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Dear brothers & sisters

 

As you know my dear friend of 20 years has been ill with cancer of

the brain. She has now come home from hospital to spend the last few

days with her family. We are counting down the days & just taking

every day as it comes & trying to make her as comfortable as possible.

 

I have been meditating more than ever in my life & sending her & her

2 children my loving energies to help them through this difficult

time. (Her son is 10 & her daughter is 6.)Im praying that she slips

out of her body peacefully & is taken from her short life in this

body as as painlessly as possible. She is only 39.

 

I went chanting yesterday & over 20 of us chanted beautifully for

her. I closed my eyes & could see her sitting in front of me. Can

anyone offer any advice... is there anything I can do to help her

with this transition out of this life? We dont want her to go but

sadly the universe has decided she must.

 

Any words of wisdom would be much appreciated with all my heart

 

With much love

 

Farah

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Let the Lord's name be on her lips and in her mind.

I do believe that Shridhi Sai Baba protect his sincere

 devotees miraculously  when prayed with total faith and surrender.

In His Grace,

Chandru

 

 

 

 

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As you know my dear friend of 20 years has been ill with cancer of

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Dear Farah Madam,

 

Give space within among the people around her as well as ask her to

maintain empty space within by emptying all thoughts as far as

possible so that the divine intervention can take place and guide her

to the safety of peace and smooth passage. That is meditation, that is

prayer for her.

 

With prayers and regards,

 

M.S.Thimmappa.

 

 

, " janfarah_strongspirit "

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Dear sister Farah , The process of dying is a very pleasant experience for the

person dying. It is the others surrounding her have all the worrying thoughts.

But a mother of 10 and 6 yr will be leaving this world with a single worry

about their future. Reassure her that her children will be well looked after and

cared till they become on their own. Next keep the picture of her favorite deity

in her room . Music of her choice to glorify the Deity must be constantly heard

in the room . The music should be of low intensity. Someone preferably her close

family members like husband ,son,daughter and others must touch her by hand and

soothe her.

May God bless her !

 

 

~SWAMY

http://gjnanaswarup.spaces.live.com/blog/

 

--- On Sun, 6/29/08, janfarah_strongspirit <janfarah_strongspirit

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Dear brothers & sisters

 

As you know my dear friend of 20 years has been ill with cancer of

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Hello Farahji,

 

Namaste!

 

Having being exposed to 7 deaths in a span of 15 years it is

still very difficult to explain and tell you how to handle it,

nevertheless here goes my contribution.

 

First of all at this age she will be very much worried for her

children and it is here you have to convince her that they will

be taken care of. When this is assured you may see some relief

on your friends face. Assurance should be genuine heartfelt to

convince her.

 

Next assure her that she is going to meet her lord and that

God calls them early to whom he/she loves so it is like homecoming

for her. This is easier said then done but try it nevertheless

and i hope the Lord gives you enough strength to convince her.

This done - whenever you go to meet her meditate first and then

visit her. Once you reach her place always keep or place your hand

preferably right hand into her right hand and gentle squeeze it

lovingly looking straight into her eyes. See her eyes light up

in this small gesture. If she can talk listen to her more than

refraining her from talking because that will help her to get rid

of weightage on her mind and chest. Also assure and calm her and

then INSHALLAH she will slip back with a smile on her lips.

 

Holding sad faces will make her more worried - i know, know, this

is easier said then done but you have no alternative or any choice

just go with the flow.

 

All the best and God bless you to handle this situation.

 

With warm wishes,

 

Sudhakar

HARI OM TAT SAT! Cheers! :o)

 

> Dear brothers & sisters

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> As you know my dear friend of 20 years has been ill with cancer of

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, " janfarah_strongspirit "

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> As you know my dear friend of 20 years has been ill with cancer of

> the brain. She has now come home from hospital to spend the last few

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Dear Farah ji, i am sorry to hear about yr friend. What ever you are

doing is sufficient.

 

I on behlaf of Sadhna community pray god to do what ever is best for

her spiritual progress...and courage to her nears and dears

 

Aum

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, aumji <no_reply wrote:

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> I on behlaf of Sadhna community pray god to do what ever is best for

> her spiritual progress...and courage to her nears and dears

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Dear brothers & sisters

 

Many thanks to all who replied, it is much appreciated. I also smiled

when I saw that during the whole day of no activity on 29th june, there

were 6 posts within the space of 2 minutes....

 

With much love to you all

 

Farah

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Initially when I read Farah ji's mail....I thought, Oh what a silly thing to

discuss in a sadhana group. What can we tell someone who is about to leave? Just

a few soothing words?? But will it bring comfort to the subject if there is no

pre-anticipation for this event that sooner or late we all have to face.

Then I read the replies from All.....especially Sudhakarji's mail touched me a

lot and it just dawned that its such an important thing to

consider......afterall, All this Sadhana and This Spiritual Journey is nothing

but a preparation for " THIS EVENT " .

A small poem emerged that am sharing.........

 

 

 

 

Someone, Who¢s dying?

 

 

 

 

 

After you achieve

your academic milestone

 

Having read the

Shastras and grasping all that¢s known

 

Please tell, how you shall

confront this crying

 

What would you say to

someone, who¢s dying?

 

 

 

After you have tested

your mind and it¢s will

 

When you are a Siddha

bestowed with metaphysical skill

 

Help to discover this

key, which I am trying

 

What can be taught to

someone, who¢s dying?

 

 

 

When you have moved

the heaviest mountains

 

Cut through the

stones to carve astounding fountains

 

This secret, sure you

must have unearthed that¢s lying

 

How to hold someone,

who¢s dying?

 

 

 

With your divine melody

you¢ve pleased the Lord

 

And spellbound huge

masses rendering musical accord

 

Do you have that

secret tune, in offer for buying?

 

That one can play to

someone, who¢s dying?

 

 

 

From the depths of

your meditative quietude

 

Penetrating many

planes, anchored in choiceless attitude

 

Tell me, how to

allure a fearful mind on complying

 

What¢s the technique

to calm someone, who¢s dying?

 

 

 

In my life, so many

experiences that I have gained

 

Many I¢ve strived,

with apprehension some I¢ve refrained

 

Oh Lord! On which of

these I should be relying

 

What I must be, my

Master, when I¢m dying?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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, Anupam Shil <anupamshil wrote:

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......afterall, All this Sadhana and This Spiritual Journey is nothing

but a preparation for " THIS EVENT " .

 

 

Dear Anupam

 

Thankyou for sharing, the poem was lovely. This transition out of this

life is so painful when the person is young & especially when they are

leaving young children. I remember so many of my spiritual teachers

telling me that we all choose the life we are born into. Its all for a

reason. Its all meant to happen.

 

I too was touched by the replies, especially Sudhakar's. To experience

so many deaths in 15 years is harsh - I havent experienced that many

deaths in my whole life. I have said far more to my friend through my

eyes & through my meditations, than I can ever say to her verbally. All

I can promise her now is that I will always do the best that I can for

her children & that they will be helped & supported with love &

sincerity.

 

And I too must work out my life lessons in all this. This situation

isn't all about me, but I have my life lessons to learn like every

other person playing their part in the drama of life. When I was

meditating last night, everything became clear for me & I saw it as if

I was watching it clearly on a huge screen. There is always a lesson in

everything without exception. Surely thats the beauty of life.

 

With much love

 

Farah

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