Astrology and The Gender Divide

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At 09:59 PM 5/26/04 -0000, Mu wrote:

>Because a great number of people have contacted me in gratitude for

>my humble writings on the question of relationship, marriage and so

>on, I have decided to share these writings which originally appeared

>on the Pan Astrological Forum. What appears below are a series of

>thoughts and opinions by me and other respected members of the PAF.

>I am hopeful that they spark thought and promote meaningful

>discussion on the matters discussed therein...

 

Hello Mu,

 

Having read through your long post as best I could, I agree that the

expectations of women today tend to go through the roof. I can't comment on

what men want or expect and I can't comment on the Black community. I can

only comment on what I've seen amoung White women.

 

Due to the glamor the media has presented us with, many women do want the

impossible from men. **Expectation** is the name of the culprit. I've been

married to the same man all my life, a fine man with the best spiritual

values, but when I look at my own expectations, and if I were in the

marriage market today, there's a lot more I'd ask for. I can see that my

attitude has become unrealistic with a few added-on false values. I believe

these increased " wants " are due to the glamor the media has presented us

with: The perfect sensitive, charming, highly intelligent, sophisticated

hunk on the movie screens and in the T.V. sitcoms.

 

In a way the values of Indian marriage that you mentioned are much more

realistic. In many cultures such as the Indian culture the sexes are still

separated for the most part in everyday life. Women mix with women and men

mix with men. I believe an answer for women is to have some sensitive

female friends to share their feeling and thoughts with. Many of these

thoughts and feelings are alien to men and always will be. Only the guys in

the movies understand those sensitivities.

 

A long married friend of mine once said something like this to me, " You

know, marriage is basically a business proposition for the benefit of

society and the raising of children. Each half of the marriage fulfills

their gender role as best they can. "

 

The initial sexual attraction is sort of a cosmic trap to get two people

into a responsible relationship that will benefit children and society.

Unfortunately these basic values are being thrown to the wind in favor of

something called 'romance' and out-of-sight 'expectations.'

 

But there's no astrology in this post!!

 

Therese