Let go of the thoughts that have held us back.

[Guest guest]

Let go

of the thoughts that have held us back.

 

Thoughts like guilt, blame, judgment and

anything else that limits us and our

relationships--and focus on what is

possible and what we want in this

coming new year.

 

Whether you consciously create new

year's resolutions or not, if you're like

most people, as the new year approaches,

you have thoughts of what you want

either more of or less of in the coming

year.

 

In order to create more vibrant, alive,

loving relationships and to live a better

life, we suggest that you take a few

moments to think about what you want.

 

Here are a few ideas to help you do

that and to be more successful in

keeping your new year's resolutions...

 

1. Go beyond your edge.

The good stuff in our relationships

and our lives always gets created and

happens " beyond your edge " of what

is comfortable.

 

What was once difficult is now easy

(or at least easier.) This is called by

many names but in essence what

we're talking about is expanding

your comfort zone or " norm. "

 

2. Don't bite off more than you can

chew.

 

This might seem like a contradiction

considering what we just said about

going beyond your edge. But it isn't.

 

Choose one relationship or one

area of your life that you would like

to improve.

 

It may be a truly troubled relationship

with someone close to you or it might

be that you want a closer connection

with your partner in a relationship

that's already good.

 

It might be that you want to spend

more time with your family or work

more efficiently at your job or

even to find a job that will be

more in alignment with what you

want.

 

Whatever it is, make a conscious

choice to improve that relationship

or area of your life in this coming

year.

 

3. Choose one thing that you could

do on a consistent basis that would

make a difference in this relationship

or in this area of your life.

 

It might be to focus more on what

you appreciate or love about this

person instead of what has

happened in the past.

 

It might be to spend more time

interacting with this person instead

of watching television or cruising

the internet.

 

It might be to just listen to what this

person needs to tell you and you

say what you need to say--from

your heart.

 

It might be to take one step--like

doing some research--about a

job that you think you might like.

 

It might be to forgive yourself or

someone else for what happened

in the past.

 

4. Stay in the present moment and

don't allow yourself to " live " in the

past. Keep moving toward your

goal and what you want more of

in your life instead of what you

don't want.

 

Worry, blame, judgment, control,

sarcasm, fear will only keep you

stuck in what " has been. "

 

Choose to create something new

and maybe even wonderful by

focusing on what you can do right

now in this present moment instead

of dwelling on what you wish had

happened or not happened in the

past.

 

If we all choose to do this, perhaps

we won't need a " jolt " (like hitting a

deer) to bring us into creating what

we want in our present.