Refinement and Sharpening of the Personality

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The present-day young generation is being increasingly attractedtowards personality grooming programmes. Scores of young men andwomen, and even teenagers, are joining grooming institutes andspending hefty amounts with a view to improve and smarten theirpersonalities. Many such places charge as much as ten to twentythousand rupees for 5-7 day courses. Nevertheless, the youth are notgetting the desired benefits. In spite of all the labor and expense,their personalities fail to develop the magnetic pull which they socherish, or the character traits which could ensure their success inlife. The famous maxim "All that glitters is not gold" is provingright in regard to these institutes.There is, however, a positive aspect to this phenomenon. It signifiesan increasingly strong desire in the youth to refine and reshape theirpersonalities, their awakened awareness about themselves and theirgrowing sense of

responsibility towards life. This pleasant trendgives a sense of hope. Lucky indeed is the nation whose youth is alertabout their overall personality development. They appear to haverealized that now-a-days labor by itself is not sufficient for openingthe doors to success. The psychological impact cast by thepersonality, too, is important.If we want to make a mark in the world, we will have to cultivate somespecific attributes in our personalities.The first of these is effective witnessing: That is, objectivelywitnessing with deep understanding what occurs or exists before andaround. Only those who have this penetrating understanding are able toutilize their strengths effectively. Witnessing requires a very keenand perceptive vision; a vision, which is free from the defects ofprejudice and ego-sense and whose essence is what the scriptures call'neer-ksheer- vivek', that is, the subtle discriminative power.

Weshould be able to assess, in the very first meeting, the generaltemperament, firmness of character, grasp of the subject matter andforesight of the person whom we are meeting. It is this discerningability, which will tell us how we can deal with the concerned personin the best possible way. If we are able to do this, every encounterwill become an educative experience. This method is particularlyeffective in times of interviews, etc.The second attribute required in this connection is far-sightedness.It has been a much talked-about quality for ages but very few actuallyknow the art of its effective application. Those who do are able toensure a bright future for themselves as well as their co-workers.What is required is to pick up clues and trends from the present andmake a projection on this basis about what could possibly happen inthe future. Chess players, successful businessmen and goodadministrators

possess this quality of penetrating foresight.The third characteristic feature of a magnetic personality ispragmatism. This quality is always beneficial, whether it be a matterof examination or carrier advancement. What is our correct positionand situation vis-à-vis the circumstances? What are our strengths andweaknesses? We must have an objective and realistic assessment of allthese factors.The fourth attribute is thirst for knowledge. People acquire somedegrees and think that the task is over and now the only thing theyhave to do is to earn a livelihood, somehow. This thinking isretrogressive. Personality acquires power of attraction only when ithas a never-satisfying eagerness to acquire wider and deeperunderstanding and knowledge of itself and the world. In modernparlance it is called updating. All experts of career counselingadvise that one should keep acquiring more and more knowledge, andlearning

newer and newer things in one's field of work. They evenrecommend that, apart from inculcating a reading habit, one should tryto develop the capacity for effective writing, too.These are some of the salient guidelines for bringing about refinementof the personality. The questions like "Where are we?What are wedoing?" etc have their importance but of the greatest importance isthe luster personality. That is why Dev Sanskriti Vishwavidyalaya atGayatri Teerth, Hardwar has compulsorily incorporated 'The art ofpersonality improvement and living' in all its programmes. It isanother matter that at this unique center of sacred and mundanelearning, one has to repay for his or her education not in terms ofmoney but altruist service; because selfless service of societythrough the talents and expertise is the only genuine certificate ofsuccess of any worthwhile personality grooming programme. for source please

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