ADD

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" Misty L. Trepke " <mistytrepke> wrote:

 

" So instead of just saying she has ADD, can you describe in gory

detail what exactly is she experiencing and going through. What

makes it better, what makes it worse. Does it have a time element?

What are her emotions like? Are there physical symptoms? How long

has she been on med's? Because now we have to take into account the

mask or illusion the drugs have added ontop of the reality of what

she experienced first and foremost that led to that path. "

 

Hi Misty,

Thank you for your response! I will give you as many details as I

can...

 

My daughter is 9. She has been on Adderall XR and Effexor XR for

about 1 year and a half. Some background info that may also help..

especially concerning her emotional state... I went through a VERY

ugly divorce that lasted for a 2 year period. It was during this

time that my daughter began to show extreme sign of what they

labeled ADD, ODD and Depression. Unfortuantely, she became stuck in

the middle and playing spy for her father. She was being alienated

from me and given the third degree every time she saw her father...

which was every other weekend. I began to notice a pattern of

behavior shortly after her father moved into his own place, before

that he was staying with mutual friends. He was never realy ever

alone with my kids until then.

 

The pattern she developed went like this... she came back from dad's

house Sunday evening... the kids both were chattery, but seemed ok.

Monday I had a sight trouble getting my daughter up for school.

Monday night was ok. By Tuesday morning, she was a mess. She would

blantantly refuse to do anythign I asked her to do. She would

scream, yell, hit, kick... and just be totally oppositional. She

became a violent child to the point htat I would literally have to

physically sit on teh floor and wrap my arms and legs around her for

up to 30 minutes when she would finally break. It was a horrible

experience!!! I took my kids to counselling andnothing there

worked! It didn't matter what we tried. Her father came a few

times, but insisted there was nothing wrong with her. If I did not

have to retarin her physically, then eventually she would be in the

midsst of yelling and tell me soething that her father had said to

her the weekend before. It is very sad. It took me two full weeks

to get her back where she was before she went and then she would go

and we would start the whole cycle again!

 

I know that some of it came from the situation! The divorce has

been over for about 6 months and to this day he still asks my kids

every time he sees thiem who they want to live with. He does not

realize or care to realize what he is doing to them an dhas done.

It makes me sooo... mad!! Anyway, sorry about that. It is hard to

talk about this and not get upset!!

 

 

She had displayed some signs of this on and off since being about 4

years old. SHe never had tantrums at 2 or 3... then she hit

4...things began to downward spiral. EVery now and then she would

have one of the aforementioned " meltdowns " requiring physical

restraint! I would ask people waht they would do to handle it and

of course, at that time, a lot of people were advocates of

spanking. So, spanking was always their answer... it was and still

is the wrong answer. No one seemed to realize what we were going

through.

 

When counselling did not work to help the problem, he sent me to see

another counsellor to test her for ADD. And they said she has

impulsivity, aggressiveness, and that she was depressed.

 

I will say that since the divorce, she seems better. But we also

have a time of venting for about 30 minutes when they get home.

Just a time for them to vent and me to listen.

 

She is NOT hyperactive. SHe gets good grades. School is not a

problem. I am presently weaning her off these meds... she will be

off the Adderal this week and then I will begin the tedious process

of weaning her off the other while simultaneaously changing her diet

to remove all unnatural food substances. Preservatives , etc...

 

I am really not sure what else to tell you. AFter you read this,

you may have more questions. Please ask away..

 

Thanks,

Gina