is there any remedy for this too?

[Guest guest]

Guru, many thanks and bless you for excellent advice to Ginie! Much

appreciated. Very kind to you participate in this way and share

personal experiences, provide guidance & insight plus being so

encouraging and uplifting. We are very blessed to have folks like

you

 

Ommmmmm

 

 

 

, "shreeguru"

<shreeguru wrote:

>

> Hi Ginie!

>

> Greetings!

>

> I have experienced many situations like you before, except for

> whatever conflicts you are/may be facing with your spouse (I am

> still single).

>

> From my experience, I in the past even thought of taking revenge

> against all those whom I have been with or helped, because they

have

> betrayed or fooled me like anything. I lost many good friends due

to

> influences of bad friends. You will not believe, the one who hurt

me

> the most in my life is the one I truly accepted as my BEST and

TRUE

> friend. more than anyone/anything. In fact, I feel so shamed to

say

> that I even ignored my prayers, culture and my parents just for

that

> ONE person, as I was always trying to satisfy that ONE person. I

> totally lost everything after 2.5 years of friendship - my name,

my

> fame, my respect and all I got was humiliated!!!!

>

> That is when I began the process of self-realization. I struggled

> almost 6 months understanding myself and my role in this society.

I

> realized all my negative traits/character. I realized I have

> committed many sins realizing/unrealizing. One of the biggest sins

I

> committed was ignorance. Ignoring other important aspects of life

> merely for a benefit of ONE person (FRIENDSHIP), to whom I have

> UTMOST trust was something I truly regreted. The entire process of

> self-realization ONLY came into me once I resumed seeking God's

> help. Lord Ganesha has been my ishta devata since the very

> beginning. I went back to him, and asked him to change me for the

> better and forgive me if I have really done something wrong. He

did!

> He truly did. Ever since I resumed my prayers, I began to realize

> myself completely. I got back my old good friends, my family, my

> fame, name, a reputable position in my company, etc. Most

> importantly, I got back God's Love.

>

> I truly believe the BEST FRIEND in this world is GOD. He is our

> father (Just like your dad), He is our mother (Just like your

mum),

> He is your boss/teacher/guru (Just like your

employer/guru/teacher),

> He is your friend, He is your philosopher, guide, and everything.

He

> is always there to create and remove obstacles in your life. Why

he

> creates obstacles? He wants us to experience GOOD challenges in

life

> to strenghten ourselves for the better. It is through obstacles we

> shape and reshape our lives to be a better person everyday! Thus,

> whatever you are facing today or recently are merely obstacles to

> help you realize yourself and make you a better person.

>

> Just follow the following principles, and it makes your life a

> worthy one to live!

>

> - Dont compare. Comparison creates jealousy, envy, frustration. If

> you need, you may compete in a positive way to succeed!

Competition

> is good, but only good if it follows the path of dharma.

> - Love yourself and those who love you wholeheartedly. True love

and

> affection will never break. If it does, it is NOT TRUE LOVE (Love

of

> any kind)

> - Believe in God. Prayers are always answered if they are sincere.

> - Faith in your religion as it teaches or guides you the path of

> dharma/righteousness. Even if you are a freethinker/atheist good

> deeds and path are inevitable

> - Respect the thoughts of others as all thoughts are right/correct

> in their perspective. Dont try to change the world or others as

this

> is not possible. Only change yourself to adapt to the environment.

> You will see the difference. Think of a chameleon. It changes

color

> to adapt to different environment so it doesnt get preyed!

> - Lastly, practice simplicity. Take or Seek what you NEED instead

of

> what you want. Control your desires, it will lead you to a path

> which is fulfilled with abundance joy and happiness. Materialism

> should be avoided

>

> Ginie, I am in no way trying to be a philosopher here or a

dictator.

> I am merely sharing with you what I did to change my life to be a

> better person. I truly believe realizing yourself will really help

> you!

>

> Sorry for the long one!

>

> Just my 2 cents

>