Guest guest Posted July 30, 2007 Report Share Posted July 30, 2007 Dear Pt.Dakshimamoorthiji, We follow ‘Krishna yajur-Veda’ and my mother Smt.Sagunthala Ammal expired on [14th July 2006 at 7.30 pm] Swasthisree Vyaya Ashadha Krishna Chaturthi. The 1st anniversary thithi falls on 2nd August 2007.My elder brother’s Daughter-in-Law is in her 5th month family way. Some elders say that we should not perform1st anniversary “thi-va-cha-m” / “s-rA-th-tha-m”. I seek your expert opinion on the above as to what should be done. Be a better Globetrotter. Get better travel answers from someone who knows. Answers - Check it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2007 Report Share Posted July 30, 2007 Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika sharaardham should be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any case (the shaashtra says that it should be done even under emergency conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death in the family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a different thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual impurity is over. Another matter is when brothers who have independent sources of livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if possible they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis will say only the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother does not do, the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds good only for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when the eldest son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his consent are null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they can do it either combined or separately). As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the 5th month of pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the aapthikam should be celebrated properly and in detail for the deceased soul of your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is pregnant, the taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case of one's own father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is not pregnant (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the pitru kaaryaa should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant wife in advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru kaarya generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety reasons; that is why that has been tabooed). This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You may consult your family priest who is going to officiate in this matter (right or wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not to the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not do it with full mind which nullifies our performance). One small general note for all members - Most persons treat shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had all my important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my ancestors (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my father's sapathni maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is done with devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us can never be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, Shraartham should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at all. There are some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing in a newly built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a belief has gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. It has to be done at the appropriate times - no matter what other development has happened in our lives. Blessed be. Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. vedic astrology , KARUNAAKARAM RAAGHAVAM <munisevitham wrote: > > Dear Pt.Dakshimamoorthiji, > > We follow `Krishna yajur-Veda' and my mother Smt.Sagunthala Ammal expired on [14th July 2006 at 7.30 pm] Swasthisree Vyaya Ashadha Krishna Chaturthi. > The 1st anniversary thithi falls on 2nd August 2007.My elder brother's Daughter-in-Law is in her 5th month family way. Some elders say that we should not perform1st anniversary " thi-va-cha-m " / " s-rA- th-tha-m " . > I seek your expert opinion on the above as to what should be done. > > > > Be a better Globetrotter. Get better travel answers from someone who knows. > Answers - Check it out. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2007 Report Share Posted July 30, 2007 Respected Panditji To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. Except on the first year when we joined together with my elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for my mother separately (of course different thithi) You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru lokhas on our life " . It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the family? regards yishun --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > sharaardham should > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > case (the > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > emergency > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > in the > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > different > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > impurity is > over. > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > sources of > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > possible > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > will say only > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > does not do, > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > good only > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > the eldest > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > consent are > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > can do it > either combined or separately). > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > 5th month of > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > aapthikam > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > deceased soul of > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > pregnant, the > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > of one's own > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > not pregnant > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > pitru kaaryaa > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > wife in > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > kaarya > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > reasons; > that is why that has been tabooed). > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > may consult > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > matter (right or > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > to > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > do it with > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > treat > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > shraartham is a > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > benefit of us - > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > have gone > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > all my > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > ancestors > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > father's sapathni > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > done with > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > can never > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > Shraartham > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > all. There are > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > in a newly > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > belief has > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > It has to be > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > development has > happened in our lives. > > Blessed be. > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. _________ Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the answer. Try it now. http://uk.answers./ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2007 Report Share Posted July 30, 2007 Dear Shri. Yishun: Yes....it does affect the soul.....The soul might have transmigrated to another body.....yet the karmic connection does prevail......Moreover, except in the case of persons who have accumulated too much of merit (Punyaa) or too much of sins, normal souls take many years to be reborn because Divine Years are longer than human years and mostly during our life time our deceased parents are more likely to be in the pitru lokha only. Even if they have taken rebirth, the adhishtaana devataas " Vasu, Rudra, Aadityaas " who are incharge of the process, do convey the results of your shraadha to the soul concerned, and as an acknowledgement, they do bless you with benefits. Actually, more than the benefits, anyone should do shraarthams as a Duty ordained to a human being. These are ordained by the shaastras, and regardless of the results or the effects, we are supposed to do that. Actually there are many dharma shastraic injunctions regarding shraardham. Legends in Mahaabharata and Raamaayana stand testimony to the efficacy of the Pitru worship and the nuances of that subtly. The Grandsire of the Kuru Dynasty = Bheeshmaachaarya could stand before no less a personage in the form of Sage Parasuraama undefeated only by the power of Pitur Blessings (Piturs manifested before him, and blessed him with an ashtra for which the Great Sage - an unparalleled Dhanur vedic expert had no answer!) Garuda Puraana, Yama Geeta, etc. clearly explain what happens to a soul after it dies, and what all forms it can take, and and how shraardh offered in this plane reaches the deceased soul which might be in various stages of evolution or....as you have asked...might have taken another birth!...... The doubts about shraardham are almost as old as its performance! Blessed be. Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. vedic astrology , yishun <yishun15 wrote: > > Respected Panditji > > To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world > 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. > Except on the first year when we joined together with my > elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we > live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for > my mother separately (of course different thithi) > > You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased > soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to > invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru > lokhas on our life " . > > It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such > case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the > family? > > regards > yishun > > --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer > wrote: > > > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > > sharaardham should > > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > > case (the > > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > > emergency > > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > > in the > > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > > different > > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > > impurity is > > over. > > > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > > sources of > > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > > possible > > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > > will say only > > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > > does not do, > > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > > good only > > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > > the eldest > > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > > consent are > > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > > can do it > > either combined or separately). > > > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > > 5th month of > > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > > aapthikam > > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > > deceased soul of > > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > > pregnant, the > > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > > of one's own > > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > > not pregnant > > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > > pitru kaaryaa > > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > > wife in > > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > > kaarya > > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > > reasons; > > that is why that has been tabooed). > > > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > > may consult > > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > > matter (right or > > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > > to > > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > > do it with > > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > > treat > > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > > shraartham is a > > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > > benefit of us - > > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > > have gone > > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > > all my > > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > > ancestors > > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > > father's sapathni > > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > > done with > > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > > can never > > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > > Shraartham > > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > > all. There are > > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > > in a newly > > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > > belief has > > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > > It has to be > > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > > development has > > happened in our lives. > > > > Blessed be. > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > _________ > Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the answer. Try it > now. > http://uk.answers./ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2007 Report Share Posted July 30, 2007 Dear Dakshni Moorthiji, I have heard and also went to one session where they do autowriting where we can speak with our departed people through autowritng do they really come beacause i wasconfused when iwent to talk to my husband i didnt understand but i want to know is there a way we can speak to our beloved. regards anju dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: Dear Shri. Yishun: Yes....it does affect the soul.....The soul might have transmigrated to another body.....yet the karmic connection does prevail......Moreover, except in the case of persons who have accumulated too much of merit (Punyaa) or too much of sins, normal souls take many years to be reborn because Divine Years are longer than human years and mostly during our life time our deceased parents are more likely to be in the pitru lokha only. Even if they have taken rebirth, the adhishtaana devataas " Vasu, Rudra, Aadityaas " who are incharge of the process, do convey the results of your shraadha to the soul concerned, and as an acknowledgement, they do bless you with benefits. Actually, more than the benefits, anyone should do shraarthams as a Duty ordained to a human being. These are ordained by the shaastras, and regardless of the results or the effects, we are supposed to do that. Actually there are many dharma shastraic injunctions regarding shraardham. Legends in Mahaabharata and Raamaayana stand testimony to the efficacy of the Pitru worship and the nuances of that subtly. The Grandsire of the Kuru Dynasty = Bheeshmaachaarya could stand before no less a personage in the form of Sage Parasuraama undefeated only by the power of Pitur Blessings (Piturs manifested before him, and blessed him with an ashtra for which the Great Sage - an unparalleled Dhanur vedic expert had no answer!) Garuda Puraana, Yama Geeta, etc. clearly explain what happens to a soul after it dies, and what all forms it can take, and and how shraardh offered in this plane reaches the deceased soul which might be in various stages of evolution or....as you have asked...might have taken another birth!...... The doubts about shraardham are almost as old as its performance! Blessed be. Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. vedic astrology , yishun <yishun15 wrote: > > Respected Panditji > > To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world > 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. > Except on the first year when we joined together with my > elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we > live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for > my mother separately (of course different thithi) > > You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased > soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to > invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru > lokhas on our life " . > > It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such > case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the > family? > > regards > yishun > > --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer > wrote: > > > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > > sharaardham should > > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > > case (the > > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > > emergency > > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > > in the > > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > > different > > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > > impurity is > > over. > > > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > > sources of > > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > > possible > > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > > will say only > > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > > does not do, > > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > > good only > > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > > the eldest > > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > > consent are > > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > > can do it > > either combined or separately). > > > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > > 5th month of > > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > > aapthikam > > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > > deceased soul of > > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > > pregnant, the > > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > > of one's own > > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > > not pregnant > > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > > pitru kaaryaa > > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > > wife in > > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > > kaarya > > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > > reasons; > > that is why that has been tabooed). > > > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > > may consult > > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > > matter (right or > > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > > to > > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > > do it with > > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > > treat > > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > > shraartham is a > > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > > benefit of us - > > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > > have gone > > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > > all my > > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > > ancestors > > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > > father's sapathni > > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > > done with > > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > > can never > > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > > Shraartham > > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > > all. There are > > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > > in a newly > > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > > belief has > > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > > It has to be > > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > > development has > > happened in our lives. > > > > Blessed be. > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > ________ > Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the answer. Try it > now. > http://uk.answers./ > Ready for the edge of your seat? Check out tonight's top picks on TV. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2007 Report Share Posted July 30, 2007 Namaste, Thank you very much for your guidances. dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika sharaardham should be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any case (the shaashtra says that it should be done even under emergency conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death in the family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a different thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual impurity is over. Another matter is when brothers who have independent sources of livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if possible they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis will say only the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother does not do, the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds good only for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when the eldest son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his consent are null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they can do it either combined or separately). As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the 5th month of pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the aapthikam should be celebrated properly and in detail for the deceased soul of your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is pregnant, the taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case of one's own father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is not pregnant (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the pitru kaaryaa should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant wife in advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru kaarya generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety reasons; that is why that has been tabooed). This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You may consult your family priest who is going to officiate in this matter (right or wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not to the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not do it with full mind which nullifies our performance). One small general note for all members - Most persons treat shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had all my important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my ancestors (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my father's sapathni maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is done with devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us can never be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, Shraartham should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at all. There are some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing in a newly built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a belief has gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. It has to be done at the appropriate times - no matter what other development has happened in our lives. Blessed be. Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. vedic astrology , KARUNAAKARAM RAAGHAVAM <munisevitham wrote: > > Dear Pt.Dakshimamoorthiji, > > We follow `Krishna yajur-Veda' and my mother Smt.Sagunthala Ammal expired on [14th July 2006 at 7.30 pm] Swasthisree Vyaya Ashadha Krishna Chaturthi. > The 1st anniversary thithi falls on 2nd August 2007.My elder brother's Daughter-in-Law is in her 5th month family way. Some elders say that we should not perform1st anniversary " thi-va-cha-m " / " s-rA- th-tha-m " . > I seek your expert opinion on the above as to what should be done. Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2007 Report Share Posted July 30, 2007 Dear Deepaji: Whether we can speak to departed souls or not is another matter.....But dharma shaastraas expressly prohibit such contacts except by way of shraardham. I was hinting at some subtle dharmaas in shraardham....One such subtlety is this....if you perform the shraardh with great devotion, it is quite possible that you pitrus might come in person to collect the " pinda " that is offered......Even in that case, you should not give the pinda directly to the hand of the pitrus, but should place it only on the ground as per dharma shaastra! There are references of such a happening in our epics! I think this will answer your query also......It is better not to try to communicate with our Dear Departed through ouja boards or auto- writing sessions. It is an unnecessary disturbance to the soul, and is a bad karma for us. Moreover, if the procedure is not done carefully, you might become a victim of stray ghosts who can fein as if it is the soul you wanted to contact and then " attach " itself to the family leading to psychic disturbances in the family. Once our dear ones have been taken away from this plane, it is better to do what we can for their peace by proper rituals and invoke their Blessings through proper vaidic procedures (if such a procedure is not possible, you can just invoke them with mental intensity and offer what you can with Devotion on their Death anniversaries). My sincere request would be - please do not try contacting departed souls....it is not that it is not possible; but sometimes there are risks involved which far outweight the possible advantages. Mediums have no control over ghosts who can fake identities as our own dear departed....So, they cannot help in the matter, and if something goes wrong, we will be in endless cycles. Dharma shaastra is for the welfare of everyone. It is best to follow that and restrict our lives within its parameters. Dharma Shaastra prohibits such contacts with departed souls. Blessed be. Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI.vedic astrology , deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > Dear Dakshni Moorthiji, > > I have heard and also went to one session where they do autowriting where we can speak with our departed people through autowritng do they really come beacause i wasconfused when iwent to talk to my husband i didnt understand but i want to know is there a way we can speak to our beloved. > > regards > > anju > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: > Dear Shri. Yishun: > > Yes....it does affect the soul.....The soul might have transmigrated > to another body.....yet the karmic connection does > prevail......Moreover, except in the case of persons who have > accumulated too much of merit (Punyaa) or too much of sins, normal > souls take many years to be reborn because Divine Years are longer > than human years and mostly during our life time our deceased parents > are more likely to be in the pitru lokha only. > > Even if they have taken rebirth, the adhishtaana devataas " Vasu, > Rudra, Aadityaas " who are incharge of the process, do convey the > results of your shraadha to the soul concerned, and as an > acknowledgement, they do bless you with benefits. Actually, more > than the benefits, anyone should do shraarthams as a Duty ordained to > a human being. These are ordained by the shaastras, and regardless of > the results or the effects, we are supposed to do that. > > Actually there are many dharma shastraic injunctions regarding > shraardham. Legends in Mahaabharata and Raamaayana stand testimony > to the efficacy of the Pitru worship and the nuances of that subtly. > The Grandsire of the Kuru Dynasty = Bheeshmaachaarya could stand > before no less a personage in the form of Sage Parasuraama undefeated > only by the power of Pitur Blessings (Piturs manifested before him, > and blessed him with an ashtra for which the Great Sage - an > unparalleled Dhanur vedic expert had no answer!) > > Garuda Puraana, Yama Geeta, etc. clearly explain what happens to a > soul after it dies, and what all forms it can take, and and how > shraardh offered in this plane reaches the deceased soul which might > be in various stages of evolution or....as you have asked...might > have taken another birth!...... > > The doubts about shraardham are almost as old as its performance! > > Blessed be. > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > vedic astrology , yishun <yishun15@> wrote: > > > > Respected Panditji > > > > To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world > > 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. > > Except on the first year when we joined together with my > > elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we > > live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for > > my mother separately (of course different thithi) > > > > You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased > > soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to > > invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru > > lokhas on our life " . > > > > It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such > > case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the > > family? > > > > regards > > yishun > > > > --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer@> > > wrote: > > > > > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > > > > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > > > sharaardham should > > > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > > > case (the > > > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > > > emergency > > > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > > > in the > > > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > > > different > > > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > > > impurity is > > > over. > > > > > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > > > sources of > > > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > > > possible > > > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > > > will say only > > > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > > > does not do, > > > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > > > good only > > > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > > > the eldest > > > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > > > consent are > > > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > > > can do it > > > either combined or separately). > > > > > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > > > 5th month of > > > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > > > aapthikam > > > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > > > deceased soul of > > > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > > > pregnant, the > > > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > > > of one's own > > > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > > > not pregnant > > > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > > > pitru kaaryaa > > > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > > > wife in > > > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > > > kaarya > > > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > > > reasons; > > > that is why that has been tabooed). > > > > > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > > > may consult > > > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > > > matter (right or > > > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > > > to > > > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > > > do it with > > > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > > > > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > > > treat > > > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > > > shraartham is a > > > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > > > benefit of us - > > > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > > > have gone > > > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > > > all my > > > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > > > ancestors > > > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > > > father's sapathni > > > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > > > done with > > > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > > > can never > > > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > > > Shraartham > > > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > > > all. There are > > > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > > > in a newly > > > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > > > belief has > > > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > > > It has to be > > > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > > > development has > > > happened in our lives. > > > > > > Blessed be. > > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > > > > > ________ > > Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the > answer. Try it > > now. > > http://uk.answers./ > > > Ready for the edge of your seat? Check out tonight's top picks on TV. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2007 Report Share Posted August 1, 2007 Dear Panditji, thanks very much for taking time and explaining in details but you see panditji my husband expired on 3th august 2000 at 12.15 and every year from july end till that 5th august i just cant help myself i feel so helpless i want to talk to him at night also i feel that he is near me sometimes i am frightened also and sometimes i feel as though somebody is talking in my year i know it is just my imajination but still i feel it. but still i wil take your advise and try to forget all the things. thanks once again mrs. purohit dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: Dear Deepaji: Whether we can speak to departed souls or not is another matter.....But dharma shaastraas expressly prohibit such contacts except by way of shraardham. I was hinting at some subtle dharmaas in shraardham....One such subtlety is this....if you perform the shraardh with great devotion, it is quite possible that you pitrus might come in person to collect the " pinda " that is offered......Even in that case, you should not give the pinda directly to the hand of the pitrus, but should place it only on the ground as per dharma shaastra! There are references of such a happening in our epics! I think this will answer your query also......It is better not to try to communicate with our Dear Departed through ouja boards or auto- writing sessions. It is an unnecessary disturbance to the soul, and is a bad karma for us. Moreover, if the procedure is not done carefully, you might become a victim of stray ghosts who can fein as if it is the soul you wanted to contact and then " attach " itself to the family leading to psychic disturbances in the family. Once our dear ones have been taken away from this plane, it is better to do what we can for their peace by proper rituals and invoke their Blessings through proper vaidic procedures (if such a procedure is not possible, you can just invoke them with mental intensity and offer what you can with Devotion on their Death anniversaries). My sincere request would be - please do not try contacting departed souls....it is not that it is not possible; but sometimes there are risks involved which far outweight the possible advantages. Mediums have no control over ghosts who can fake identities as our own dear departed....So, they cannot help in the matter, and if something goes wrong, we will be in endless cycles. Dharma shaastra is for the welfare of everyone. It is best to follow that and restrict our lives within its parameters. Dharma Shaastra prohibits such contacts with departed souls. Blessed be. Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI.vedic astrology , deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > Dear Dakshni Moorthiji, > > I have heard and also went to one session where they do autowriting where we can speak with our departed people through autowritng do they really come beacause i wasconfused when iwent to talk to my husband i didnt understand but i want to know is there a way we can speak to our beloved. > > regards > > anju > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: > Dear Shri. Yishun: > > Yes....it does affect the soul.....The soul might have transmigrated > to another body.....yet the karmic connection does > prevail......Moreover, except in the case of persons who have > accumulated too much of merit (Punyaa) or too much of sins, normal > souls take many years to be reborn because Divine Years are longer > than human years and mostly during our life time our deceased parents > are more likely to be in the pitru lokha only. > > Even if they have taken rebirth, the adhishtaana devataas " Vasu, > Rudra, Aadityaas " who are incharge of the process, do convey the > results of your shraadha to the soul concerned, and as an > acknowledgement, they do bless you with benefits. Actually, more > than the benefits, anyone should do shraarthams as a Duty ordained to > a human being. These are ordained by the shaastras, and regardless of > the results or the effects, we are supposed to do that. > > Actually there are many dharma shastraic injunctions regarding > shraardham. Legends in Mahaabharata and Raamaayana stand testimony > to the efficacy of the Pitru worship and the nuances of that subtly. > The Grandsire of the Kuru Dynasty = Bheeshmaachaarya could stand > before no less a personage in the form of Sage Parasuraama undefeated > only by the power of Pitur Blessings (Piturs manifested before him, > and blessed him with an ashtra for which the Great Sage - an > unparalleled Dhanur vedic expert had no answer!) > > Garuda Puraana, Yama Geeta, etc. clearly explain what happens to a > soul after it dies, and what all forms it can take, and and how > shraardh offered in this plane reaches the deceased soul which might > be in various stages of evolution or....as you have asked...might > have taken another birth!...... > > The doubts about shraardham are almost as old as its performance! > > Blessed be. > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > vedic astrology , yishun <yishun15@> wrote: > > > > Respected Panditji > > > > To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world > > 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. > > Except on the first year when we joined together with my > > elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we > > live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for > > my mother separately (of course different thithi) > > > > You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased > > soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to > > invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru > > lokhas on our life " . > > > > It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such > > case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the > > family? > > > > regards > > yishun > > > > --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer@> > > wrote: > > > > > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > > > > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > > > sharaardham should > > > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > > > case (the > > > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > > > emergency > > > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > > > in the > > > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > > > different > > > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > > > impurity is > > > over. > > > > > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > > > sources of > > > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > > > possible > > > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > > > will say only > > > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > > > does not do, > > > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > > > good only > > > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > > > the eldest > > > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > > > consent are > > > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > > > can do it > > > either combined or separately). > > > > > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > > > 5th month of > > > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > > > aapthikam > > > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > > > deceased soul of > > > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > > > pregnant, the > > > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > > > of one's own > > > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > > > not pregnant > > > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > > > pitru kaaryaa > > > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > > > wife in > > > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > > > kaarya > > > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > > > reasons; > > > that is why that has been tabooed). > > > > > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > > > may consult > > > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > > > matter (right or > > > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > > > to > > > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > > > do it with > > > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > > > > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > > > treat > > > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > > > shraartham is a > > > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > > > benefit of us - > > > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > > > have gone > > > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > > > all my > > > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > > > ancestors > > > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > > > father's sapathni > > > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > > > done with > > > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > > > can never > > > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > > > Shraartham > > > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > > > all. There are > > > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > > > in a newly > > > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > > > belief has > > > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > > > It has to be > > > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > > > development has > > > happened in our lives. > > > > > > Blessed be. > > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > > > > > ________ > > Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the > answer. Try it > > now. > > http://uk.answers./ > > > Ready for the edge of your seat? Check out tonight's top picks on TV. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 2, 2007 Report Share Posted August 2, 2007 Deepaji, Will you please give me your and your husband's birth details, if the TOB is almost accurate. P.Kumar On 8/2/07, deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > Dear Panditji, > > thanks very much for taking time and explaining in details but you see > panditji my husband expired on 3th august 2000 at 12.15 and every year > from july end till that 5th august i just cant help myself i feel so > helpless i want to talk to him at night also i feel that he is near me > sometimes i am frightened also and sometimes i feel as though somebody is > talking in my year i know it is just my imajination but still i feel it. > > but still i wil take your advise and try to forget all the things. > > thanks once again > > mrs. purohit > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer<dakshinastrologer%40.co.in>> > wrote: > Dear Deepaji: > > Whether we can speak to departed souls or not is another > matter.....But dharma shaastraas expressly prohibit such contacts > except by way of shraardham. > > I was hinting at some subtle dharmaas in shraardham....One such > subtlety is this....if you perform the shraardh with great devotion, > it is quite possible that you pitrus might come in person to collect > the " pinda " that is offered......Even in that case, you should not > give the pinda directly to the hand of the pitrus, but should place > it only on the ground as per dharma shaastra! There are references > of such a happening in our epics! > > I think this will answer your query also......It is better not to try > to communicate with our Dear Departed through ouja boards or auto- > writing sessions. It is an unnecessary disturbance to the soul, and > is a bad karma for us. > > Moreover, if the procedure is not done carefully, you might become a > victim of stray ghosts who can fein as if it is the soul you wanted > to contact and then " attach " itself to the family leading to psychic > disturbances in the family. > > Once our dear ones have been taken away from this plane, it is better > to do what we can for their peace by proper rituals and invoke their > Blessings through proper vaidic procedures (if such a procedure is > not possible, you can just invoke them with mental intensity and > offer what you can with Devotion on their Death anniversaries). My > sincere request would be - please do not try contacting departed > souls....it is not that it is not possible; but sometimes there are > risks involved which far outweight the possible advantages. Mediums > have no control over ghosts who can fake identities as our own dear > departed....So, they cannot help in the matter, and if something goes > wrong, we will be in endless cycles. > > Dharma shaastra is for the welfare of everyone. It is best to follow > that and restrict our lives within its parameters. Dharma Shaastra > prohibits such contacts with departed souls. > > Blessed be. > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI.--- In vedic astrology <vedic astrology%40>, > > deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > > > Dear Dakshni Moorthiji, > > > > I have heard and also went to one session where they do > autowriting where we can speak with our departed people through > autowritng do they really come beacause i wasconfused when iwent to > talk to my husband i didnt understand but i want to know is there a > way we can speak to our beloved. > > > > regards > > > > anju > > > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: > > Dear Shri. Yishun: > > > > Yes....it does affect the soul.....The soul might have > transmigrated > > to another body.....yet the karmic connection does > > prevail......Moreover, except in the case of persons who have > > accumulated too much of merit (Punyaa) or too much of sins, normal > > souls take many years to be reborn because Divine Years are longer > > than human years and mostly during our life time our deceased > parents > > are more likely to be in the pitru lokha only. > > > > Even if they have taken rebirth, the adhishtaana devataas " Vasu, > > Rudra, Aadityaas " who are incharge of the process, do convey the > > results of your shraadha to the soul concerned, and as an > > acknowledgement, they do bless you with benefits. Actually, more > > than the benefits, anyone should do shraarthams as a Duty ordained > to > > a human being. These are ordained by the shaastras, and regardless > of > > the results or the effects, we are supposed to do that. > > > > Actually there are many dharma shastraic injunctions regarding > > shraardham. Legends in Mahaabharata and Raamaayana stand testimony > > to the efficacy of the Pitru worship and the nuances of that subtly. > > The Grandsire of the Kuru Dynasty = Bheeshmaachaarya could stand > > before no less a personage in the form of Sage Parasuraama > undefeated > > only by the power of Pitur Blessings (Piturs manifested before him, > > and blessed him with an ashtra for which the Great Sage - an > > unparalleled Dhanur vedic expert had no answer!) > > > > Garuda Puraana, Yama Geeta, etc. clearly explain what happens to a > > soul after it dies, and what all forms it can take, and and how > > shraardh offered in this plane reaches the deceased soul which > might > > be in various stages of evolution or....as you have asked...might > > have taken another birth!...... > > > > The doubts about shraardham are almost as old as its performance! > > > > Blessed be. > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > vedic astrology <vedic astrology%40>, > yishun <yishun15@> wrote: > > > > > > Respected Panditji > > > > > > To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world > > > 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. > > > Except on the first year when we joined together with my > > > elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we > > > live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for > > > my mother separately (of course different thithi) > > > > > > You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased > > > soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to > > > invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru > > > lokhas on our life " . > > > > > > It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such > > > case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the > > > family? > > > > > > regards > > > yishun > > > > > > --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer@> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > > > > > > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > > > > sharaardham should > > > > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > > > > case (the > > > > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > > > > emergency > > > > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > > > > in the > > > > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > > > > different > > > > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > > > > impurity is > > > > over. > > > > > > > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > > > > sources of > > > > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > > > > possible > > > > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > > > > will say only > > > > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > > > > does not do, > > > > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > > > > good only > > > > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > > > > the eldest > > > > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > > > > consent are > > > > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > > > > can do it > > > > either combined or separately). > > > > > > > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > > > > 5th month of > > > > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > > > > aapthikam > > > > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > > > > deceased soul of > > > > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > > > > pregnant, the > > > > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > > > > of one's own > > > > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > > > > not pregnant > > > > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > > > > pitru kaaryaa > > > > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > > > > wife in > > > > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > > > > kaarya > > > > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > > > > reasons; > > > > that is why that has been tabooed). > > > > > > > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > > > > may consult > > > > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > > > > matter (right or > > > > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > > > > to > > > > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > > > > do it with > > > > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > > > > > > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > > > > treat > > > > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > > > > shraartham is a > > > > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > > > > benefit of us - > > > > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > > > > have gone > > > > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > > > > all my > > > > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > > > > ancestors > > > > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > > > > father's sapathni > > > > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > > > > done with > > > > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > > > > can never > > > > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > > > > Shraartham > > > > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > > > > all. There are > > > > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > > > > in a newly > > > > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > > > > belief has > > > > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > > > > It has to be > > > > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > > > > development has > > > > happened in our lives. > > > > > > > > Blessed be. > > > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > > > > > > > > > ________ > > > Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the > > answer. Try it > > > now. > > > http://uk.answers./ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Ready for the edge of your seat? Check out tonight's top picks on > TV. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 3, 2007 Report Share Posted August 3, 2007 Hello Kumarji, my date of birth details are 21 may 1951 at mumbai time is 16.35pm and my husband was born in pakistan hyderabad his details are 24 sep. 1945 time is 2 am in the morning at hyderabad pakistan. nakstra was ashwini. regards mrs. purohit Praveen Agrawal <pkumar24 wrote: Deepaji, Will you please give me your and your husband's birth details, if the TOB is almost accurate. P.Kumar On 8/2/07, deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > Dear Panditji, > > thanks very much for taking time and explaining in details but you see > panditji my husband expired on 3th august 2000 at 12.15 and every year > from july end till that 5th august i just cant help myself i feel so > helpless i want to talk to him at night also i feel that he is near me > sometimes i am frightened also and sometimes i feel as though somebody is > talking in my year i know it is just my imajination but still i feel it. > > but still i wil take your advise and try to forget all the things. > > thanks once again > > mrs. purohit > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer<dakshinastrologer%40.co.in>> > wrote: > Dear Deepaji: > > Whether we can speak to departed souls or not is another > matter.....But dharma shaastraas expressly prohibit such contacts > except by way of shraardham. > > I was hinting at some subtle dharmaas in shraardham....One such > subtlety is this....if you perform the shraardh with great devotion, > it is quite possible that you pitrus might come in person to collect > the " pinda " that is offered......Even in that case, you should not > give the pinda directly to the hand of the pitrus, but should place > it only on the ground as per dharma shaastra! There are references > of such a happening in our epics! > > I think this will answer your query also......It is better not to try > to communicate with our Dear Departed through ouja boards or auto- > writing sessions. It is an unnecessary disturbance to the soul, and > is a bad karma for us. > > Moreover, if the procedure is not done carefully, you might become a > victim of stray ghosts who can fein as if it is the soul you wanted > to contact and then " attach " itself to the family leading to psychic > disturbances in the family. > > Once our dear ones have been taken away from this plane, it is better > to do what we can for their peace by proper rituals and invoke their > Blessings through proper vaidic procedures (if such a procedure is > not possible, you can just invoke them with mental intensity and > offer what you can with Devotion on their Death anniversaries). My > sincere request would be - please do not try contacting departed > souls....it is not that it is not possible; but sometimes there are > risks involved which far outweight the possible advantages. Mediums > have no control over ghosts who can fake identities as our own dear > departed....So, they cannot help in the matter, and if something goes > wrong, we will be in endless cycles. > > Dharma shaastra is for the welfare of everyone. It is best to follow > that and restrict our lives within its parameters. Dharma Shaastra > prohibits such contacts with departed souls. > > Blessed be. > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI.--- In vedic astrology <vedic astrology%40>, > > deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > > > Dear Dakshni Moorthiji, > > > > I have heard and also went to one session where they do > autowriting where we can speak with our departed people through > autowritng do they really come beacause i wasconfused when iwent to > talk to my husband i didnt understand but i want to know is there a > way we can speak to our beloved. > > > > regards > > > > anju > > > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: > > Dear Shri. Yishun: > > > > Yes....it does affect the soul.....The soul might have > transmigrated > > to another body.....yet the karmic connection does > > prevail......Moreover, except in the case of persons who have > > accumulated too much of merit (Punyaa) or too much of sins, normal > > souls take many years to be reborn because Divine Years are longer > > than human years and mostly during our life time our deceased > parents > > are more likely to be in the pitru lokha only. > > > > Even if they have taken rebirth, the adhishtaana devataas " Vasu, > > Rudra, Aadityaas " who are incharge of the process, do convey the > > results of your shraadha to the soul concerned, and as an > > acknowledgement, they do bless you with benefits. Actually, more > > than the benefits, anyone should do shraarthams as a Duty ordained > to > > a human being. These are ordained by the shaastras, and regardless > of > > the results or the effects, we are supposed to do that. > > > > Actually there are many dharma shastraic injunctions regarding > > shraardham. Legends in Mahaabharata and Raamaayana stand testimony > > to the efficacy of the Pitru worship and the nuances of that subtly. > > The Grandsire of the Kuru Dynasty = Bheeshmaachaarya could stand > > before no less a personage in the form of Sage Parasuraama > undefeated > > only by the power of Pitur Blessings (Piturs manifested before him, > > and blessed him with an ashtra for which the Great Sage - an > > unparalleled Dhanur vedic expert had no answer!) > > > > Garuda Puraana, Yama Geeta, etc. clearly explain what happens to a > > soul after it dies, and what all forms it can take, and and how > > shraardh offered in this plane reaches the deceased soul which > might > > be in various stages of evolution or....as you have asked...might > > have taken another birth!...... > > > > The doubts about shraardham are almost as old as its performance! > > > > Blessed be. > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > vedic astrology <vedic astrology%40>, > yishun <yishun15@> wrote: > > > > > > Respected Panditji > > > > > > To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world > > > 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. > > > Except on the first year when we joined together with my > > > elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we > > > live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for > > > my mother separately (of course different thithi) > > > > > > You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased > > > soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to > > > invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru > > > lokhas on our life " . > > > > > > It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such > > > case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the > > > family? > > > > > > regards > > > yishun > > > > > > --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer@> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > > > > > > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > > > > sharaardham should > > > > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > > > > case (the > > > > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > > > > emergency > > > > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > > > > in the > > > > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > > > > different > > > > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > > > > impurity is > > > > over. > > > > > > > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > > > > sources of > > > > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > > > > possible > > > > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > > > > will say only > > > > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > > > > does not do, > > > > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > > > > good only > > > > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > > > > the eldest > > > > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > > > > consent are > > > > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > > > > can do it > > > > either combined or separately). > > > > > > > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > > > > 5th month of > > > > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > > > > aapthikam > > > > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > > > > deceased soul of > > > > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > > > > pregnant, the > > > > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > > > > of one's own > > > > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > > > > not pregnant > > > > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > > > > pitru kaaryaa > > > > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > > > > wife in > > > > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > > > > kaarya > > > > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > > > > reasons; > > > > that is why that has been tabooed). > > > > > > > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > > > > may consult > > > > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > > > > matter (right or > > > > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > > > > to > > > > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > > > > do it with > > > > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > > > > > > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > > > > treat > > > > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > > > > shraartham is a > > > > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > > > > benefit of us - > > > > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > > > > have gone > > > > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > > > > all my > > > > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > > > > ancestors > > > > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > > > > father's sapathni > > > > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > > > > done with > > > > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > > > > can never > > > > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > > > > Shraartham > > > > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > > > > all. There are > > > > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > > > > in a newly > > > > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > > > > belief has > > > > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > > > > It has to be > > > > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > > > > development has > > > > happened in our lives. > > > > > > > > Blessed be. > > > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > > > > > > > > > ________ > > > Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the > > answer. Try it > > > now. > > > http://uk.answers./ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Ready for the edge of your seat? 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Guest guest Posted August 4, 2007 Report Share Posted August 4, 2007 Thanks a lot. Please let me know something about your profession and if it has some relation with your husband's death. P.Kumar On 8/3/07, deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > Hello Kumarji, > > my date of birth details are 21 may 1951 at mumbai time is 16.35pm and my > husband was born in pakistan hyderabad his details are 24 sep. 1945 time is > 2 am in the morning at hyderabad pakistan. nakstra was ashwini. > > regards > > mrs. purohit > > Praveen Agrawal <pkumar24 <pkumar24%40gmail.com>> wrote: > Deepaji, > Will you please give me your and your husband's birth details, if the TOB > is > almost accurate. > > P.Kumar > > On 8/2/07, deepa ojha <shagun6904 <shagun6904%40>> > wrote: > > > > Dear Panditji, > > > > thanks very much for taking time and explaining in details but you see > > panditji my husband expired on 3th august 2000 at 12.15 and every year > > from july end till that 5th august i just cant help myself i feel so > > helpless i want to talk to him at night also i feel that he is near me > > sometimes i am frightened also and sometimes i feel as though somebody > is > > talking in my year i know it is just my imajination but still i feel it. > > > > but still i wil take your advise and try to forget all the things. > > > > thanks once again > > > > mrs. purohit > > > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer<dakshinastrologer%40.co.in> > <dakshinastrologer%40.co.in>> > > wrote: > > Dear Deepaji: > > > > Whether we can speak to departed souls or not is another > > matter.....But dharma shaastraas expressly prohibit such contacts > > except by way of shraardham. > > > > I was hinting at some subtle dharmaas in shraardham....One such > > subtlety is this....if you perform the shraardh with great devotion, > > it is quite possible that you pitrus might come in person to collect > > the " pinda " that is offered......Even in that case, you should not > > give the pinda directly to the hand of the pitrus, but should place > > it only on the ground as per dharma shaastra! There are references > > of such a happening in our epics! > > > > I think this will answer your query also......It is better not to try > > to communicate with our Dear Departed through ouja boards or auto- > > writing sessions. It is an unnecessary disturbance to the soul, and > > is a bad karma for us. > > > > Moreover, if the procedure is not done carefully, you might become a > > victim of stray ghosts who can fein as if it is the soul you wanted > > to contact and then " attach " itself to the family leading to psychic > > disturbances in the family. > > > > Once our dear ones have been taken away from this plane, it is better > > to do what we can for their peace by proper rituals and invoke their > > Blessings through proper vaidic procedures (if such a procedure is > > not possible, you can just invoke them with mental intensity and > > offer what you can with Devotion on their Death anniversaries). My > > sincere request would be - please do not try contacting departed > > souls....it is not that it is not possible; but sometimes there are > > risks involved which far outweight the possible advantages. Mediums > > have no control over ghosts who can fake identities as our own dear > > departed....So, they cannot help in the matter, and if something goes > > wrong, we will be in endless cycles. > > > > Dharma shaastra is for the welfare of everyone. It is best to follow > > that and restrict our lives within its parameters. Dharma Shaastra > > prohibits such contacts with departed souls. > > > > Blessed be. > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI.--- In vedic astrology <vedic astrology%40> > <vedic astrology%40>, > > > > deepa ojha <shagun6904 wrote: > > > > > > Dear Dakshni Moorthiji, > > > > > > I have heard and also went to one session where they do > > autowriting where we can speak with our departed people through > > autowritng do they really come beacause i wasconfused when iwent to > > talk to my husband i didnt understand but i want to know is there a > > way we can speak to our beloved. > > > > > > regards > > > > > > anju > > > > > > dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer wrote: > > > Dear Shri. Yishun: > > > > > > Yes....it does affect the soul.....The soul might have > > transmigrated > > > to another body.....yet the karmic connection does > > > prevail......Moreover, except in the case of persons who have > > > accumulated too much of merit (Punyaa) or too much of sins, normal > > > souls take many years to be reborn because Divine Years are longer > > > than human years and mostly during our life time our deceased > > parents > > > are more likely to be in the pitru lokha only. > > > > > > Even if they have taken rebirth, the adhishtaana devataas " Vasu, > > > Rudra, Aadityaas " who are incharge of the process, do convey the > > > results of your shraadha to the soul concerned, and as an > > > acknowledgement, they do bless you with benefits. Actually, more > > > than the benefits, anyone should do shraarthams as a Duty ordained > > to > > > a human being. These are ordained by the shaastras, and regardless > > of > > > the results or the effects, we are supposed to do that. > > > > > > Actually there are many dharma shastraic injunctions regarding > > > shraardham. Legends in Mahaabharata and Raamaayana stand testimony > > > to the efficacy of the Pitru worship and the nuances of that subtly. > > > The Grandsire of the Kuru Dynasty = Bheeshmaachaarya could stand > > > before no less a personage in the form of Sage Parasuraama > > undefeated > > > only by the power of Pitur Blessings (Piturs manifested before him, > > > and blessed him with an ashtra for which the Great Sage - an > > > unparalleled Dhanur vedic expert had no answer!) > > > > > > Garuda Puraana, Yama Geeta, etc. clearly explain what happens to a > > > soul after it dies, and what all forms it can take, and and how > > > shraardh offered in this plane reaches the deceased soul which > > might > > > be in various stages of evolution or....as you have asked...might > > > have taken another birth!...... > > > > > > The doubts about shraardham are almost as old as its performance! > > > > > > Blessed be. > > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > > > vedic astrology <vedic astrology%40> > <vedic astrology%40>, > > yishun <yishun15@> wrote: > > > > > > > > Respected Panditji > > > > > > > > To-day I did shraartham for my father who left this world > > > > 20 years ago on karkataka krishnabaksha prathama day. > > > > Except on the first year when we joined together with my > > > > elder brother, I am doing all these years on my own as we > > > > live in different countries. I also perform shraartham for > > > > my mother separately (of course different thithi) > > > > > > > > You said " shraartham is a ritual done both for the deceased > > > > soul and for the benefit of us - who are surviving - to > > > > invoke the Blessings of those who have gone into Pitru > > > > lokhas on our life " . > > > > > > > > It is possible the departed soul has taken rebirth. In such > > > > case, leave the benifit, will it affect the soul or the > > > > family? > > > > > > > > regards > > > > yishun > > > > > > > > --- dakshinastrologer <dakshinastrologer@> > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > Dear Shri. Karunaagaram Raaghavam: > > > > > > > > > > According to dharma shaastra, the Varashaapthika > > > > > sharaardham should > > > > > be done on the correct thithi of the solar month in any > > > > > case (the > > > > > shaashtra says that it should be done even under > > > > > emergency > > > > > conditions). If there is " aasoucham " due to birth/ death > > > > > in the > > > > > family, only then the aapthikam can be done on a > > > > > different > > > > > thithi....that is the next amaavasya after the ritual > > > > > impurity is > > > > > over. > > > > > > > > > > Another matter is when brothers who have independent > > > > > sources of > > > > > livelihood and are living apart have to perform this, if > > > > > possible > > > > > they should do this separately (I know most shaastriis > > > > > will say only > > > > > the elder brother has the right; if the elder brother > > > > > does not do, > > > > > the pitrus won't acknowledge it at all, etc....This holds > > > > > good only > > > > > for the Preta Kaarya - 10 days after death rituals when > > > > > the eldest > > > > > son is the mukhya kartaa and karmas done without his > > > > > consent are > > > > > null; for other shraarthams, all sons are equal, and they > > > > > can do it > > > > > either combined or separately). > > > > > > > > > > As your elder brother's daughter-in-law is only in the > > > > > 5th month of > > > > > pregnancy, and birth is not expected by shraardham, the > > > > > aapthikam > > > > > should be celebrated properly and in detail for the > > > > > deceased soul of > > > > > your mother. Actually, even if one's own wife is > > > > > pregnant, the > > > > > taboos regarding preta kaaryaas do not apply in the case > > > > > of one's own > > > > > father/ mother. In this case, the main kartaa's wife is > > > > > not pregnant > > > > > (even if she herself is pregnant beyond 5th month, the > > > > > pitru kaaryaa > > > > > should still be done by the other brothers; the pregnant > > > > > wife in > > > > > advanced stages of pregnancy should not sit for the pitru > > > > > kaarya > > > > > generally due to obvious discomfort and practical safety > > > > > reasons; > > > > > that is why that has been tabooed). > > > > > > > > > > This is my understanding of the dharma shaastraa. You > > > > > may consult > > > > > your family priest who is going to officiate in this > > > > > matter (right or > > > > > wrong - his views should prevail because if he does not > > > > > to > > > > > the views and is forced to perform the ritual, he may not > > > > > do it with > > > > > full mind which nullifies our performance). > > > > > > > > > > One small general note for all members - Most persons > > > > > treat > > > > > shraardham as if it is inauspicious.....Actually > > > > > shraartham is a > > > > > ritual done both for the deceased soul and for the > > > > > benefit of us - > > > > > who are surviving - to invoke the Blessings of those who > > > > > have gone > > > > > into Pitru lokhas on our life......In my life, I have had > > > > > all my > > > > > important breakthroughs in life around the thivasam of my > > > > > ancestors > > > > > (my paternal grandma/ grandpa or the thivasam of my > > > > > father's sapathni > > > > > maata (my grandpa's first wife)). When Shraartham is > > > > > done with > > > > > devotion, the Blessings that our ancestors bestow upon us > > > > > can never > > > > > be sufficiently explained. The point I wish to say is, > > > > > Shraartham > > > > > should not be considered as an inauspicious ritual at > > > > > all. There are > > > > > some who avoid performing shraartham as the first thing > > > > > in a newly > > > > > built house thinking it as inauspicious...somehow such a > > > > > belief has > > > > > gained currency. Shraartham is Our Duty and Previlege. > > > > > It has to be > > > > > done at the appropriate times - no matter what other > > > > > development has > > > > > happened in our lives. > > > > > > > > > > Blessed be. > > > > > Pandit R.DAKSHINAMOORTHI. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________ > > > > Answers - Got a question? Someone out there knows the > > > answer. Try it > > > > now. > > > > http://uk.answers./ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Ready for the edge of your seat? Check out tonight's top picks on > > TV. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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