Need Help....Advise please

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Dear Deven Ji

 

Seems this is all about how you see yourself and the way you might

be communicating with others.......... and how they percieve that

communication

 

there really are no new experiences as others have felt what you are

describeing also and a good guide is found in ancient knowledge that

says........if one remains silent and says nothing acting in a

somewhat normal manner then no one knows who that person is or what

they are about and ........therefore their actions will speak louder

than their words.......in this case there would be nothing anyone

could say about such a person except from what they see the person

accomplishing

 

This comes naturally as one simply acts as others do in the same

group setting..........a modern interpretation of this might be to

listen more and say nothing and stay in background so to speak as a

method of going around this obstacle in life..........your successes

and accomplishments always speak for themselves and reflect your

abilities however saying to much can overshadow any action....is

simply the way the world is

 

looking at what you have said in your message am seeing that you

feel that when you speak people react in ways that are not in your

best interests

 

if you read over your message you will see for yourself that you

deal with the issue of being straight forward and honest in nature

and dealings however........when you progress a little bit and start

saying big things in a taunting way..........they try to malign your

image in public...........and if you respond in your straight

forward manner then they considered this as an attack

 

Being straight forward and honest is a two edged sword......it can

be harsh and speaking in a taunting way can be intimidateing or it

can be soft and easily accepted so it really depends on

communication skills and the way something is said

 

since we can all learn more about communication skills this might be

an area of interest to explore on the internet or by reading a book

on communication skills so that more can be learned about body

language and ways to approach other through speech so they are more

readily acceptable to what you are trying to communicate to

them........ if self image and expectations of how others recieve

you are important..........you will then be more aware and prepared

for interractions with others that are takeing place in your life

and be more pro active in your communications

 

Since you feel this difficulty has been happening to you since

childhood it might be a good experience to investigate this subject

of communcation with others as the learning will give you more self

confidence in your daily life and give your self image a lift so

that you do not become self conscious

 

In addition if you wear the 3 Mukhi Lord Agni Rudraksha that is

credited with destroying past Karma and stopping all difficulties

before they start with the 5 Mukhi Kaalagni Rudraksha that is

credited with destroying present moment Karma you will be in a clear

space so to speak where you can go forward and change your methods

of communcation with others so that they recive you in better light

at all times..........adding the 6 Mukhi Lord Kartikey will save

from worldly sorrows and an 8 Mukhi Lord Ganesha Rudraksha will move

all the obstacles on all levels.......with all this in place the 12

Mukhi Lord Surya Rudraksha would be makeing you the center of

attentiion without saying a word to anyone

 

so by increaseing your knowledge of how others communicate and

recieve communcations........and wearing the Holy Rudraksha this is

a good plan to try and correct the difficulties you have

mentioned........if the difficulty continues then is time to seek

the advice of a professional counselor who can direct you in a way

that will help you with your goal to be seen and understood for who

you really are

 

hope this helps

 

Wishing you and Family the Best

 

Rudra Center India and America

 

DharmaDev Arya

 

 

 

 

 

, "chopradeven81"

<chopradeven81 wrote:

>

> Dear DDji , Narsimhaye ji and all group members.

>

> I need some help.

>

> I have noticed over the years almost since my childhood that I have

> been continously victim of people's jealousy.

>

> I am very staright-forward and honest in my nature and dealings.

>

> Whenever I progress even a little bit or people start saying big

> things in a taunting way no matter how well they know me and how

good I have been to them. As if they don't expect me to progress.

>

> And many times they try to malign my image in public and if I

> respond, it is termed as an attack.

>

> People form groups against me easily.

>

> Even if I look good, people have problems and I have to really

think

> before I dress up not to look too good.

>

> I want to know what kind of rudraksha combination or Kshatriya

> kantha should I wear.

>

> I also have some family responsibilities and these things make me

> insecure and less confident.

>

> Any suggestions and insights will be highly appreciated.

>

> Regards

> Deven Chopra

>