings of Deepak Chopra

and Wayne Dyer, etc. and started to understand the nature of quantum

physics, it was no longer such a mystery to me.

 

Then many years ago, when I started reading a lot about Beatrice Lydecker

(who communicates with animals) and I learned that the best way to " teach "

an animal something is to " see " it performing whatever you want it to do " in

your mind " . She explained that this is how animals communicate with us and

one another - by " seeing " pictures.

 

You know what - it really does work!

 

Along the same lines, about three years ago, I was taking another workshop

entitled, " Developing Your Intuition " from a man by the name of Ken Coscia.

 

One of the exercises in the workshop had to do with psychometry, or picking

up impressions from an object.

 

My " partner " had given me a ring which belonged to a friend of his and he

wanted me to see if I could get anything from it.

 

I went into my meditative state, and IMMEDIATELY got the sense that a little

blond-haired girl of about 10 or 11 years old was standing behind me. In my

" visualization, " she reached out and touched me on the shoulder. Then she

pointed - and when I " looked " in the direction she pointed, I saw a narrow

road near a " wooded " area. I did not recognize the girl or the location,

and as I was relating all of this to my " partner " , none of it made any sense

to him at all.

 

I came out of my meditation and was like " oh well! "

 

That evening, just as I was getting ready for bed, I did something that I

NEVER, EVER do - I turned on the TV.

 

Just as I did, there was a story being broadcast of a young who I thought

looked familiar. When they flashed his name on the screen, my breath was

taken away from me and my head started to reel - it was a relative of mine

whom I had not seen in about 10 years! He had just been arrested as a

suspect in the murder of an 11 year old girl. They showed the scene where

the body was found and also an inset of her photo. You guessed it! It was

the girl and the scene from my vision that afternoon. They had actually

discovered the body at almost the precise moment that I had my " vision. "

 

What does all this have to do with the power of our thoughts? I believe

that it all goes to prove that the " information " or the " energy " of

everything that has / is / possibly will occur is already available and it

is simply a matter of being able to " tune " into it.

 

Over the years, as I have learned to " fine-tune " this capability, it has

helped to work " miracles " in my life. Does it always " work? " No, but the

number of " successes " greatly outweigh the number of (perceived) " failures. "

 

One of the biggest factors which attribute to the success of " thoughts " is

to realize that so many people see themselves in the very states that they

wish to get out of. This self-fulfilling rut often keeps them " stuck " .

 

When training animals, if you want the animal to stop doing something (like

getting on the table), you don't send the animal thoughts and pictures of

" not getting on the table " because the brain (animal or human) cannot

interpret " not " statements. You " visualize " or " communicate " the behavior

that you wish to have occur - such as seeing the animal stay on the floor.

 

This same premise applies to our own behavior patterns as well, whether they

be habit related or success related.

 

I encourage you to read some of the works by Larry Dosey on the healing

benefits of prayer - these are all " documented " instances of success with

focusing our thoughts. Really great reading!

 

I also highly recommend reading, " Molecules of Emotion " by Candace Pert. In

one of her more famous studies, she had taken a group of senior citizens,

most of them in their 70's and 80's and proceeded to temporarily " re-settle "

them in an environment where everything was constructed to look like life as

it was in the 1950's. Every attention to detail! All the buildings, the

automobiles, the music, the newspapers, the furnishings, etc.

 

Prior to them beginning this adventure, each of these people were subjected

to a vast array of physicals tests, I think there were close to 100 in all,

each test measuring widely-accepted biological markers of aging, such as

hormone levels, enzyme levels, digestive and glandular functions, muscular

strength and endurance tests, etc.

 

After the group spent a significant amount of time in their new environment,

these tests were again conducted. The assays, when published, caused quite

a stir in both medical and psychological communities. Almost without

exception, simply from having their environment, their thoughts, their

entire awareness " focused " on life 30 years prior, their bodies actually

returned to the physical states they would have been 3 decades before!

 

Not surprising is the fact that, when these people were returned to the

" natural " environment, almost without exception, their physical conditions

reverted back almost identical to how they had been previous to the study.

Wonderful, wonderful reading...

 

So how powerful are our thoughts?

 

One of my goals is to develop a network of people (like a ,

clubs, etc.) specifically designed to send healing, loving thoughts to

others. The group would be basically comprised of two sets of individuals.

The first set would be comprised of those who have challenges in their life

(whether it be physical, emotional, financial, relationship, whatever).

These people would simply submit their first name, age, location, and a

brief synopsis of their " challenge " to the group. The second set would be

those who would " visualize " and " focus " their thoughts on seeing these

people overcoming their " challenges " , sending them love and healing and

peace.

 

Will this work? According to the laws of quantum physics it most certainly

will have impact. Whether or not the " cases " will actually allow healing,

benefit, love, whatever into their life is another factor - but it can't

hurt to try, can it?

 

My intended name for this project, " Visions of Hope " .

 

Anyway, sorry for such a long post - just wanted to put my " 2 cents worth "

in.

 

Magical thoughts,

Jim McPherson

 

 

 

> " pine " <pine

>

>

>Re: Thoughts

>Sun, 25 Mar 2001 19:59:47 +0300

>

>i like your story.

>it happened to me many times in the past.

>I do not understand how this works but i know that such powers do exist,

>what i noticed is that if the thought has a desire - somethink that you

>want

>very much - then somehow in a mysterius way it happens,

>

>I wish i knew how to master and control and fine-tune this power.

>but it does exist. it's like you are painting the future with your

>thoughts.

>

>sometimes this happens with trivial things.

>

>i think these are hints sent to anyone who is open to listen...

>

>i'd like to hear more about this phenomenon

>Anat

>

 

 

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Greetings Cathy,

Great response...

The term " ego " helps to explain this in that " ego " implies a sense of

" separateness " from the whole. When we can learn to think of ourselves in

terms of " we are all connected - we are all part of the same energy / the

same source " , our results are much more successful.

 

Magical thoughts,

Jim

 

>mcv1052

>

>

>Re: Thoughts

>Sun, 25 Mar 2001 13:32:59 EST

>

>Bridget

>I have had many eexperiences as yours. Our thoughts have a lot to do with

>what is going on in our lifes. The energy goes right along with our

>thoughts. The thing I have notices is that our unconscious will not let us

>do

>anything that will be detrimental in the whole . When we are working for

>the

>whole ourselves and others

>it seems to work .

>When it is ego driven it does not seem to work. this has been my experience

>Cathy

>Mcv1052

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Common misconception is that to enter oneness one has to destroy the

ego.

Transcend is an inclusive term.

To transcend one's ego is to move to a higher pleane of consciousness

that includes, but is not controlled by, the ego.

Love it ALL.

rusty

 

 

Felix Amore <felixamore

Sunday, March 25, 2001 1:52 PM

Re: Thoughts

 

 

>Greetings Cathy,

>Great response...

>The term " ego " helps to explain this in that " ego " implies a sense of

> " separateness " from the whole. When we can learn to think of

ourselves in

>terms of " we are all connected - we are all part of the same energy /

the

>same source " , our results are much more successful.

>

>Magical thoughts,

>Jim

>

>>mcv1052

>>

>>

>>Re: Thoughts

>>Sun, 25 Mar 2001 13:32:59 EST

>>

>>Bridget

>>I have had many eexperiences as yours. Our thoughts have a lot to

do with

>>what is going on in our lifes. The energy goes right along with

our

>>thoughts. The thing I have notices is that our unconscious will not

let us

>>do

>>anything that will be detrimental in the whole . When we are

working for

>>the

>>whole ourselves and others

>>it seems to work .

>>When it is ego driven it does not seem to work. this has been my

experience

>>Cathy

>>Mcv1052

[Guest guest]

Anat: << I wish i knew how to master and control and fine-tune this power.

but it does exist. it's like you are painting the future with your thoughts.

>>

 

What a great " turn of a phrase " ! - painting the future with your thoughts.

 

I've long observed that SO many people who have achieved large goals in their

lives had those goals IMPRINTED firmly in their minds and they held a firm

belief that they could accomplish what they had in mind.

 

Rich Putman in MN USA

 

" A friend of mine is into Voodoo Acupuncture. You don't have to go.

You'll just be walking down the street and... oohh, that's much better. "

-Stephen Wright

 

<A HREF= " rputman?subject=send information " >People who

enjoy helping others help themselves LOVE this.</A>

[Guest guest]

Celeste:

 

Well, I think that varies <LOL> I have seen people get what they ask for,

and it turned out to be a ticking bomb they didn't know how to dispose of.

There are lessons in getting what we want, as well as in getting what we

need ;-) Sometimes the lesson is that we have to be conscious and specific

in our requests... remember the old saying, " I prayed for patience and God

sent me children " ? ;-)

 

Crow

 

 

>celeste m sullivan <csull3

>

>

>Re: Thoughts

>Mon, 19 Mar 2001 22:54:57 -0600

>

>Hi Cathy,

>

>I think that is an important point to bring out about the fact it won't

>work if it is ego-driven.

>

>Thanks.

>

>Celeste

 

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rusty

 

levitron <levitron

Wednesday, May 02, 2001 9:50 PM

Thoughts

 

 

>Does the actual thought content make a difference?

>Louise Hay, and many after her, postulated that thought content was

>vital to well being. Hence " I love myself more and more each day "

>was beneficial to health and " I'm a sack of ..... " caused illness.

>This appealed to my logic at the time I read " You can Heal Your

Life " .

>Now the authors of a new website, who I hasten to add are not named,

>claim exactly the opposite, i.e. that the actual content of the

>thought doesn't matter. They claim that the thought " I'm no good "

>and the thought " I'm great " are equally limiting, and that any

>thought rigidly held and constantly repeated causes the immune system

>to be restricted and leads to ill health.

>They claim that the mind is like a trap, collecting thoughts and

>storing them where, irrespective of content, they do harm. The

>alternative is apparently to allow all thoughts, irrespective of

>their content, to come and go, unhindered. No attempt is made to

>change them.

>This is not dissimilar to meditation technique, come to think of it,

>where the owner of the thoughts is relegated (elevated?)to the

>position of observer rather than regulator of his own thoughts.

>What do you think?

>Arjuna

[Guest guest]

Arjuna:

 

The problem with unrestricted thought practice is, that there are false ideas

stored in your mind from past experience and childhood programming that were not

placed there in a reasoned and sensible way, and they are often the most

well-ingrained and limiting of our thoughts.

 

Rather than trying to be objective about thoughts, I have found it useful to

ignore the thought itself and instead examine the feeling that arises in

relation

or response to it. In dealing with the feeling surrounding a thought, you may

discover your motivations for using it as a template for behavior, and if it is

a

limiting thought, you can release it. Hypnosis and meridian therapies are

useful

for this and can be done alone, or with a therapist or partner. Eye movement

desensitization is another tool that is helpful for this.

 

While I certainly endorse meditation for peace and stress management, I do have

some problems with the persistent concept in some religious forms of meditation

to

stress complete detachment from feeling, except as a therapeutic tool to

overcome

traumatic events from a safe place.

 

Since the writers of the website you mention do not see fit to claim their

dogma,

I would find it rather suspect. I know many people who have experienced

wonderful

results with altering their thought patterns, using affirmations and releasing

negative fixed ideas. Tapping into the subconscious should be sacred but simple

work for us, and it should be done with love. I can't see where telling

yourself

you are wonderful, or " I'm happy, healthy and whole " could become a limitation

;-)

 

levitron wrote:

 

> Does the actual thought content make a difference?

> Louise Hay, and many after her, postulated that thought content was vital to

> well being. Hence " I love myself more and more each day " was beneficial to

> health and " I'm a sack of ..... " caused illness.

> This appealed to my logic at the time I read " You can Heal Your Life " .

> Now the authors of a new website, who I hasten to add are not named, claim

> exactly the opposite, i.e. that the actual content of the thought doesn't

> matter. They claim that the thought " I'm no good "

> and the thought " I'm great " are equally limiting, and that any thought rigidly

> held and constantly repeated causes the immune system to be restricted and

leads

> to ill health.

> They claim that the mind is like a trap, collecting thoughts and storing them

> where, irrespective of content, they do harm. The alternative is apparently

to

> allow all thoughts, irrespective of their content, to come and go, unhindered.

> No attempt is made to

> change them.

> This is not dissimilar to meditation technique, come to think of it, where the

> owner of the thoughts is relegated (elevated?)to the position of observer

rather

> than regulator of his own thoughts.

> What do you think?

> Arjuna

 

--

Blessings,

Crow

" Look for Rainbows in the Darkness "

--

[Guest guest]

Arjuna,

I think that any thought that causes a good feeling is a good thing

and any thought that causes a negative feeling is not a good thing.

Therefore, if I can think " I am a sack of... " and somehow (I don't see

how but) feel good, happy, peace, contentment, joy, love, then that is

a good thing. But if the same thought results in me feeling guilt,

blame, anger, revulsion, then it is not a good thing.

 

I'm working on paying attention to how I feel about what is going on

in my head, and heading for the bliss.

 

Hugs,

Audrey

 

, levitron@l... wrote:

> Does the actual thought content make a difference?

> What do you think?

> Arjuna

[Guest guest]

Crow,

You replied to Arjuna: " I can't see where telling yourself you are

wonderful, or 'I'm happy, healthy and whole' could become a

limitation. "

I'd like to hear you're (and anyone elses) reaction to this: I can see

how this thought could become a limitation. As you said early, it is

more important *how you feel* about what you do then it is what you

do. So, if you think " I'm wonderful " and you emotionally respond by

feeling depressed because you don't feel wonderful, and don't believe

you will ever be wonderful, etc., would that become limiting? Maybe,

if you held that thought through all of the negative emotions - for

however long they were there, just kept holding the thought - would

you come out on the other side? or turn into a pretzle?

 

Hugs,

Audrey

[Guest guest]

LOL Audrey...

 

In 'twelve stepping', this is called " fake it 'til you make it " ... a practice of

smiling until you feel like smiling, if you will. In the case you mentioned,

well,

that is why we use affirmations; if we really felt that way about ourselves from

the beginning, we wouldn't need them, would we?

 

It is about overcoming the negative " monkey mind " that keeps chattering, telling

you that you are not wonderful every time you say it to yourself. Talk to that

monkey and ask him what his beef is. Ask him why he doesn't want you to feel

good

about yourself. Ask him what his investment is in keeping you depressed and

feeling pessimistic. Don't just listen to what he says, but listen to whose

voice

he says it in... pay attention to the chestnuts he digs out of his pockets to

support your unworthiness, and know that those ideas do not apply to you. Many

of

them are misinterpretations of events from long ago, leftover guilt or shame, or

statements/behaviors from others.

 

It should be an interesting conversation.

 

Blessings,

Crow

 

audreylee wrote:

 

> Crow,

> You replied to Arjuna: " I can't see where telling yourself you are wonderful,

or

> 'I'm happy, healthy and whole' could become a limitation. "

> I'd like to hear you're (and anyone elses) reaction to this: I can see how

this

> thought could become a limitation. As you said early, it is more important

*how

> you feel* about what you do then it is what you

> do. So, if you think " I'm wonderful " and you emotionally respond by feeling

> depressed because you don't feel wonderful, and don't believe you will ever be

> wonderful, etc., would that become limiting? Maybe, if you held that thought

> through all of the negative emotions - for

> however long they were there, just kept holding the thought - would you come

out

> on the other side? or turn into a pretzle?

>

> Hugs,

> Audrey

[Guest guest]

One of the best ways I've found to do this was to set myself up as a formal

dinner, with everyone ( each of my clammoring belief systems) around the

table, each having his own gripes about the way I have or have not been

doing things. This way, I can keep each of my mental images/beliefs separate

from who I am, and know that they are more advisors...I can take or leave

their advice or statements.

They know they each have a chance to express their point of view. I know

they are not me, but external images pressed onto me and adopted, but they

don't own me...

 

I hope this makes some sense...I'm tired and not thinking too clearly

tonight.

 

Leslie

 

 

 

> LOL Audrey...

>

> In 'twelve stepping', this is called " fake it 'til you make it " ... a

practice of

> smiling until you feel like smiling, if you will. In the case you

mentioned, well,

> that is why we use affirmations; if we really felt that way about

ourselves from

> the beginning, we wouldn't need them, would we?

>

> It is about overcoming the negative " monkey mind " that keeps chattering,

telling

> you that you are not wonderful every time you say it to yourself. Talk to

that

> monkey and ask him what his beef is. Ask him why he doesn't want you to

feel good

> about yourself. Ask him what his investment is in keeping you depressed

and

> feeling pessimistic. Don't just listen to what he says, but listen to

whose voice

> he says it in... pay attention to the chestnuts he digs out of his pockets

to

> support your unworthiness, and know that those ideas do not apply to you.

Many of

> them are misinterpretations of events from long ago, leftover guilt or

shame, or

> statements/behaviors from others.

>

> It should be an interesting conversation.

>

> Blessings,

> Crow

[Guest guest]

Leslie,

Yes, makes perfect sense. I have done this, seperating my emotions,

mind, spirit and subconscious, to speak to each in turn. Interesting,

isn't it, how they have thier own unique appearance?

Hugyou,

Audrey

 

, Leslie Waller <lekili@p...> wrote:

> One of the best ways I've found to do this was to set myself up as a

formal

> dinner, with everyone ( each of my clammoring belief systems) around

the

> table, each having his own gripes about the way I have or have not

been

> doing things. This way, I can keep each of my mental images/beliefs

separate

> from who I am, and know that they are more advisors...I can take or

leave

> their advice or statements.

> They know they each have a chance to express their point of view. I

know

> they are not me, but external images pressed onto me and adopted,

but they

> don't own me...

>

> I hope this makes some sense...I'm tired and not thinking too

clearly

> tonight.

>

> Leslie

>

>

>

> > LOL Audrey...

> >

> > In 'twelve stepping', this is called " fake it 'til you make it " ...

a

> practice of

> > smiling until you feel like smiling, if you will. In the case you

> mentioned, well,

> > that is why we use affirmations; if we really felt that way about

> ourselves from

> > the beginning, we wouldn't need them, would we?

> >

> > It is about overcoming the negative " monkey mind " that keeps

chattering,

> telling

> > you that you are not wonderful every time you say it to yourself.

Talk to

> that

> > monkey and ask him what his beef is. Ask him why he doesn't want

you to

> feel good

> > about yourself. Ask him what his investment is in keeping you

depressed

> and

> > feeling pessimistic. Don't just listen to what he says, but listen

to

> whose voice

> > he says it in... pay attention to the chestnuts he digs out of his

pockets

> to

> > support your unworthiness, and know that those ideas do not apply

to you.

> Many of

> > them are misinterpretations of events from long ago, leftover

guilt or

> shame, or

> > statements/behaviors from others.

> >

> > It should be an interesting conversation.

> >

> > Blessings,

> > Crow

[Guest guest]

--Failure, Rejection and Fear-- 9/10/2001

" There's nothing to fear but fear itself, " possibly

said by Winston Churchill, or was it Theodore

Rosevelt? Similar words have been engrained into our

minds throughout our lives. Could it be true?

Why do we fail? FEAR. Failure is the signpost

showing us our mistakes. Acknowledge this failure, it

is our guide. The secret is not taking it personally,

(easier said than done, I KNOW). It's a hard lesson,

but once we get past it, we can soar to great heights.

We can learn what not to do, while discovering what

does work, and sometimes laugh at ourselves.

Rejection is often the same, these two often go

together. Humor often helps, depending on the

situation. Mistakes are learning tools. Not trying

at all is even worse than failure. We must face and

conquer our fears in order to learn, grow and succeed.

Remember how good you feel when you finally got it

right! How many times do inventors fail before we see

the finished product?

What causes fear? Inadequacy, embarrassment, lack

of confidence? So you cannot dance as good as someone

else. Dance for yourself, it's a wonderful creative

outlet for your emotions, and extremely healing. If

we don't try, how will we ever know?

Here's a personal experience:

My sense of direction is horrible. I get lost

easily. It took me TWO YEARS to finally find my way

to and from a doctor's office without getting lost.

It was so frustrating, but with determination I kept

at it, though I wanted to give up several times. When

I finally got it right, I FELT SO GOOD!

It took me YEARS to truly believe in myself. There

was a time I would've given up completely. Success is

hard work, we get out what we put in. It takes strong

determination and faith in ourselves to try, and get

back up again when we fail. PERSISTENCE... It's like

playing an instrument, the more we practice, the

better we are. Remember when you first started

learning computers? It seemed so intimidating at

first. Many are afraid of them. Once I conquered my

fear, I learned how to use it, though I did get myself

in some trouble, and messed up programs and some of

the basic operations. After awhile I learned enough

to get myself out of those jams. Now I'm in control

of my computer, most the time, till it goes blue

screen or goes illegal on me. But now I don't panic,

I just shut down or reset. HAVE PATIENCE... When

things go wrong, step back and take a few deep

breaths, go do something else for awhile. When you

cool off, then return to it. It's so hard to think

while feeling frustrated. I KNOW! Fear brings on

other emotions that cloud our thinking and judgement.

If we can realize this while it's happening, we can

CONTROL it.

Sometimes fear seems to have it's place too, but I

wonder if it gets confused with a healthy respect for

something, like electricity. It is very powerful and

we need care in using it. We fear it's awesome

power.... not to limit us in it's use, but to respect

it enough not to misuse it. Does this make any sense?

Can we distinguish between fear and respect, for God,

or fire? Hmmmmm.... I'll have to think about this

some more. Any ideas?

©2001 by A SilverSpirit

 

 

 

 

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