Guest guest Posted September 19, 2006 Report Share Posted September 19, 2006 Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm depressed and scared. To make a long story short, I found out some things about my family today that really hurt me. I have been working myself to exhaustion trying to help my elderly parents while my older siblings do nothing. My parents know how much I've done for them and still do on a daily basis but they continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I honestly don't know where it comes from and I know deep down they know what they're doing isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am leaving their house today. As much as they treat me badly, I am still scared for them as they will get very little help from their older children and both parents have health problems. I'm just so nervous! January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- 5:24-5:25 AM Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing from anyone. Hopefully there is a remedy or something to make things better? Blessings, Nyree Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 U have two options 1. Gather social support -relatives etc and ask them how can u sort it out this problem 2. Ask ur siblings , that this is collective resposibility for them , they can't runaway like that .. They have to provide financial and emotional support ... 3. If still they do't support and u want to help ur parents - Its ur problem than forget about siblings and u need to own this problem WHOLE HEARTEDLY FORGET U HAVE SIBLING AT ALL Anil www.thinkastro.com --- nyree <n8m8 > wrote: > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm > depressed and scared. To > make a long story short, I found out some things > about my family today > that really hurt me. I have been working myself to > exhaustion trying to > help my elderly parents while my older siblings do > nothing. My parents > know how much I've done for them and still do on a > daily basis but they > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I > honestly don't know > where it comes from and I know deep down they know > what they're doing > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am > leaving their house > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am still > scared for them as > they will get very little help from their older > children and both > parents have health problems. I'm just so nervous! > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- > 5:24-5:25 AM > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing from > anyone. Hopefully > there is a remedy or something to make things > better? > > Blessings, > > Nyree > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Thank you very much for your reply but unfortunately the things you suggested are part of my problem. You see, the older siblings are what is making this situation worse. They all live very close by but will only come over for a few minutes daily to make their appearance and make subtle comments about how I run the house and that I believe is what turns my parents against me. It has become quite obvious that they are just waiting for my parents to die and as long as I'm here trying to help them, I am considered an obstacle. I just don't know what to think about the whole situation because my parents are still very clear mentally. I think if I wasn't around anymore, they would understand but when I leave, I can't come back because too much damage has been done. I feel like my parents don't love me to treat me this way. They know I've been a great help to them, even sacrificing my own life and happiness so they could live comfortably. I just don't understand. Was hoping my chart could clear things up. vedic astrology, manavi singh <manavi_rr wrote: > > U have two options > > 1. Gather social support -relatives etc and ask them > how can u sort it out this problem > > 2. Ask ur siblings , that this is collective > resposibility for them , they can't runaway like that > . They have to provide financial and emotional support > .. > > 3. If still they do't support and u want to help ur > parents - Its ur problem than forget about siblings > and u need to own this problem WHOLE HEARTEDLY FORGET > U HAVE SIBLING AT ALL > > Anil > www.thinkastro.com > > > > --- nyree n8m8 wrote: > > > > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm > > depressed and scared. To > > make a long story short, I found out some things > > about my family today > > that really hurt me. I have been working myself to > > exhaustion trying to > > help my elderly parents while my older siblings do > > nothing. My parents > > know how much I've done for them and still do on a > > daily basis but they > > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I > > honestly don't know > > where it comes from and I know deep down they know > > what they're doing > > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am > > leaving their house > > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am still > > scared for them as > > they will get very little help from their older > > children and both > > parents have health problems. I'm just so nervous! > > > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- > > 5:24-5:25 AM > > > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing from > > anyone. Hopefully > > there is a remedy or something to make things > > better? > > > > Blessings, > > > > Nyree > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 As far as chart is concern - U have to bear this quite long as in sibling sector u have Neptune- Saturn oppostions and that will continue in next year as well. Practicall approach : You need to take a stand - If u love ur parents badly - move away from ur sibling with ur parents -in new environment If it is not possible - tell ur parents that u love them and not the siblings - so they have to choose some one - If they choose u , then tell ur siblings - either they should help u or cut off all relations with u . Do't try to be NICE guy. be Direct /straight and have some Confidence in dealing this . Tell ur sibling's " Their behaviour is impacting u mentally -and Now I can tollerate that - That's my life and my parents wants the same too.. Anil www.thinkastro.com --- nyree <n8m8 > wrote: > Thank you very much for your reply but unfortunately > the things you > suggested are part of my problem. You see, the > older siblings are what > is making this situation worse. They all live very > close by but will > only come over for a few minutes daily to make their > appearance and make > subtle comments about how I run the house and that I > believe is what > turns my parents against me. It has become quite > obvious that they are > just waiting for my parents to die and as long as > I'm here trying to > help them, I am considered an obstacle. I just > don't know what to think > about the whole situation because my parents are > still very clear > mentally. I think if I wasn't around anymore, they > would understand but > when I leave, I can't come back because too much > damage has been done. > I feel like my parents don't love me to treat me > this way. They know > I've been a great help to them, even sacrificing my > own life and > happiness so they could live comfortably. I just > don't understand. Was > hoping my chart could clear things up. > vedic astrology, manavi singh > <manavi_rr > wrote: > > > > U have two options > > > > 1. Gather social support -relatives etc and ask > them > > how can u sort it out this problem > > > > 2. Ask ur siblings , that this is collective > > resposibility for them , they can't runaway like > that > > . They have to provide financial and emotional > support > > .. > > > > 3. If still they do't support and u want to help > ur > > parents - Its ur problem than forget about > siblings > > and u need to own this problem WHOLE HEARTEDLY > FORGET > > U HAVE SIBLING AT ALL > > > > Anil > > www.thinkastro.com > > > > > > > > --- nyree n8m8 wrote: > > > > > > > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm > > > depressed and scared. To > > > make a long story short, I found out some things > > > about my family today > > > that really hurt me. I have been working myself > to > > > exhaustion trying to > > > help my elderly parents while my older siblings > do > > > nothing. My parents > > > know how much I've done for them and still do on > a > > > daily basis but they > > > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I > > > honestly don't know > > > where it comes from and I know deep down they > know > > > what they're doing > > > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am > > > leaving their house > > > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am > still > > > scared for them as > > > they will get very little help from their older > > > children and both > > > parents have health problems. I'm just so > nervous! > > > > > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- > > > 5:24-5:25 AM > > > > > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing > from > > > anyone. Hopefully > > > there is a remedy or something to make things > > > better? > > > > > > Blessings, > > > > > > Nyree > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > > removed] > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Tired of spam? Mail has the best spam > protection around > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Anil, Thank you very much. You have really helped me out. The things you suggested, I already have the answer to. My parents would never move away with me. They would also never choose me to take care of them over one of their older children because she is one of the most talented manipulators on the planet. She really has them confused about how well they're being taken care of at the present time. I have always done all the housework, gardening, mowing of grass etc and yesterday she had my 78 yr old father who has heart and lung problems doing all of that while she did nothing yet he thinks she's the best daughter on earth. It's just really difficult for me currently because the way I see it, I can stay here and hover over them until something goes wrong or move away, knowing that I'm basically leaving them with someone who really doesn't care but what can I do. She very successfully turned it around to where I'm the bad guy. I just don't understand how my parents can so easily forget how much I've done for them. I've never felt so uncomfortable in my life! vedic astrology, manavi singh <manavi_rr wrote: > > As far as chart is concern - U have to bear this quite > long as in sibling sector u have Neptune- Saturn > oppostions and that will continue in next year as > well. > > Practicall approach : > You need to take a stand - If u love ur parents badly > - move away from ur sibling with ur parents -in new > environment > If it is not possible - tell ur parents that u love > them and not the siblings - so they have to choose > some one - If they choose u , then tell ur siblings - > either they should help u or cut off all relations > with u . Do't try to be NICE guy. be Direct /straight > and have some Confidence in dealing this . > Tell ur sibling's " Their behaviour is impacting u > mentally -and Now I can tollerate that - That's my > life and my parents wants the same too.. > Anil > www.thinkastro.com > > --- nyree <n8m8 wrote: > > > Thank you very much for your reply but unfortunately > > the things you > > suggested are part of my problem. You see, the > > older siblings are what > > is making this situation worse. They all live very > > close by but will > > only come over for a few minutes daily to make their > > appearance and make > > subtle comments about how I run the house and that I > > believe is what > > turns my parents against me. It has become quite > > obvious that they are > > just waiting for my parents to die and as long as > > I'm here trying to > > help them, I am considered an obstacle. I just > > don't know what to think > > about the whole situation because my parents are > > still very clear > > mentally. I think if I wasn't around anymore, they > > would understand but > > when I leave, I can't come back because too much > > damage has been done. > > I feel like my parents don't love me to treat me > > this way. They know > > I've been a great help to them, even sacrificing my > > own life and > > happiness so they could live comfortably. I just > > don't understand. Was > > hoping my chart could clear things up. > > vedic astrology, manavi singh > > <manavi_rr@> > > wrote: > > > > > > U have two options > > > > > > 1. Gather social support -relatives etc and ask > > them > > > how can u sort it out this problem > > > > > > 2. Ask ur siblings , that this is collective > > > resposibility for them , they can't runaway like > > that > > > . They have to provide financial and emotional > > support > > > .. > > > > > > 3. If still they do't support and u want to help > > ur > > > parents - Its ur problem than forget about > > siblings > > > and u need to own this problem WHOLE HEARTEDLY > > FORGET > > > U HAVE SIBLING AT ALL > > > > > > Anil > > > www.thinkastro.com > > > > > > > > > > > > --- nyree n8m8@ wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm > > > > depressed and scared. To > > > > make a long story short, I found out some things > > > > about my family today > > > > that really hurt me. I have been working myself > > to > > > > exhaustion trying to > > > > help my elderly parents while my older siblings > > do > > > > nothing. My parents > > > > know how much I've done for them and still do on > > a > > > > daily basis but they > > > > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I > > > > honestly don't know > > > > where it comes from and I know deep down they > > know > > > > what they're doing > > > > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am > > > > leaving their house > > > > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am > > still > > > > scared for them as > > > > they will get very little help from their older > > > > children and both > > > > parents have health problems. I'm just so > > nervous! > > > > > > > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- > > > > 5:24-5:25 AM > > > > > > > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing > > from > > > > anyone. Hopefully > > > > there is a remedy or something to make things > > > > better? > > > > > > > > Blessings, > > > > > > > > Nyree > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > > > removed] > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Tired of spam? Mail has the best spam > > protection around > > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Dear Nyree, I am casting your chart. You are right there is manipulation going on. You have debilitated Rh in the 2nd house which also hosts A11 (elder siblings). Rh is in Venus's nakshatra and Ve is in Moola nakshatra in purisheeka shashtiamsa. So karma associated with the planets in not good. Also Sa(BK) in in Moon's nakshatra and Mo is in mrityu shashtiamsa and since Rh/Sa Moola dasa is going on, this situation has to be suffered. However, since both Rh and Sa are in good shashtiamsa, the result of this suffering will be positive. My personal advice, move away and take care of yourself emotionally at this time. Your parents will realise in due course of time. Regards Supriti vedic astrology, "nyree" <n8m8 wrote: > > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm depressed and scared. To > make a long story short, I found out some things about my family today > that really hurt me. I have been working myself to exhaustion trying to > help my elderly parents while my older siblings do nothing. My parents > know how much I've done for them and still do on a daily basis but they > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I honestly don't know > where it comes from and I know deep down they know what they're doing > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am leaving their house > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am still scared for them as > they will get very little help from their older children and both > parents have health problems. I'm just so nervous! > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- 5:24-5:25 AM > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing from anyone. Hopefully > there is a remedy or something to make things better? > > Blessings, > > Nyree > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Dear Nyree, You will not be able to leave your old parents no matter what. If you do leave, you will go back, even if you can't think of that now, your concience wont let you. This is as per your chart. In the end, it does not matter who did what, what matters is do your duties without expectations and devotion. Atleast that is what I was taught and am sharing what I was taught. Cheers !!! Ash -> http://www.ashtro.ca vedic astrology, "nyree" <n8m8 wrote: > > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm depressed and scared. To > make a long story short, I found out some things about my family today > that really hurt me. I have been working myself to exhaustion trying to > help my elderly parents while my older siblings do nothing. My parents > know how much I've done for them and still do on a daily basis but they > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I honestly don't know > where it comes from and I know deep down they know what they're doing > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am leaving their house > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am still scared for them as > they will get very little help from their older children and both > parents have health problems. I'm just so nervous! > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- 5:24-5:25 AM > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing from anyone. Hopefully > there is a remedy or something to make things better? > > Blessings, > > Nyree > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Supriti, Thank you. Yes, the situation does only get worse and even in this past day that I've left my parents alone with this older sibling, they are now treating me like they hate me. Wow, what a difference just one day makes when left with the wrong person. Well, what they don't know won't hurt them until they actually get hurt and then I'll probably be called to clean up the mess as usual. Oh, and then they will treat me lovingly again but atleast I'll know better if that does happen. vedic astrology, "Supriti Majumdar" <supriti15 wrote: > > Dear Nyree, > > I am casting your chart. You are right there is manipulation going > on. You have debilitated Rh in the 2nd house which also hosts A11 > (elder siblings). Rh is in Venus's nakshatra and Ve is in Moola > nakshatra in purisheeka shashtiamsa. So karma associated with the > planets in not good. Also Sa(BK) in in Moon's nakshatra and Mo is in > mrityu shashtiamsa and since Rh/Sa Moola dasa is going on, this > situation has to be suffered. However, since both Rh and Sa are in > good shashtiamsa, the result of this suffering will be positive. > > My personal advice, move away and take care of yourself emotionally > at this time. Your parents will realise in due course of time. > > Regards > Supriti > > vedic astrology, "nyree" n8m8@ wrote: > > > > > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm depressed and > scared. To > > make a long story short, I found out some things about my family > today > > that really hurt me. I have been working myself to exhaustion > trying to > > help my elderly parents while my older siblings do nothing. My > parents > > know how much I've done for them and still do on a daily basis but > they > > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I honestly don't know > > where it comes from and I know deep down they know what they're > doing > > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am leaving their house > > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am still scared for them > as > > they will get very little help from their older children and both > > parents have health problems. I'm just so nervous! > > > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- 5:24-5:25 AM > > > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing from anyone. > Hopefully > > there is a remedy or something to make things better? > > > > Blessings, > > > > Nyree > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 Hi Ash, I missed your post. Sorry about that. You are most probably right. It's not within me to let anyone in need suffer but I also think that I will never gain any respect from my family unless they experience what it will be like in my absence. My parents can't live forever. I think what it comes down to is there are many thoughts and emotions running through me right now including that I haven't had enough time with them but more importantly, for some reason they aren't willing to defend me to their elder daughter. They let her have whatever she wants and never put her in her place even when she says the worst things to them. For example, any time my Dad has the most minor thing going on physically, she will tell him that his cancer has come back. She has NEVER been right when she's told him this and I see my Dad sit back in his chair looking sad and defeated every single time she talks to him this way and I feel compelled to boost his mood again and tell him she is wrong and full of it. Anyway, thank you for responding. I really appreciate it. vedic astrology, "ashsam73" <ashsam73 wrote: > > Dear Nyree, > You will not be able to leave your old parents no matter what. If > you do leave, you will go back, even if you can't think of that now, > your concience wont let you. This is as per your chart. > In the end, it does not matter who did what, what matters is do your > duties without expectations and devotion. Atleast that is what I > was taught and am sharing what I was taught. > Cheers !!! > Ash -> http://www.ashtro.ca > > vedic astrology, "nyree" n8m8@ wrote: > > > > > > Life seems to be getting worse each day. I'm depressed and > scared. To > > make a long story short, I found out some things about my family > today > > that really hurt me. I have been working myself to exhaustion > trying to > > help my elderly parents while my older siblings do nothing. My > parents > > know how much I've done for them and still do on a daily basis but > they > > continue to treat me terribly out of nowhere. I honestly don't > know > > where it comes from and I know deep down they know what they're > doing > > isn't fair. Is there anything I can do? I am leaving their house > > today. As much as they treat me badly, I am still scared for them > as > > they will get very little help from their older children and both > > parents have health problems. I'm just so nervous! > > > > January 11, 1973 --- Lakenheath, England --- 5:24-5:25 AM > > > > Thank you very much. I look forward to hearing from anyone. > Hopefully > > there is a remedy or something to make things better? > > > > Blessings, > > > > Nyree > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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