Healing and Change, followup to The Transformation

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How does the healing process work? When does

transformation happen? Is it gradual or all at once?

That depends, it's an individual experience. What

makes us change?

For certain, change is difficult and painful, but

deeply rewarding. I KNOW. We all fall and get back up

again. Adversity either weakens us or makes us

stronger. How do we cope? How do measure our

progress? If we don't have sorrow, how will we know

joy? Without failure, can we truly realize success,

or know love, without lonliness? They say dark and

light cannot exist without each other, and must be in

balance. Sound and silence, illness and healing, good

and evil, weak and strong, growth and stagnation,

sliding backwards and moving forward.... are only some

of our many measuring tools of life....

We all have potential for greatness. It doesn't

have to be flashy, in your face greatness for us to be

successful. Comparisons make this point well. I

dreamed of being a rock star, it wasn't for lack of

talent that I didn't make it. Would being a regular

at a club be some measure of success? I couldn't

handle the stress of stardom anyway, so perhaps it

wasn't meant to be. I never got the big house and

family I wished for either, but I do have a roof over

my head, food in my tummy, and a steady relationship

with a trusted friend. Though our marriage failed,

we're still good friends. Isn't that success also?

I came from a lifetime of sorrow, emotional abuse

and neglect left me drained, dependent, depressed,

bitter and irresponsible. Partying was my major

pastime. Running from my troubles was all I could do.

Constant self pity, neediness, anger and dependency

were my only friends. I knew better, but stuck myself

into a ditch so deep I couldn't seem to crawl out. It

was a horrible, vicious cycle. I convinced myself

that " They made me this way, with their hate, neglect

and abuse, so why should I care? Maybe I really AM no

good like they say. Look at me, they said I couldn't

do this and that, and see, I failed, so why bother

trying? I'm not good enough, not worthy, etc... Why

should I love myself if no one else does??? "

LOOK AT ME NOW! I'm very independent, happy and able

to reach out to others, not in neediness, but in

helpfulness. I understand depression, anger and

dependency well enough to sympathize and be

compassionate. How could I do these things without

having been there? How important is BEING THERE? I

ain't " cured " , I still have a long way to go, but I AM

BETTER! And I did most of it MYSELF!

Consider this: A man takes a job in a mailroom. He

hates it at first, but learns the daily operations of

the company from the ground up, working his way up

through it's ranks. As he grows into a management

position, he has compassion for those working under

him, because HE'S BEEN THERE. He remembers the long

hours and low wages without benefits. He remembers

the struggles and triumphs. His workers are treated

respectfully and kindly. See my point?

So how do we heal and change? How has your

experiences shaped you into the person you are now?

©2001 by A SilverSpirit

This was published on my new site a few days ago.

 

 

 

 

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Intuitive, Healer, Empath, Friend

 

 

 

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