IS CONCEIVING A DISEASE ?

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The oxford dictionary gives the meaning for the word patient that “person under medical treatmentâ€. When I go to a doctor for a medical check up for an illness, I have to write my name in the piece of paper where the name of the patient is to be written. I approach a Doctor only when I am sick. The Doctors are also there to treat the patient. Nobody goes to a doctor for pleasure…!!

 

When a girl gets herself ready for marriage both physically and mentally at the age of around twenty or so she has thousands of sweet dreams, she has a number of sweet expectations from her husband, a number of wishes regarding a beautiful house, lovely husband, and lovely children and so on. After marriage when she feels that she is conceived, along with her husband she approaches a gynaecologist or a medical practitioner for a check up. At that time she is asked to write her name in the piece of paper where the patient’s name is to be written and she writes her name there. Why she has to write her name and declare herself that she is a patient…?

 

Is it that conceiving by a girl and becoming a mother a disease..? According to modern medical science, yes, it implies that, conceiving is a disease, delivery is a disease, becoming a mother is a disease and marriage is the root of these diseases. In the modern medical science and according to the present teachings, marriage is for fulfilling the animal instinct in them and to meet the biological necessities. If the marriage is for that, surely it is a disease. So if I have married to fulfil the animal instinct and for meeting the biological necessities, any conceiving is a disease indeed!!

 

Knowledgeable people well understand that animal instinct cannot be fulfilled by marriage. That instinct cannot go away in human beings by marriage because it is ‘animal instinct’ and that instinct is based on ‘attack on’ basis and in Bharat the marriage is based on ‘protect on’ basis. That instinct may vanish in animals because it is ‘animal instinct’ and they can fulfil it by their natural processes. But it cannot be met with by marriage because man is not an animal.

 

In the modern and western style, may be the people are considered as animals but in Bharat people are not considered as animals and marriage is not for meeting the biological necessity and not for fulfilling the animal instinct. In Bharat marriage is a sacrament, as a divine ceremony and conceiving is considered as divine karma. For the materialistic world the marriage is a contract between the husband and wife and any child is born to the wife during the pendancy of the legal contract is considered to be the child of the husband.

 

Bharat did not and does believe in this. The Bharateeya vision is that when the animals feel the instinct, they do not have to see the time, the place and the environment etc . Whenever man feels the instinct, he has to see all these factors and thus for man, living in the state of instinct, he cannot get rid of it. Whenever the instinct comes, sometimes it is possible that either husband or wife may not be available there.

 

Then, motherliness cannot be born out of this contract. Wherever the word contract comes into play, in all means, there is give and take activity. Wherever give and take activity is there, it is a business and the state of pure love vanishes. In fact the word love itself is not correct. Wherever love is appearing, it is to be understood as prEm. prEm is not love. There are three stages in this.

One ichha, two parEchha, three anichha. Ichha is one sided (selfishness) only. I am worried about me, mine or my. parEchha is little above it, that is, I am concerned about me and other (s). If I do some help, I expect some thing in return – this is parEchha. This expectation is there with all relations. But anichha is something highest in it, something far far beyond it. There, I go on doing my karma and do not expect anything in return from anywhere. This is prEm. Motherliness is this and this only. Various authors say in various ways, from various angles but sense or essence is that.

 

During the marriage, there is one karma called saptapadi, means seven steps

 

After performing puNyAha, lAjahOma and kanyAdAn, the groom with his right hand catch the right leg of the bride and puts seven steps forward. These seven steps are indicative of. (1) SubhEchha (2) suvicharaNa (3) satwApathhi (4) asamsakti (5) thanumAnasa (6) *padArthAbhAvani (7) thuryaga (*padArtha abhAvani).

 

1. SubhEchha : (Subh + iccha). Groom promises the bride that with my knowledge, I will devote for you, to see that all your wishes becomes pure.

 

2. suvicharaNa : groom promises the bride that with my knowledge, by imparting my knowledge to you, I will try to see that you get always good thoughts (su + vichAr).

 

(If the wishes are pure, then the thoughts becomes pure)

 

3. satwApathi - (satwa + aapathi, I will see that you are always protected well. (means, satwa apachaya). The groom promises that with my knowledge, I will take you to that stage where you will experience that you are not there. Means, you will feel that you do not have an identity of your own.

 

Only when I realise that, only when I reach that state where I am not there , I loss myself. (This is a state of emptiness of mind). It is a state of unison described at so many places.

 

4. asamsakti – I will try to inculcate in you, to enable you, reach position of ‘without any desire’ (towards the visibles) a state without Asakti or any kind of instinct (thrushNa).

 

5. thanumAnasa : (thanu + mAnas) I will try that you get your mind so polite, mind will be so sUkshma and not stUla. (You will visualise the sookshma in everything, or everything you will see in sookshma state or form)

 

6. padArthAbhAvani (padArtha + abhAvani) - with my knowledge I will make all efforts to enable you achieve that there is no materialistic state in your life/mind.

 

and finally

 

(7) thuryaga - moksha, liberation. I will see that you are liberated from the birth and death cycle.

 

The saptapadi mentioned here is to highlight the chastity of marriage in bhArat and the position it is assigned or accorded as a sacrament. Thus conceiving is a sacrament, giving birth is a sacrament, and so on.

 

In this way those who have married, how can they accept that conceiving is a disease ? Without applying our mind, we start running to medical practitioners just because that my neighbour is so. We never try to think what ever I am doing is correct, whether it is required…? Etc.

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