Guest guest Posted August 7, 2004 Report Share Posted August 7, 2004 Of course I take it as " religious " . After all, if you don't do these things religiously you may end up really believing the king has clothes. He does, dosen't he? Oh well, there I go again. I even think that federal reserve notes are money... How dumb can you get anyway? Meditate and maybe in the 'here and now' that will all go away for a while, and we can be at peace to face the real problems of the day... PS. Sometimes I think we are so 'SELF' centered we really could care less that the world we live in is just a big lie. --- " Misty L. Trepke " <mistytrepke wrote: > Hi everyone... I hope this is not mis-interpreted > as " religious " ... Just a reminder that our inner > peace (no matter > how we connect to it) plays a big role in our > physical, mental, > emotional health... > Be Well, > Misty > http://www..com > > Relationship Health > > http://www.doctoryourself.com/relationship.html > > RELATIONSHIPS WITHOUT SUFFERING > Copyright C 2001 John I. Mosher, Ph.D > Professor Emeritus, State University of New York > > SUFFERING AND ATTACHMENT > Suffering arises from attachment to desire. One > example is the desire that things have to be the way > one thinks they ought to be. > > Suffering arises when one is not living in the > present: not being right here, right now. > > When the mind-ego is in charge it can wander in its > thinking to the past and become angry or upset about > some event long gone. Or the thinking mind can > worry > about what might be or might happen. In either case > there is suffering because one is not living in the > present, the NOW, this minute. > > Qualities of the Heart, the Spirit or Soul. > Compassion > Selflessness > Tolerance > Equanimity > Fearlessness > Non-attachment > Love without condition > > All of these qualities of the Soul are facilitated > and > brought forth by the practice of: > 1. Regular Meditation (Misty's Note- if you don't > like this term, > substitute prayer) > 2. Regular Prayer > 3. Remembering the Divine > 4. Self-discipline, i.e. practice being in the > present, practice having compassion, being selfless, > tolerant and having equanimity. Practice > fearlessness, non-attachment, and love without > condition. Cultivating these positive states of > mind > may be considered one of the most effective ways for > obtaining the state of HAPPINESS! > > RELATIONSHIPS > A relationship between two people can be a spiritual > path, a yoga. > > It can be a way to grow in love, light and > happiness. > It is a difficult path. Some sages say the " Yoga of > Relationships " is the toughest of all because it > deals > with the most powerful emotions on the planet. The > opportunity continuously presents itself to fall > into > negative states of mind which would be anything less > than love. Ones fear of not getting what one wants > or > losing what one has is ever present in those not > practicing the cultivation of HAPPY STATES OF MIND. > > The more the mind--ego is in charge the more one is > controlling, has fear and suffers. Through regular > practice of the above (1,2,3, and 4), the soul is > gradually put in charge and the " soul qualities' > shine > forth. In this state the individual has put the > mind > and ego in its proper place as SERVANT to the soul. > > The ego as a servant is wonderful. It reminds you to > take care of your physical self and stay out of > harm's > way, except in extreme mental unbalances where a > person wants to destroy their physical body. THE EGO > IS A WONDERFUL SERVANT BUT A TERRIBLE MASTER! The > mind is a powerful and wonderful servant. It can > plan, balance check books, send a man to the moon, > and > more. But put in charge, it can easily destroy ones > happiness, and cause much anguish and suffering. > The > person regularly cultivating positive states of > mind, > using self-discipline to regularly do the above four > steps, uses the ego–mind as a tool. Use the mind to > plan a vacation; great. Then hang it up as you would > a > drill or any tool after use. When again needed use > it, but always remember to put it away when > finished! > > What has been suggested in the above writing is very > foreign to our cultural and educational conditioning > here in America, and in western civilization > generally. We can easily see the results of the > mind > and ego being in charge. We have enormous > environmental and social problems as a result of > this > orientation. This mind-based orientation is > threatening to destroy the very environment we > depend > upon for our physical existence. > > A relationship can also be destroyed by the mind-ego > being in charge. > > A relationship can change when the soul, the spirit, > the heart is in charge. It will not be destroyed by > change. > > Control of others comes from fear, which is a > mind-ego > quality. Trying to control others is a waste of > time. > All one gets from efforts to control another is the > anger and resentment of the other. That, and also > the > stressing of oneself over the situation one is > attempting to control. Nothing positive is > accomplished. > > Control in a relationship is a sign of FEAR. FEAR > IS > THE GREAT ENEMY TO HAPPINESS. > > In a relationship, it is important to work on ones > self. When anger and frustration or anything less > than love arises in ones feeling toward the other, > that is a signal. It is a signal to look within. At > this point it takes courage to face ones self and be > totally honest about what perception or attitude > must > be change to be in line with the practice of > unconditional love. > > Play-acting will not do. Denial will not do. One > can > only work on ones self. Ultimately, we must focus > on > our self and not our partner or another. > > If both partners in a relationship are practicing > 1,2,3,and 4, and working on cultivating positive > states of mind and being in the present, THEY ARE > DOING THEIR SPIRITUAL WORK! > > (August 9, 2001) > Reprinted with permission of the author. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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