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Namaste AR, don't feel awkward about sharing your situation.

Everyone has different life circumstances but sometimes, we must look

at them as leela and maya. Also please don't worry about your long

story because we are here to listen and try to help if we can.

 

By western standards, 28 years old is still very, very young!

although in a traditional family in India, its considered over the

age of marriage. Don't worry about this. Some people are destined to

marry later in life after they find a true soul-mate.

 

One thing about matrimonial sites is that you must be careful. Most

guys are sincere but there are some who are not. These ones join the

sites to try meet women in their own cities, go out with them and for

all you know, he may be dating several of them all at once. Hence

he's giving you excuses and 'dangling carrots' to you.

 

He may also have other girls from other cities whom he is

corresponding with. Or he may be the type who cannot make up his mind

who to commit to because he gets attracted to everyone and tells them

the same story. Sincerely, I have heard from girls who told me quite

similar situations where the men said the same as they man you're

talking about: that he doesn't want to hurt you, that he has high

ambitions for his career and can sacrifice anything for that and he

cannot marry now and that he has been offered a good job overseas

with high salary package, etc. etc.

 

Since you haven't met him personally, don't believe what he says.

Everything is like a myth and running circles round you and your

emotions, snaring your imagination and perhaps illusion.

 

I understand that despite all (even though not having met in person),

you still love him but AR, I don't feel he is worthy of a great girl

like you. I hope you will reconsider and try to forget him, live

in " the now, the present " and get on with you life. Move on to meet

someone new. Regarding this man, please use Logic/Common Sense, not

your heart.

 

Right now because you're enraptured with him, you feel you don't want

to have a relationship with someone else but time will one day bring

someone else into your life whom you will like. But first, you will

have to forget this man, heal your emotions and make room in your

heart for someone new to come.

 

Its wonderful to hear that rudraksha has helped with the difficult

assignment you had to do and it worked out marvellously with your

seniors showing appreciation for your work. Its also great to hear

you are pursuing post graduate studies. Keep up the good work and

know that you're a talented person.

 

You are very sweet and considerate not to pressure the guy about

marriage. It would be better if he is the one who proposes marriage,

not you. In this case, he hasn't shown any desire or inclination for

a betrothal or engagement so please don't hold high hopes. If he is

sincere about you, he can always suggest an engagement first, then

after he's established in his overseas job, he can come back and

marry you. The obstacle is him.

 

Please don't let your family members' pressure weigh on your mind too

much about marriage. Give them sone good excuse like you wish to

complete post grad studies first and also advance a bit further in

career before considering marriage.

 

Btw, the man's horoscope and yours may not be compatible. Would

encourage you to also try match-making by your parents or relatives

and have the suitors' horoscopes compared with yours. At the same

time, you can go out with them and see which one appeals to you. You

never know, you may meet just the right person who genuinely loves

you and wishes to marry soon.

 

Meanwhile, you can try Gauri Shankar pendant or Vashikaran pendant to

bring a soul-mate. I shall post the pics in the next message.

 

Aum Namah Shivaya

 

 

 

, archjz07

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>

> Hello Narsimhayeji. Thank you for your kind words.

>

> Please suggest me a solution for my problem. I feel it a bit awkward

> to share my story. But I m really worried what should i do.

>

> The problem i was talking about is regarding the delay in my

> marriage. Though i've crossed the normal marriageable age,Im not yet

> married. Im a 28 yr old girl.

 

I like someone whom i met online on a

> matrimonial site last year. Though we are located at two different

> cities, We became good friends, talked often. We have not yet met

> personally.

 

I developed a liking for him and i proposed to him and

> talked about marriage. But he said he likes me, but only as a friend

> and for marriage, we need to be in love. But after a few months, he

> said that he also loves me. I was more than happy. I have pressure

> of getting married from my family members. So i talked abt it with

> him, but he keeps saying he doesnt want to hurt me, but he has high

> ambitions for his career and can sacrifice anything for that and he

> cannot me marry now.

 

Though it may sound really stupid and

> impractical to say this after hearing all this, but I still love him

> and want to marry him and no one else.I cannot even think of a

> relationship with anyone else. I dont know waht to do.

 

All this has

> affected my professional life (i've lost concentration in my work)

> and also my personal life(m always depressed). I was pursuing post

> graduation studies. But even that has been affected. I've started

> using rudraksha beads. During the initial 15 days of use, I felt

> quite energetic and started pursuing my professional as well as

> academic studies with enthusiasm.

 

On one occasion, i remember having

> a do or die situation at workplace, i was given an important

> assignment to work on which was just not getting through. I prayed

> to God and touched the rudraksha(not directly) and like magic,

> things went fine, in fact i received a lot of appreciation from my

> seniors and i thanked Lord Shiva for helping me. I dont know why im

> writing all this. Just got a bit nostalgic.

>

> But the problem of marriage still remains. I like someone who

> doesnot want to marry me now. Now he has got a career opportunity

> out of India which can take up a year or two. I dont want to set

> boundaries for him by forcing him to marry me, unless he himself

> wants to marry now.

 

But at the same time, my family members are

> worried about my marriage. They know nothing about my liking and all

> these issues. Even if I tell them, they would not want me to wait

> for a person who hasnot committed. May be they are right in their

> own way, but I dont know what to do, because i dont want to give up

> a relationship just because there are obstacles. I want to do some

> fasting and perform pujas to improve upon my situation. I've

> recently started fasting on Mondays and worshipping Lord Shiva.

>

> Im really very sorry for this long mail. But please suggest me a

> solution.

>

> Thank you

> Regards

> AR

>