is there any remedy for this too?

[Guest guest]

Hi Ginie!

 

Greetings!

 

I have experienced many situations like you before, except for

whatever conflicts you are/may be facing with your spouse (I am

still single).

 

>From my experience, I in the past even thought of taking revenge

against all those whom I have been with or helped, because they have

betrayed or fooled me like anything. I lost many good friends due to

influences of bad friends. You will not believe, the one who hurt me

the most in my life is the one I truly accepted as my BEST and TRUE

friend. more than anyone/anything. In fact, I feel so shamed to say

that I even ignored my prayers, culture and my parents just for that

ONE person, as I was always trying to satisfy that ONE person. I

totally lost everything after 2.5 years of friendship - my name, my

fame, my respect and all I got was humiliated!!!!

 

That is when I began the process of self-realization. I struggled

almost 6 months understanding myself and my role in this society. I

realized all my negative traits/character. I realized I have

committed many sins realizing/unrealizing. One of the biggest sins I

committed was ignorance. Ignoring other important aspects of life

merely for a benefit of ONE person (FRIENDSHIP), to whom I have

UTMOST trust was something I truly regreted. The entire process of

self-realization ONLY came into me once I resumed seeking God's

help. Lord Ganesha has been my ishta devata since the very

beginning. I went back to him, and asked him to change me for the

better and forgive me if I have really done something wrong. He did!

He truly did. Ever since I resumed my prayers, I began to realize

myself completely. I got back my old good friends, my family, my

fame, name, a reputable position in my company, etc. Most

importantly, I got back God's Love.

 

I truly believe the BEST FRIEND in this world is GOD. He is our

father (Just like your dad), He is our mother (Just like your mum),

He is your boss/teacher/guru (Just like your employer/guru/teacher),

He is your friend, He is your philosopher, guide, and everything. He

is always there to create and remove obstacles in your life. Why he

creates obstacles? He wants us to experience GOOD challenges in life

to strenghten ourselves for the better. It is through obstacles we

shape and reshape our lives to be a better person everyday! Thus,

whatever you are facing today or recently are merely obstacles to

help you realize yourself and make you a better person.

 

Just follow the following principles, and it makes your life a

worthy one to live!

 

- Dont compare. Comparison creates jealousy, envy, frustration. If

you need, you may compete in a positive way to succeed! Competition

is good, but only good if it follows the path of dharma.

- Love yourself and those who love you wholeheartedly. True love and

affection will never break. If it does, it is NOT TRUE LOVE (Love of

any kind)

- Believe in God. Prayers are always answered if they are sincere.

- Faith in your religion as it teaches or guides you the path of

dharma/righteousness. Even if you are a freethinker/atheist good

deeds and path are inevitable

- Respect the thoughts of others as all thoughts are right/correct

in their perspective. Dont try to change the world or others as this

is not possible. Only change yourself to adapt to the environment.

You will see the difference. Think of a chameleon. It changes color

to adapt to different environment so it doesnt get preyed!

- Lastly, practice simplicity. Take or Seek what you NEED instead of

what you want. Control your desires, it will lead you to a path

which is fulfilled with abundance joy and happiness. Materialism

should be avoided

 

Ginie, I am in no way trying to be a philosopher here or a dictator.

I am merely sharing with you what I did to change my life to be a

better person. I truly believe realizing yourself will really help

you!

 

Sorry for the long one!

 

Just my 2 cents