Lose tamper (angriness nature)

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Dear Sir,

 

My name is indu I am 28 years old. My problem is my angriness nature.

This nature is very disappointing me. Some time I am angry at very

little think. I am very disappointing sir, please give me some advice.

 

Regards

Indu

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lalkitab , " dixit_indiresh "

<dixit_indiresh wrote:

> dear madam,

to the extent wt i read

illustractively narrated below if it helps.(l.k.to forgive)

Anger is " an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild

irritation to intense fury and rage, " according to Charles

Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of

anger. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and

biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood

pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones,

adrenaline, and noradrenaline.

 

Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could

be angry at a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or

event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be

caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems.

Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry

feelings.

 

The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond

aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it

inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which

allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A

certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.

 

On the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or

object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common

sense place limits on how far our anger can take us.

 

People use a variety of both conscious and unconscious processes to

deal with their angry feelings. The three main approaches are

expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings

in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to

express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what

your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others.

Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means

being respectful of yourself and others.

 

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This

happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and

focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your

anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in

this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward

expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned

inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

 

Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to

pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive

behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them

why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that

seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly

putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical

comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger.

Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful

relationships.

 

Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling

your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses,

taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let

the feelings subside.

 

As Dr. Spielberger notes, " when none of these three techniques work,

that's when someone—or something—is going to get hurt. "

 

There are psychological tests that measure the intensity of angry

feelings, how prone to anger you are, and how well you handle it.

But chances are good that if you do have a problem with anger, you

already know it. If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out

of control and frightening, you might need help finding better ways

to deal with this emotion.

 

 

> Dear Sir,

>

> My name is indu I am 28 years old. My problem is my angriness

nature.

> This nature is very disappointing me. Some time I am angry at very

> little think. I am very disappointing sir, please give me some

advice.

>

> Regards

> Indu

>