to Ammasiswari about your dad

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Dear Ammasiswari ~ I am saddened by your news. My mother went downhill very

quickly at the end, and by the time I got there, she didn't recognize me.

Still, I sat by her, talked to her, sang to her, etc., because, that even

if the conscious mind is not available to perceive what is going on, at some

level, perhaps the subconscious or Superconscious, that the person is

aware. It is not the same, I know. I still grieve that there were things I did

not get to say to my mother on a conscious level, but I'm grateful that I

had that one day with her. When she died, me and my sister and my daughter

were all at her side singing. My mother loved music.

 

I hope you will go and say what you need to say, even if it seems that your

father can't understand. And I will continue to pray to Amma as I have

since you first posted, dear Ammasiswari. Jai Ma ~ Linda

 

 

Ammasiswari wrote:

 

My dad was recently hospitalized for complications of end-stage MS and --

since he's unable to eat, had made it known that he did not want a feeding

tube and is receiving IV hydration only -- they are estimating, barring

some miracle they feel is very unlikely to occur, he only has a few weeks

left.

 

Unfortunately, by the time he got to the hospital, he'd entered a delirium

and not only isn't recognizing friends and family, but seems to have no

concept of anything around him or even when someone is trying to talk to him.

They don't expect him to snap out of this and all I can think is that I

won't get to say goodbye and won't get to say everything I wish I'd said but

didn't (well, I could say those things, but they won't be heard/understood).

I wish I didn't live hours away. The course of his illness has been so

protracted I just never imagined the end coming so abruptly.

 

Please pray for my dad, who has been suffering in many ways for so

long....and for me, as I'm really struggling with this imminent loss on so many

levels....