is there any remedy for this too?

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Ginie, the remedy and answer actually lays within you. Sroll

below......

 

 

, "ginie"

<icysingh wrote:

>

> Namaste every body

> This has been happening to me always.

 

>From time to time, everyone experiences this sort of thing such as

friends who ostracize or isolate us and do not include us in their

activities. Sometimes so-called friends outgrow us and vice versa.

Whatever the reasons or causes, take a back seat, let it be so and

relax. Don't dwell on these things or they would impact on your nervous

system in detrimental way.

 

When iwas doing job, was in

> college, this happened. Now in neighbourhood too. I become popular

> first,

 

Is being popular important to you?

 

they want to include me evry where, immediately after that in

> surrounding there will be one person who will start doing some things

> against me , like if i want to call people my home for get together

> this woman will start immediately why does she want to do that?

 

Its out of her jealousy and envy.

 

If i invite people for puja, she starts oh, the other neighbour does

very

> good every day. If i am helping one neighbour ,she will come there &

> take over of the things what initially i was doing for my friend. If

any

> neighbour wants to ask me some advice medically(i am in medical field)

> she will ask them why they are asking me about it

 

Again its jealousy and envy.

 

,that other people do not come, talk to me & i totally get ignored by

people with in one day. I get so much stressed out because within one

day i loose all my

> labour to make friends get ruined every time, in the end no body talks

> to me, i become loner, they ignore me, but still tell me that they

went

> together some where, or had fun .

 

These things happen to many people around the world. You are not the

only one. Take comfort that you can MAKE FRIENDS WTH GOD instead.

 

Doesn't matter why they tell you where they went or how they had fun.

You can create your own fun, joy and enjoyment by doing puja, sadhana,

going to places you like by yourself or with your kids and relatives,

father or mother. Why not give them some fun instead of wanting to have

fun with so-called friends? Family is more important. Parents are

utmost important too.

 

 

> What should i do for that. If i ignore them ,it does not bother them

at all, they are still together.

 

Let go of them. Let things be. Then you will feel less stressed. They

are not true friends. What is the use to have false friends?

 

 

> What can help me to to get my friends back, to stay with all ,so that

> i can also enjoy with them.

 

Do you really want to enjoy with false friends?

 

But this never happens. I can not just be happy with myself, with my

hobbies, you need people to talk to you.

 

Talking to God by doing religious acitivities and going to temple is

better than talking to people for "talking's sake" which is pointless.

At temple, you wlll meet better people, make new friends who can help

you soothe your troubles.

 

My husband does not talk to any body. He has no enthusiasm towards

life like other woman's husband who take them out for weekends to

different places. He always says he does not know. Go with them.

 

Does your husband work? If he works, then he has his own stress to deal

with, his own troubles that he can't share with you or tell you in case

you give him negative remarks. Maybe he has difficult job and difficult

colleagues that he has to handle everyday. His has to perform his job

well so when he returns home, he is EXHAUSTED. If wife does not make

him comfortable or give him comfort or reassuring words to ease his

stress, what is there to talk about with you?

 

Don't compare your husband with other women's husbands becos you should

begin to see the good in him and count your blessings in the sense that

there is no domestic violence. There are so many women out there in the

world who are worse off than you. Some are homeless due to domestic

violence and other factors from malicious husbands. Count yourself

lucky that at least, you still have a roof over your head and your kids

with you AT HOME.

 

H e does not like to do any thing at home.

 

Any man who is frustrated, tired and depressed about work and home,

wouldn't feel inclined to do anything around the house. They need to

rest and recover their energies whether physically, emotionally or

mentally. Suggest that you try to understand your husband's needs and

personal requirements. There's obviously a communication breakdown in

your marital relationship. Why not have a discussion with him GENTLY

when he is in good mood? Then you can both sort issues out.

 

He sleeps untill 3 in night, gets up 2 in afternoon , just want food,

will find some things to shout at me about

> my son , sits on tv again. Thats how he kills all weekends,

longweekends,

 

He is frustrated at everything: home, work, outside, parents, duties,

relatives, friends, etc. He has great stress. Watching tv takes his

mind off his troubles and gives him relaxation. Its one of the ways some

men deal with "escaping from reality". You can't really blame him for

this. He is entitled to some relaxation time or even some "escapism

time". Also count yourself lucky that he doesn't go out by himself

somewhere or with his friends and leave you at home for a whole weekend.

 

This is my life, a hell.

 

No, its not hell. Its called living thru karma. Maybe you should do

some dharma and seva. This will help erase negative karma done during

previous lifetimes.

 

 

> i really wnat to have life what can i do?

 

Many things to do. Just suggestions only....... Firstly examine

yourself, look in mirror. Ask yourself honest question whether you

suffer depression. If yes, seek advice from psychologist. There is

something called "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy" and this is a good start

for you to regain some joy in your life.

 

Its 40 days i am wearing

> rudraksh 5,6 8,9,11,12,2(2) ,GS ,but these things have not changed.

 

Generally people say 40 days, 45 days, etc. Generally I say 45 to 90

days and this is with chanting relevant mantras, doing puja and sadhana

with BHAKTI to reap positive outcomes. Have you done mantras, puja and

sadhana?

 

For some people, it can take longer than 90 days -- it all depends on

karmas created during this life or in past lives. If you are Hindu, you

should understand the principles of Karma, Dharma, Bhakti and Seva.

 

Then I think nothing can change a destiny. But still all advices are

welcomed .

 

 

Do not lose faith or hope. Things will change when you least expect

them to! Destiny is part God, part cosmos, part planetary influences

and partly self-infflicted.

 

Pray and make offerings to Lord Ganesha to remove the cobwebs from your

eyes and soul. He will make you see wisdom and guide you toward

successfully removing obstacles and troubles. If you have affinity with

Lord Ganesha, His Ganas and Mushika will work quicker. If not, then

patience will pay off if you keep praying to Him. There is no quick fix

from Ganapatiji -- He only gives and helps in accordance with your

Akashic Records.

 

Wishing you good luck.

 

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